We went out once before and he cheated on me...now he's being really sweet and I can't help it, but I think I still love him even though he hurt me. Should I take the chance that he's changed? How would I go about telling him this...?
2006-07-15 17:30:36 · 22 answers · asked by Mafia Princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Went out once meaning we dated for over 6 months...
2006-07-15 17:35:25 · update #1
I have done that and they do not stop cheating and it will always be in the back of your mind. So, have fun with him if you want to date and talk to him--just do not give him your heart and do not let him know that you are wildly in love with him again. That gives him power and you should be the one with that. So act mature and do not be too available and don't act too excited around him. Let him earn his time with you and work to get back to you if he is truly being honest and has changed. Don't give him intimacy for awhile either--unless you just want to use him. I would not since you don't know where he has been. Personally, I truly believe that this would be a waste of your time. But I also understand that sometimes it takes this type of thing to understand that and to give you proper closure with your old flame. I think that closure is so important and I regret not having that closure with one of my past boyfriends. You always wish that you could really tell them what you think and to just say goodbye once and for all. Good luck and do what is best for you.
2006-07-15 17:40:14 · answer #1 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You went out ONCE and he cheated on you and you think you love him? You don't see anything wrong with that picture? If you can, talk to an older woman about this, because you are really missing the boat about dating, cheating and love. Get going and good luck!
2006-07-16 00:34:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you turst him enough to take him back then do it. But if you don't then you need to stand your ground. I'm not gonna tell you that once a cheater always a cheater crap beacause it sn't true for all guys. He may have learned from his mistake. And besides if you love him like you say you do take the chance isn't that what love is all about?
2006-07-16 00:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by Nic M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever u do don't go back out with him. If u do tat he'll know ur soft spot and take advantage of u. If u go back out with him he'll do the same thing again. Men usually do. If he really loved u he would have never cheated.
2006-07-16 00:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by JoJo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for me its not nice to give second chances to guys,for me once they cheated, I should forget them. You said you still like the guy, but think twice. Any girls don't like being cheated.
2006-07-16 00:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by Yenyen San 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be too hard on yourself for still having feelings for him, but at the same time, don't jump back in. He doesn't deserve your trust just yet. If he REALLY wants you back, and if he's REALLY changed, he'll be willing to work for it a little! If you must tell him something, tell him you still care about him but you don't trust him enough for another relationship yet until he can prove he's worth it.
2006-07-16 00:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Get over him and find a man that will treat you with the respect you deserve.
2006-07-16 00:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by Annette R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to know more guys. It is the best options. Have you had sex on you already, then this could quite troublesome. If not try somebody else, but before you do it, don't put your feeling into it unless you are very sure that he is the one. Have a nice day.
2006-07-16 00:34:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't in love with this guy if you went out with him once. He hasn't changed he'll do it again. Keep looking for a guy who is worth your time.
2006-07-16 00:36:04 · answer #9 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The chances of your guy of straying again will be the same,some men never change,and are always looking for greener pastures,move on and forget this guy,he will just hurt you again
2006-07-16 00:34:38 · answer #10 · answered by ken m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋