i know when things bother him but he wont voice whats wrong with him. he says he loves me but he doesnt trust me. what can i do to get him to open up??? i've already explained to him that it hurts when he shuts me out and theres no way for us to move forward if we are never on the same page with one another and " up to par " with each other. help????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-15 17:23:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To get him to open up, don't push the subject. It will usually make him close off from you more. Instead, tell him that when he is ready, you will listen. Men tend to say that they have 'trust issues' about things like this. It is a cop-out. They really just don't know how to say what they need to say. Most males have been raised to keep quiet about thier inner fellings so it is hard for them to open up. And not just to thier girls, but to anyone. It know it sucks that he won't voice his emotions to you, but be patient. He'll come around.
2006-07-15 17:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by cassybartelme@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sometimes it is hard for a guy to express feelings to his girl. Try and let him come to you. He might realize the mistake he is making if you start to convey that in the way you interact with him.
If you think you are putting more into this relationship than he is, you probably are. He might be at a turning point in his life where a relationship is not what he needs. Remember to love someone is to trust them they co-exist and cannot be 1 without the other.
Has he ever been in love to know that he loves you?
Depending on how mature he is, he might not know what Love is. Next time he says he loves you, tell him what does love mean? Do you love me because you can't trust me?
I know them are fighting words but if you want this to work you have to break him down and let him know you are a woman and have no time to play when your heart is at stake.
Silence is what keeps couples apart. Trust is what brings then together . .
Trust is what keeps both of you faithful, safe, happy and In Love. Without trust, it is not true love and if there is no love then there is no relationship.
Take Care-
2006-07-15 18:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by Boy Toy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Just be patient. Relationships are always hotter at first. He'll withdrawn. Try to find a way to reel him back in though. He can't get too distant. There is nothing wrong you though. Don't make that mistake. It's most likely all his fault.
2016-03-16 00:25:33 · answer #3 · answered by Pamela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your boyfriend is hiding something from you. I just broke up with my boyfriend about 5 hours ago, because I took the truth out of him. Tell him "I feel like there is something you are hiding from me...and I need you to tell me." He might say "no baby...there's nothing wrong." like mine said. But no matter how much he denies it...he means the opposite. All men are like that!
2006-07-15 17:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slowly try to win his trust by "de-ice-ifying" his heart. Show him that u truley care what's going on with him. Always be loving and excepting. I'm sure he'll come around. Some guys just dont want to REALLY open up. It takes time and love. Dont worry my dear, he'll come around! :)
Good luck!
2006-07-15 17:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by Viola Dragon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he doesn't trust you then he doesn't love you as much as he says he does. Make sure you tell him everything and when ever he shuts you can bring up the fact that you tell him everything and never shut him out.
2006-07-15 17:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by A-Town Soulja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's called "passive-aggressive" behavior...by "clamming up" and pouting he gets a response from you and can control you and the relationship.
Ask ONCE, "What's bothering you, babe?" Then if he won't be HONEST then leave him alone until he behaves more OPENLY.
don't REWARD bad behavior...he needs to learn to express his hurts or he'll turn into a raging, angry person...
2006-07-15 17:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO FIND OUT WHY HE DOESN'T TRUST YOU
THAT WHAT IT SOUND LIKE, AND THEN GO FROM THERE
HAVE YOU GIVEN HIM A REASON NOT TO TRUST YOU.? THAT MAY BE WHY YOU ARE NOT ON THE SAME PAGE.
2006-07-15 17:30:11 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wont talk to you on a saturday night or in general?? either way he aint feelin u no more he probabably found sum1 who looks better!
2006-07-15 17:54:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋