ok.....im a virgin, and so is my boyfriend....we are both ready to have sex. but i know when it comes time to do it, i am going to be so nervous...is there any way to get over that ? and will it hurt ? i am also verry self-consious......i dont want him to think i am ugly or somthing underneth my clothes please help.
2006-07-15 16:48:33 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is a serious question and i really need help....i would like a serious answer
2006-07-15 16:54:15 · update #1
How old are you? have you considered the consequence that you might get a little pregnant? think about it, getting laid is one thing, think about pushing out a 6 pound baby from that little place betweent your legs in 9 months. Talk about pain!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-15 16:53:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask youself a question - are you really ready? Are you ready for the potential of a baby, and a future of probably having out of control hormonal issues with wanting to have sex for the heck of it? If you start to get in the habit of this you could end up with venereal warts or something - uggh. If you're really in love - it's not something you'll even have to think about - it just happens. I think you should wait if it's like a scientific project so you both won't be virgins anymore. There's nothing worse than having sex with a boy when it's like a laboratory test for the wrong reasons and when you're young. If he is doing this for the wrong reasons - even more of a miserable trip. Whatever happens, I wouldn't base what sex can really be like on this experience because within the boundaries of marriage at a reasonable age, it's more wonderful than you can imagine emotionally, physically and in every way - even better if you wait. There are certain ways that your own body just copes with these issues and emotionally - so much better to wait. If it's true love - you'll be valued more than this and there will be no question or fears about what you look like or anything else. Wouldn't you rather wait for something better than what you're getting into? Just think.
2006-07-16 00:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the very best advice I can give you is this..... dont throw away your virginity by having sex now. The Bible tells us that God has said that making love is for the marriage bed...to do so otherwise is not good and we should run from sexual sin.
You are very precious to God and He wants you to know that. What is going to happen if or when you and your boyfriend break up after you have sex......how are you gonna feel? Noone tells you young girls about the emotional effects of sex.....everyone makes it out to sound like its fun, go ahead and do it, but the fact is sex isnt a game and shouldnt be played around with as such.
Do you realize in this day and age there are various social diseases you can get and if that isnt enough there is aids which can lead to death. Then again what about pregnancy? Are you ready to raise a baby if you should become pregnant? Is he ready to raise a baby and be a father...chances are the answers to these two questions are no. I know you are thinking but we will have safe sex, but listen please there is no 100 percent safe way to have sex.....things do happen so im urging to wait and abstain from having sex.
Just remember you are a rare jewel to God and loves you very much....you mean more to Him than any earthly treasure because you are His treasure. Believe me by waiting you will gain your self respect and if your boyfriend doesnt understand if you tell him you dont want to then he didnt really love you to begin with. God will one day give you that man that He has choosen for you and if you wait until then
when you are married you will be giving your husband the best gift of all.
I myself am 36 years old and still a virgin and proud of it and wont have sex till the day of my honeymoon and my best friend stayed a virgin till her honeymoon too and I can tell you how glad she is that she did wait because she said it made her honeymoon all that more special.
Good luck to you and I will be praying for you.
2006-07-16 00:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by wendyceline2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your virginity is a very special thing and I speak from experience when I say save it for marriage. I got pregnant with my son at 18 years old and it changes your whole life. I hope that you seriously consider the physical and emotional consequences of having sex. Are you sure your boyfriend is a virgin too? That is another thing you need to think about. STDs are not a good thing for anyone.
2006-07-16 00:12:42 · answer #4 · answered by momma206 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it until you are completely sure you are ready. If you feel you are it is just best if you relax and take it slow. do allot of fore play before you do it and by the time he starts to insert it you will be ready. but make sure you are ready cause you never get a second chance to have your first
2006-07-15 23:54:46 · answer #5 · answered by zoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel nervous and worried about your body, you're not ready to do it. Wait until you are more comfortable with the whole idea. When you do it, no matter what, use protection.
2006-07-15 23:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a long hot, shower before u do it. It might hurt a little, but afterward, it will not. If he does not like your body, then u know.
2006-07-15 23:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by Jake K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go ahead and take a hot nice shower and yes girl it will hurt like hell. but afterwards u will feel good about it.
2006-07-15 23:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a relaxing bath, and it really doesn't hurt like you think. After ward you may even take controll my gf did, so go for it.
2006-07-15 23:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by houtexknights330 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if he loves you it wouldn't matter what you like like . and sometimes it does hurt u never know until you try it !! and it might sting a little bit
2006-07-15 23:54:02 · answer #10 · answered by kay2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋