Am i a pedophile?

Question

Im 15 and I'm attracted to little girls... Is this normal for someone my age? What do i do? Am I a pedophile?

I've never done anything like touched then in places or anything, I can control myself.. i just have fantasies about them, and I can't help it. Please don't just say "go to a therapist" because this isn't going to help me.. I need to know if this is normal.. will i get over it?

This all stared around age 12 and has continued untill now. I don't want to go to a shrink, im afraid of what will happen.. like they'll report me or something, i dont know..

is there something _I_ can do to stop this, like on my own? i don't want my parents to know becuase i dont know what they will think or say.. im afraid to ask anyone and i think this is a good place to ask because i rally dont know anyone..

thank you alot in advance.

Please, i really dont want to be called Micheal Jackson, its not helping me at all.

PS: to whoever that was that said i dont speak like a 15 year old, you are correct. i try not to speak like my age group because they all speak like complete idiots.

not exactly details, but it will help me

age group 9 & above

mooore info:

this is what wikipedia says, so stop being so harsh.
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The APA's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders 4th edition, Text Revision gives the following as its "Diagnostic criteria for 302.2 Pedophilia"[21] :

* Over a period of at least 6 months, recurrent, intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors involving sexual activity with a prepubescent child or children (generally age 13 years or younger).
* The person has acted on these urges, or the sexual urges or fantasies cause marked distress or interpersonal difficulty.
* The person is at least age 16 years and at least 5 years older than the child or children in Criterion A.

Note: Do not include an individual in late adolescence involved in an ongoing sexual relationship with a 12 or 13-year-old.
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Answer 1

Why try to stop it?
Legally, you're fine[until you turn18 and do the same thing]
At your age, it could be construed as normal exploration.
By the time you are 17 if it continues, try a Menatal Health counselor

Answer 2

Umm. When you say little, do you mean under 5? If so, you've got a serious problem. Do you feel a lack of control in your life? Do you have urges to dominate young children? Do you find their bodies attractive or just their age, innocence and vulnerability?

I can't decide if you are, by definition, a pedophile. At 15, I wasn't thinking and acting as an adult, but at 15, I knew right from wrong.

You stated that you didn't want to hear "go to a therapist" but that is the only advice I can honestly give you. Do it before you end up in jail for hurting what is essentially a baby.

Answer 3

You are young. Probably you will soon get a girlfriend of your age and all that will go away.

Now, what I'm going to say something I hope you never forget:

FANTASIES ARE JUST A FANTASIES, KEEP THEM AS THEY ARE.

I don't have your problem, but I believe that all people have at least some fantasy that probably are not acceptable in a society.
Just try to keep things in that way.

You are not a freak, unless you start acting like a pedophile.
Is good for you to speak with about this. If you have a good relation with your father or mother you can speak to any of them.

You are 15, too young, so I'm sure you will find help. You are in time, and is very honorable form your part to ask about this and try to find a solution.

Answer 4

no, this is not normal. sexual fantasies about small children are not normal no matter what your age. first of all, i am so glad that you can control yourself. that is the first step. you need to tell yourself that it isnt right to fantasize about little kids. you can help yourself just by not letting it happen. try to start thinking about girls your own age. maybe find a girlfriend. if you really cant stop the fantasies, i honestly would suggest a therapist. i understand why you dont want to go to one, but i promise they will not report you. you haven't done anything wrong. work on it yourself first, but if you can't stop it, a doctor would be your best bet.

Hope I've helped you in some way.

Answer 5

YOu probably aren't a pedophile, but your attraction is not okay. An attraction like this leads to urges, which eventually you may act upon. i don't think you can help yourself; however, I do think you could approach your parents and tell them you would like to seek counseling for something that you'd prefer not to discus with them. Whatever hell they put you through trying to find out your issues (which a counselor will never divulge) will be far less horrid than living with the fact that you violated a child - stop it now whicle you still can. NEither you nor a child deserves to have their innocence stripped. And, I'm proud of you for asking. That means you want help.

Answer 6

Yes. What you describe falls under the description of pedophile.

For now try avoiding situations where you have these thoughts, and when you do have them try to change the subject.

Please do get help when the urge to act gets close to unbearable.

Acting on these fantasies has to be avoided at all cost, it'll destroy you and an innocent.

Answer 7

until you act on these feelings, you are just a confused child. The moment you actually touch a young girl, you become a pedophile. Please talk to someone about this, you need help. Try to channel your thoughts into something constructive, such as building model cars or actually working on them. Fantasies are normal as long as they stay in your head and don't become reality.

Answer 8

Really, you're not a pedophile until you *touch* a child. Fantasies are fine. They don't harm children and they leave you feeling good. As long as your fantasies stay fantasies, then there's nothing wrong.

Answer 9

Ask yourself if you fit the definition of pedophile.

In the United States and some other countries, the term pedophile is frequently used also to denote significantly older adults who are sexually attracted to adolescents[1], as well as those who have sexually abused a child. In countries where the legal age of consent is lower, like France or Brazil, the mainstream media avoid using the terms pedophilia or pedophile to refer to consented relationships between adults and adolescents.

ped·o·phile n.
An adult who is sexually attracted to a child or children.

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pedo·philic (-flk) adj.

Answer 10

This is your mother. Get down stairs.
We need to have a talk. We need to
check you into a really good therapist,
and we are going to change your name
to Michael Jackson since you like little
children oh so much!

Answer 11

If you realy conroling your self , then wait until 18-20 y.o. or active sexual live. If nothing changed - sorry , but - to therapist.