my boyfriend says he's in love but at the same time he doesn't fully trust me. he thinks he's gonna get bad carma because of what he used to do to girls. how can i make him see i'm not "carma" im just in love with him?
2006-07-15 17:16:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well... in a relationship trust is a must, how could one say that you love him/her if he/she doesn't trust the one he/she use to love.. it's not love anymore, if you really love a person their is a process where you and your b.f has been creating a trust for each other..... if its starts, it is also a start of good relationship.
2006-07-15 17:26:55 · answer #1 · answered by areis_91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there C.A.T!.,
I would start by asking you what will you benefit by him telling you that he fully trusts you? If you really like him don't push him to trust you, just let it happen naturally. If you remain by his side that will be proof enough that he can trust you. Try not to listen to how modern relationships work these days. I say that because what people now days consider to be a relationship is really nothing more then a "fling". My best advice to you would be to find an older women that's at least around 70-80 years of age and sit with them and talk about relationships,love,marriage and all of the things that's on your mind that involves being with a man.
P.S. 1-2 years is not enough time to say you know someone to the point of marrying them!
2006-07-16 00:39:23 · answer #2 · answered by BeenThereDoneThat! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, because this guy came to you with a bit of old luggage! And he is bringing it into YOUR relationship with him. Sad really, as he cannot see that this is a totally different thing and that you are NOT his previous relationships. In fact, if he doesn't watch it, he could in effect bring about the every thing he is so obsessively avoiding! Do you think you could get him to SEE this? The success of your relations with this guy really depend on how clever you can be handling him with this problem. Wishing you every success in getting this sorted![You might point out to him that what he is doing might be described as "inspection before the fact" meaning, he's putting something there when there is NOTHING there! And there is a big difference between the definition of love, and trust. Get him to look up BOTH definitions, and this too might help]
2006-07-16 00:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by Tash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found out that people who don't trust others actually have a problem trusting themselves. One guy I dated for three years always told me he couldn't fully trust me, like your guy is saying to you. I knew I wouldn't cheat or hurt him, but he just did not believe me. In the end, I found out he had cheated on me a half a year into our relationship. Because he never told me about it, he had a paranoid feeling towards me, like I could not be trusted. If your man is that worried about "karma", tell him he should be. It always comes back to you.
2006-07-16 00:25:54 · answer #4 · answered by cassybartelme@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think a relationship can work without trust, honesty and communication. All three are essential to a relationship. If you don't fully trust someone, I don't think it's possible to love them either.
2006-07-16 00:21:15 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife hasn't fully trusted men, either. She was "smart" enough not to tell me until after the kids came. Now I can please her faithfully.
Karma is an excuse for those who don't have an legitimate alibi.
He's either still hurt from the past or a little jealous.
2006-07-16 00:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's spelled Karma and if he has cheated on girls in the past, maybe someone will cheat on him. Maybe it won't be you, but who needs to be needled all the time about something you aren't even doing? I hear that if you accuse a person of something they haven't even done, enough times, they will find a way to do it. That is Karma.
2006-07-16 00:26:21 · answer #7 · answered by 0000000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes but the man will throw the trust issue up in your face every time he get supicious.
2006-07-16 00:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by Tramelia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
..that's just an "excuse" for being insecure and jealous.
....you're getting sucked into an unhealthy game.
...it's NOT your job to "prove" you're trustworthy. His FEAR comes from HIM, not your BEHAVIOR, so don't do anything different unless it's to get him to talk about his true self-esteem problems.
2006-07-16 00:26:54 · answer #9 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is something that comes in time. you cant prove it all you can do is wait it out it takes allot of time to earn trust
2006-07-16 00:22:59 · answer #10 · answered by zoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋