i've been with my b/f for a while and he still thinks that i will cheat on him. he says he's in love with me and he doesnt want to get hurt. i understand that and thats why i try extra hard by not giving any reasons for him to doubt me. i dont have any guys friends, ive changed all my numbers so no X's have a way to get to me, i barely see my existing girlfriends, i only go places with my siblings and i always call him to let him know where i am or where im going ("check-in"). no matter how much i try it never does it any good. how can i gain his trust?? or at least, how can i make him believe im not cheating?? i am truly faithful to him and truly in love with him, how can i get throught to him???????
2006-07-15 16:50:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-07-15 16:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a delicate situation. I think your doing all you can do. Talking from personal experience, he will never trust you until he can trust himself first. I mean he really sounds insecure. You sound like a good person, and eager to please, however this situation might not get any better. You might have to face the fact he's not the right guy, which could be tough because you love him. But don't cut yourself short, your a human being and deserve to have a life. You have changed enough because of his insecurities. If he doesn't realize that, appreciate that, and let you live your life without fear of what he "thinks" you MIGHT be doing.......well then it's time to do something for yourself and dump him.
2006-07-15 16:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by morgysan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a form of control on his part. Some men are very insecure and push this off on the girlfriend. Don't get tied up in this mess of a relationship, he wants you mind, body and soul. You are an individual with a great life ahead of you, don't let him destroy your self esteem and break your spirit. I would not stop having contact with my friends, they are your life-line to the World. I don't know if you know this or not, but if he can make everyone around you leave he can treat you badly, just because he wants to.This is called "MIND CONTROL".
2006-07-15 17:01:02 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like someone is a "control freak." If you have had to loose all of yer friends, change yer ways & "check in" with him in my opinion it's time to cut the ties & move on! If he doesn't trust you without a valid reason not to then it's his problem.
2006-07-15 16:58:34 · answer #4 · answered by barnyardboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is dangerous what your doing-you will never satisfy him like that, also trust is earned and gathered through out the relationship. If he don't trust you and you do all that what happens when you wake up and get tired of trying to please him in that manner? Is he then going to start beating on you because you don't do the things you use to? Because you will get tired of doing that.Just think about it.
2006-07-15 16:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by dianelovedaddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he cant truly love you if he can trust you. to much anger and jealousy ruins relationships. you cant teach someone to trust. they do or they dont. and if they dont they cant love or care for you that much. he has you more as an ornament a trophy
2006-07-15 16:54:41 · answer #6 · answered by yumm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bf was like this once and to get his trust i gave him more of my time, make him miss me so that when we meet he can appreciate it and i sought of put in a plan so that he thought he was spying on me and he realize he didnt trust me and that was how i got his trust since then. hope this work out for u.
2006-07-15 16:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by aladechild 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT NOT ABOUT TRUSTING YOU, IT REALLY SOUND LIKE
CONTROLING ISSUES. AND THAT NOT GOOD, THE FACT
THAT YOU HAVE DONE EVERYTHING POSSIBLE TO ENSURE
WHAT GOING ON THERE MORE THAN TRUST INVOLVED . YOU NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE THIS COULD GET
DANGEOUS.
2006-07-15 16:55:34 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him accusing you of cheating is his way of controlling you. Leave while you still can.
2006-07-15 16:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by meonepresent 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep doing what you are doing now, just give it time and it will build all up and he will start trustin you again. that is how i was when i got with my boyfriend and now he trusts me.
2006-07-15 16:54:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋