my partner is depressed because he was told he's fat?

Question

no jokes, cynical or sarcastic remarks, please. this is serious. my partner has problems losing weight and he was upset because last night, someone told him that he's fat. He is easily depressed and has low self esteem. How can I help him to eliminate his depression? what are the positive things that I can say to him? I have plans of enrolling both of us in a gym and I know he wants to do it too, but right now, I need to talk to him out of his depression. Please help me ...

Answer 1

why should he care about what someone else says, they don't care about him or pay his bills. you should go to a gym though because you don't want him to get diabetes or something worse. your body is just a shell. everyone is the same inside, except for the jerk who said he was fat. shine it on you'll forget about the jerk and he'll go on to intimidate someone else.

Answer 2

Hypnosis, seriously, you have to short circuit his beliefs about his self image. You can download hypnosis MP3s, they cost from $9 on up, shop around. The same with losing weight, my wife has lost 30 lbs via hypnosis, without dieting, being cranky, or exercising, the scales don't lie. He just has to listen to them once a day, minimum, before going to bed is fine, with or without headsets. It could take two to six weeks before it fully kicks in, but usually you will see some improvements the first time around. Depression is a state of mind, his perceptions of what is real and or imagined. I know it's very hard to see someone you care for suffering. Advertising (advert lieing) is cruel, saying your a nobody unless you have rock hard abs, white teeth, and a tan. TV commercials constantly beat up a person over this. I will pray for him too, that he has "peace and comfort," he doesn't have to be particularly religious, just to know allot of people do ask God to give peace and comfort to those that are suffering. Please try the hypnosis, try self esteem or depression, as well as weight loss topics. If he has trouble with random thoughts interfering while listening, tell him to imagine they are like a log jam on a river, and to let them pass without thinking about them. Overweight or thin, he is (everyone is) the same great, lovable person they are, no matter what the scales say. God bless both of you.

Answer 3

Start a good diet and exercise program: even if the exercise is walking for 40 minutes each day. Focus on the positive side of this: How this is a wakeup call and for this good reason you both will change to a healthier active lifestyle beginning today.

Maybe, if you have a digital camera, take some "before" pictures. Post them on your refrigerator door if that would motivate you both to keep it up.

Answer 4

Be supportive. Yes, be his workout, weight loss buddy, but just be supportive. Boost his self esteem. Tell him all the things that you think are great about him; try to get his attention away from his weight, which is obviously bothering him.

Low self esteem is hard to overcome. Somewhere, someone told him he was not worthy, and no matter how many times you tell him he is, whoever told him he isn't is going to make more of an impact. But keep trying--being supportive and boosting him up will do more for him in the long run.

Answer 5

Homeopathic Treatment for Excessive Fat and Weight :-
PHYTOLACCA BERRY's Mother Tincture is perhaps the safest and sure fire way of loosing excessive fat around abdomen. With Phytolacca Berry once you loose the excessive fat and weight you don't get it back because you body takes care of itself after that and keeps you from gathering up excessive fat. It is prescribed after having a baby too, to get the tummy to loose its flab and to make it flatter and tighter. And after loosing weight with this you don't get flabby it tightens up the flab and skin along with helping your body to shed the excessive accumulation of fat around the girth
The dosage is 15 to 20 drops of the tincture in half a cup of hot water thrice a day half hour before or after meals.
Avoid Chocolates, Coffee, Mints, Red Meat and Carbonated and Alcoholic drinks while taking Homeopathic Medicines. You have to take it for at least 30 to 45 days after that you start to feel the results.
To the best of my knowledge its the safest and the most sure fire way of loosing fat and weight and keeping it of for keeps. Excellent remedy for Obese people who cant seem to shed weight despite trying.
Homeopathic Remedies can be found at all Major Herbal Stores or could be bought on line, In most of the world Homeopathic remedies are quite cheap and easy to find and they do not need a prescription.
Take care and God Bless !

Answer 6

Keep telling him he is fat. Break him down untill he is in the dumps and will be forced to change. I wheighed 240lbs and my family did that to me, I felt so bad that my determination was never bigger. I am now 150lbs and healthy. He realizes he is fat and if he hasnt changed its because he didn't want to or didn't have enough willpower. It seems cruel but it works. I "broke" my girl friend 3 months ago and so far she has lost 24lbs and she plans to lose 60 more.

Answer 7

working out is a great way to help get rid of depression... It releases endorphins! while neither one of you are signed up yet, just make sure he knows that being a certain way the public acts as if you should look is not important what so ever.

Answer 8

Be a good workout buddy and get him into the gym to help his depression/weight loss problem. If he continues to ruminate about his problems he might sink deeper into a depression.

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Answer 9

You should be ashamed of yourself! That is if your the one that cooks for him. And if you are, then start cooking healthier for him. Follow a plan, don't buy frozen diet food for him either!

Answer 10

tell him being fat is beautiful and it is.
tell him that people pick on others to make their self look good
tell him to eat less and excercise more
tell him to get active so that his muscles wont be weak
tell him if he is still depress then get surgery