should I care if he goes to strip clubs occassionally?
2006-07-15 17:05:12 · 21 answers · asked by ryle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How do you feel about going to a strip club? Do you think it's degrading? Are you afraid he's going to be mentally comparing you to Desiree or Blaze or Candee all night? Don't worry. I can assure you that the male brain, when it finds itself in the presence of multiple naked women, is absolutely incapable of higher, abstract thought such as making comparisons. It is just barely capable of summoning the motor skills required to peel off a dollar bill from a roll and lay it on the counter. You might enjoy watching him in absolute red-alert sensory overload (as a Southern friend of mine used to say, "He looked busier than a one-eyed dog in a meat market!"), but you have to keep your sense of humor about it because he almost certainly will NOT pay you any attention till he's alone with you.
Again, this is not any reflection on you, it's a simple matter of mathematics: more than four nipples on display at the same time cause a man's cerebral cortex to do a fair imitation of one of those fireworks displays that whiz and shoot sparks and make high-pitched whistling noises. This is why such establishments can get away with charging four dollars for a Diet Coke.
And finally, you should only worry about him going to strip clubs occasionally if he fails to pin you to the mattress and pound you senseless the instant he comes home.
(The one and only time I went to a strip club, for a friend's birthday party, my wonderful and adoring wife sent me off with a kiss on the cheek and a roll of twenty-five $1 bills. What a fabulous woman she is. And no, I gave her no reason to worry about me when I returned home...)
2006-07-15 17:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by Scott F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't care if he goes occassianally, but if it starts to become a regular thing, then sit him down and have a talk. I am happily married and have been to strip clubs at times, bachelor parties, birthdays etc... If he has never given you any reason to worry don't. They have strict rules at clubs and it's better than private rent a strippers that show up at parties.
As for going with him, if you don't feel comfortable about it then don't. Some women like it some don't. It's personal preference. Maybe he just doesn't want you to think he's up to anything and wants to show you what it's like. I think a lot of people who have never been have some wrong ideas about what happens at strip clubs. Maybe he just didn't want you to fell like he was ditching you or for you to feel left out. Just do what you feel comfortable with, and it's not an issue if he only goes once in a while, and keeps his spending in check. Those places are money pits, and most men understand that.
2006-07-15 17:55:21 · answer #2 · answered by Adam F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Male perspective here, I for one have never been to a strip club - been invited a few times but turned the offers down. I can't imagine what the fuss is about really, same goes for the ladies' clubs. If you're in a relationship, then why bother? It'll only breed jealousy in your partner, hide it well they may but believe me - it still hurts them. Don't get me wrong, it's an okay place for singles - if you like being teased as a man or possibly degraded as a woman (heard some tales) - but whatever floats one's boat then.
2006-07-15 17:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by Deleted 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like you said he's your "boy," friend. He asks you to accompany you to a strip club, for what reason? Does expect you're going to get turned on by dancing naked ladies. He obviously has no respect for you. If he want to go out with the boys, then let him go alone. You and your girlfriends should go out to watch male strippers then invite him to go watch the boys dance with you.
2006-07-15 17:11:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see what the fuss is about.
I have been to a strip club it was a funny place.
Men pay women to tease them.
As long as he is not cheating no worries
2006-07-15 17:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by Ryce Queen 13 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure go along with him, you might actually have fun. If you trust your man, you shouldn't have any problem with him going to strip clubs. What's he hurting by looking?
2006-07-15 17:09:38 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u lke him alot or luv then u should care juz listen 2 ya heart ya no mayb ask him if he could pick from the skeetz at the strip club or hiz own gurl
2006-07-15 17:10:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with him! Hit on the girls! Get a lap dance. Grab some ***. Touch a tit. Whatever. I wouldn't be too worried about it. But I dunno...I think the real girl is always better than a stripper on a pole.....beh.
2006-07-15 17:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really wouldnt worry about it unless it starts happening all the timem, then there could be a problem.
i know tons of guys who go to strip clubs and they never tell their wives or girlfriends.
2006-07-15 17:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by Darrell C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell Yeah! Be glad that he wants you to go, you can see what they are like. It's not all what you hear, most of the girls are married, have boyfriends and dance well......because the money is damn good! I let my guy go. And he has taken me as well, I just tell him don't lie to me about going.
2006-07-15 17:10:59 · answer #10 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋