advice on the first time?

Question

So, me and boyfriend have been dating for 2 years. We both feel that we are ready to have sex for the first time. Please consider that we are both virgins. Uhm, we just want some good advice on making the first time the best that it can be for both of us.



Like what position is the most comfortable, tips on penetration, etc.



Thank you.



Heather

By the way, I am eighteen years old and he is turning twenty in September.

Answer 1

I hate to break it to you, but the first time won't be the best. It will hurt a bit and be over before you'd like it to be especially since you are both virgins. Concentrate on alot of foreplay and take your time and don't evpect too much. the fact that you waited so long says that you must really have strong feelings and respect for eachother. With time you will be having an awesome time learning together and being honest with eachother. Make sure to tell eachother what feels good and bad. Have fun and use protection because unwanted pregnancy will really put a dmaper on things and strain your relationship. Good luck to you both.

Answer 2

Okay. be sure that you really want to loose your viginity with this guy. I'm sure your going to hear this a lot.. but it's a very important tip. You cant get it back! Also be prepared to have a kid with this man, having sex can cause this... are you ready for that? Will he make a good dad? Girl you got to make sure of all of these things before you jump in the sack. Since your a vigin you will want to keep things simple, because they will NOT last long to begin with. I'm talkin a matter of seconds. Things tend to move quickly for the first time. So I recommend the missionary style which is you on the bottom and him on the top. Also be sure that your both comfortable.. don't make it an ackward moment. Make sure its not planned and that it happens at that special moment instead of a planned moment. Be prepared for it not to feel good, it dosen't feel great the first thru say 10 times. Most women do bleed a little the first time and there is a little pain. Be sure that your guy is going to be gentle with you, and will stick around for the next time! Have fun and don't stress it... Be sure to use protection!

Answer 3

If it's true love, no tips on penetration are needed. It just happens amazingly. Within the bounds of marriage, you'll feel so free and united by it - it's amazing the power of sex within a marriage. Outside of marriage - it tends to breed doubts, issues, pain. When you're heart is in the right place, you don't need a manual - and it's outstanding. If it's just so planned and strategic and researched - you're hurting the whole romantic element of it and what it can be between the two of you is more than it could be from having tips, reading a manual or taking suggestions. It's developing a oneness between 2 people that is mystical and beautiful and it just doesn't work the same outside of marriage or when you try to figure out how it will work best by studying the anatomy of sex.

Answer 4

God, don't go into it thinking "this is it!" Just tell yourselves that you won't, won't, WON'T let it happen. And then it'll be so much better for you both. Just let it happen naturally. If you have a game plan you're going to ruin everything! Remember that it's the first time and it won't be great because like everything else in life, practice makes perfect and you'll get better each time. It's not about performance, it's about pleasing each other and sharing the greatest gift humanity has. Sex can be wonderful or a huge headache depending on how you think about it. Enjoy! (p.s. birth control is a no-brainer)

Answer 5

All the guys in the (coffee) bar say;

Wait until you're married.
Take it easy, it's not rocket science.
Go slow, rushing never helps anything.
Foreplay is essential, especially for virgins. Seduce each other.
Don't be afraid to get a little silly if things don't go as planned.

But mostly, the first time is never essentailly "perfect" and it takes time and practice to become a skilled lover; as they say, Rome wasn't built in a day. Just strip down, and see what happens from there.

Answer 6

Just take it easy. The first time for the female will hurt until the speed is at a fast pace. Just relax and remember that the setting is very important. Make sure you both are comfortable and relaxed...With positions...just keep it the old fashion way...that's the best especially for the first time. It's easy and not very complicated...Good luck...and remember to use protection.

Answer 7

Don't do it in a car!!!!!! That is the most important rule! If you must do it in some sort of vehicle I vote for a van or Ford Explorer with the back seat down. Also just make sure you start off really slow and easy. Well Good luck! and Congrats on Waiting thus far! Some people don't make it that far! I give yall major props for that!

Answer 8

The most important is to make love and enjoy each others, do not think about any position now, just think to enjoy and feel each other body, together you can find the best position that makes both of you crazy in bed, Good Luck

Answer 9

What's been taking you so long to do this...Just do it, really the sooner you do it the better you will feel without the stress of it.

Have a nice dinner, go to a private place (empty house or hotel) and massage each other and enjoy it. The missionary position is probably best for the first time.

Answer 10

Yeah i absolutely agree with everyone on waiting until u r married!!!!.... it is so much better becuase u wont have to be worried about getting pregnant and also i am a firm believing christian and i believe that u should not have sex b4 marriage it is also against the ten commandments...
God Bless