She is my first love. My family reject our relationship so I have no choice. I'm looking for any advice to help me to broke up with my girlfriend without hurting her feelings. I didnt have sex with her before. Is it easier for me to broke up with her?
2006-07-15 17:56:29 · 15 answers · asked by (^^meoden1005^^) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
LoL... i don't know what to say.. there's no way u can break up w/ someone WITHOUT hurting them!!! even if u were the biggest jerk to make her leave you, it still hurts her. (a LOT of guys do that. it's cowardly and makes the girl feel really bad, cuz u can't understand why the person changed their mind and is now treating u like crap all of a sudden...girl starts blaming herself, feeling like crap, etc =T) and if she finds out later that u loved her but broke it off for other reasons, it hurts EVEN MORE!! so ur pretty much screwed either way.
i think in the end, honesty is the best policy. tell her that it's because of your family, and that if it was your choice you would be with her. most likely she can't understand because you are allowing other people to judge her and force you to dump her, but hopefully she can understand that you obviously have family duties that are more important to you. in the end, you are choosing what your priorities are, and obviously she is not #1 on your list...and she deserves someone who DOES put her #1 on their list...... maybe u can tell her that she deserves better, because right now your are bound to your family for whatever reasons, and she wouldn't want a bf/husband who would listen to his family/friends other than his own feelings. NO disrespect to u either.. many people are in that position, and there must be some reason why ur parents are so against her. but u say u love her...but u don't love her enough to keep her. and she needs to move on and find someone who loves her unconditionally, no outside pressures able to change it.
2006-07-15 18:10:04 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There may be no gentle way to break up with your girlfriend without hurting her. Explain to her that you have no choice and parents are controling that decisionbut also let her know you do care about her. You never know, maybe later on down the road, your parents may have a change of heart and approve. Tell her a friendship would mean alot to you to keepin touch. If it was meant to be, it will be. Good luck
2006-07-15 18:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by tiffani72kmg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if it true love then stay with her even if your family is rejecting it. If you can't give a reason of why you must break-up with her then the only thing you are going to do is hurt her feelings. First break-ups always hurt man. Think about it.
2006-07-15 18:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by Tony D. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So..I'm guessing you guys were not intimate.That should make things easier. you may tell her something like you guys need a break and just never go back together again then move on. It may hurt her at first but soon she will feel better and probably start dating again before you do.
2006-07-15 18:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by Donna M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you should care what your family thinks on a subject like that. If you really loves someone you should be with them no matter what the circumstances are. But if you are still willing to break up with her just tell her the truth hopefully she will understand.
2006-07-15 18:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by nicole24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not possible NOT to hurt her with this news, but you can minimize the hurt by being honest. Tell her the real reasons, tell her you're sorry, and tell her it's really over-- don't be wishy-washy and leave her thinking there may still be a chance if you know there really isn't. Like a band-aid, my friend. . . you just have to rip it off.
2006-07-15 18:02:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to break up with her is to just be honest with her. There is no way you can break up with her and have it not hurt . So the best way is to be honest. It will hurt but she will get over that pain in time..
2006-07-15 18:02:37 · answer #7 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do u perents not like her? if u are truly in love with her who the **** cares about what ur famliy thinks. its ur life and if u do choice to break up with her tell her the whole truth and talk about it and just be like my famliy for ssome reson dose not approve of us and i love u and i don't want this to be over but idk what else to do cuz i don't want my perents to be mad at me but i love u.... or somthing like that anmd just see how she feels thwere is not easy way out of this she is ganna get hurt if she truly loves u but hay the first love hurts the most1
2006-07-15 18:05:08 · answer #8 · answered by countrybitc89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it will hurt her no matter what, but try to just be honest with her & explain the situation.
2006-07-15 18:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just come out and be honest and since when do you listen to your parents... then i guess you dont love her... but anyways... your should just tell her that you would just like to be friends
2006-07-15 18:00:43 · answer #10 · answered by *~Rachel~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋