Ok this is how it is. People always ask me if I love him, I mean he is my best friend but they are asking it as more than a friends. The teachers thought I was dating him all the time and even our parents thought we would date in the future. he was the closest I have ever gotten to a guy and he was my best friend. He now has a gf and doesn't talk to me. So why does it bug me so much that after 5 years of being close friends he ditches me? Do I really love him because I can't tell???People still ask me do you love him but the truth is I don't know.
2006-07-15 17:01:55 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh and his GF hates me. This is not the only GF he has had and I have been fine with his other girls but now is the only time he stopped talking to me. He is not mad cuz I can tell by the look in his eye.
2006-07-15 17:20:58 · update #1
You do!!! If everyone else can see it!
2006-07-15 17:03:41 · answer #1 · answered by redchili68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is such a thing as an emotional attachment without it being love as it were. You can have an emotional bond with a boy when he doesn't have one for you. Females are much more likely to feel rejected much more easily than males. Chances are this boy has no clue that you have any emotional feelings for him and he probably never took the relationship nearly as seriously as you did - even if you were close friends for a long time. He probably thinks that you don't have feelings for him either. Guys tend to be dense in the sensitivity area. It's going to be painful - but true love is reciprocal. That means you may have feelings for him but it's not the true love you're looking for if he doesn't miss you or have the same feelings for you. It doesn't matter what people say - they just judge things based upon what they see and the gossip they hear. That's not a measure of what's really happening. There is a saying, if you love someone, let him go. If he comes back to you, he's yours forever. If he doesn't, then he never was yours to begin with. I'd suggest really trying to let it go - make a new friend and just wait and see what happens. If he loves you back, he'll come back to you - but don't dwell on it. Get involved in things that are positive and that will take your mind off of it.
2006-07-15 17:13:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The SAME EXACT thing happend to me! thats strange! But i was best friends with a guy for 5 years. he was always there. We would stay over each others house and we would hang out all the time.He got a girlfriend and never spoke to me again. It made me sad. Its would make anyone sad. Dont confuse it with something its not. But the answer was no, I did not love him. You know how i can tell you dont? You have to ask. Love is when you cant spend the rest of you life without that person. You want to marry him and have kids. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with this guy?
2006-07-15 17:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously feel for him. You may not "love" him but you certainly like him. The two of you have been friends for a while so that has something to do with it. He was a part of your life and if you lose a part of your life then of course it will make you a little sad. If you can then the two of you should try to have a relationship together because if you don't you will always wonder what would of happend if the two of you had gotten together. good luck and i hope it turns out better then with me and my friend.
2006-07-15 17:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by A-Town Soulja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many different forms of love ... I'm guessing you love him as a friend and really enjoy his company. If would bug you that things have changed between the two of you since he got a girlfriend. I'm guessing you aren't 'in' love with him. Its the loss of a close friend someone who is a big part of your life.
If you really were in love with him you would know ... without a doubt you would know.
I hope things work out. Always stay true to yourself and good things will happen.
2006-07-15 17:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's fed up with chasing you. Gone and got a girlfriend who's more responsive to his needs. Doesn't sound as though you love him, more that you are disappointed in him. He should be able to count you as a friend as well as have a girlfriend. Mind you, maybe she wouldn't like that too much. He's giving his all to his new relationship. Sad to hear after all the years you have been friends.
Love is difficult to sum, there's lots of different ways we can love someone. You may love him enough to just let him go and have a good time with his new girl? Unrequited love, sort of thing.
2006-07-15 17:08:13 · answer #6 · answered by chrchrbrt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might just be upset that a chick took away your best friend. I have totally felt upset when my girlfriends of many years ditched me for a dude. Ask him to meet you for coffee and see if you still feel this way when he is right there talking to you. You might find that he is truely just a friend, and you just miss the friendship. If you feel something more, tell him how you feel.
2006-07-15 17:08:14 · answer #7 · answered by NONAME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you do. That is the problem with being best friends with a member of the opposite gender. When they get a girlfriend or if you got a boyfriend, you stop talking. This is because the girlfriend or boyfriend gets jealous of the closeness you've shared and they want that person all to themself.
2006-07-15 17:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by runningviolin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too long for me to read but i only read the top part
let me tell u this
if u love some1 u will know it might be confusing but other people cant help u with that even if u told them the whole story
so just sit there and think about it and see how u feel dont be asking people that question cuz its a waste of ur time!!!
♥
2006-07-15 17:06:31 · answer #9 · answered by hotloverxo328 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are asking this question, the answer is no. You do not love him like a boyfriend. You probably just ticked that he dropped you when he got a girl friend. Which is normal. I have had friends who when they got a boyfriend didn't have time for friends. It's just rude and irritating.
2006-07-15 17:06:14 · answer #10 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you love him...but not IN love with him there's a difference. The feelings that you have are just from losing your best friend. you feel he doesn't have any time for you because of his new girl, but just remember girlfriends come and go...a best friend is forever. Just be a little patient.
2006-07-15 17:05:17 · answer #11 · answered by lkn4latin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋