Does anybody out there have a bad relationship with their dad, and if so, why?

Question

NOTE: Please answer this question ONLY if you DO have a bad/strained relationship with your dad.

Answer 1

Oh yeah my dad worked many hours when my sister & I were growing up. I am 44 she is 42.

We all have a better relationship now that we don't live at home with mom & dad... LOL

I am married with 3 kids, she's still single with no kids. So yes it's much better. That we live far from one another.. LOL I live 150 west of my parents. My sister lives about 5 miles from them.

Answer 2

I have a bad relationship with my dad. Well, I guess it would constitute a bad relationship. I know him, but we really don't have a lot of contact. I tried to be closer to him, but he has always pulled away. He remarried this past year, and that is fine, I want him to be happy. I'm 30, and anything but a jealous child. I have tried to include him in my life, but he shows no interest.

Answer 3

i read some of the other answers and actually thought they were lucky compared to my story... My dad hates kids in the first place so when my parents had me it wasn't good... he wanted to get rid of me from the beginning. He works 24/7 ( he has 3 jobs) and is a alcoholic. He use to beat my mom so now I hate him and we live in the same house but I never talk to him. Its very awkward.

Answer 4

My dad's an alcoholic. I never realized until lately that he uses my love to manipulate me, the same way he uses my brother and mom. I think there may be other stuff from the past. I've finally let him go I think. I don't feel anything for him anymore. He would hold me back from my purpose in life, so I don't feel guilty about what's happened to him anymore. Guilt is a horrible, powerful emotion. It can trap you for your lifetime if you choose to let it.

Answer 5

yes--my father is a control freak, bad tempered, verbally abusive, and is negative about everything. im the oldest, my middle sister has no contact with him and i find myself wondering is she the weak one for not visiting him on holidays or is me and the youngest sister weak because we feel sorry for him and we do still see him. he ruined so many of our holidays, never really knew me or my sisters, and told my mom that we would hate her because she always was with us(he said smothered though). my parents are divorced. its a mess really, my stomach is tight just typing and thinking about the situation, my youngest sister is pregnant and he asked if i was ever gonna have kids and i said i dont think so, and he said are u afraid of passing down bad parenting skills--so he knows he was crappy. i feel like i do the right thing though by not getting to personal (amunition) with him and just visit on bdays, fathers day, christmas, and thanksgiving. once i had to borrow 1000. to buy my house and he was all stressed about it, even though i paid it back, he tells me he lent 500. to a co worker he barely knew so he wouldn't lose his apartment (this guy's friends wouldnt lend it to him) anyways he didn't get the money back---karma i guess for the grief he gave me. he's wierd, but he's my dad nothing i can do about it. hope youre ok though.

Answer 6

Yes. My dad is a control freak and since I have gone to college, he finds it hard to deal with the fact he cant tell me what to do anymore. And me dating a man outside of my race sure does not help!

Answer 7

Yes, I have a very bad relationship with my father, and my mother for that matter.

When I was 4, I remember my father beating my brother with a belt (he was 2). I screamed and tried to save my brother. We both ended up getting beat with him belt.

When I was 5, he kidnapped me and my siblings and moved us three states away from my mother. There he burned down our home while us children were sleeping inside. Luckily the fire department and my uncle got there in time to save us. He got away with saying it was an accident. Then about 3 months later, he got a shot gun and baricaded himself in our kitchen with us four children laying face down on the floor. He was going to kill us, but at the last minute the police came an dtackled him. We ended up in foster care for about a year.

When I was 7, my mother had gotten us back from foster care and she took him back too. We moved to another town and then my father tried to shoot our neighbor. We moved to another town in the middle of the night. In this new town, after we had been here for a few months, it somehow came out that my father had molested my oldest sister since she was in kindergarten (she was now in 8th grade). I went to school one day, and then never saw or talked to my father for many years.

When I was 18 (in my last year of high school) he was released from prison. I had wrote him and told him that I wanted to see him and talk to him. He wrote me back and told me that he didn't want to have contact with me, as I still lived at home with her (my mother). I never heard from him again even though I wrote to him often telling him I was getting married and later having a baby. I was at work one day when I got a call from my mother, my aunt had just called her and told her that my father had passed away. All I wanted to do was ask him, why? I never got the chance, the bas tard died on me.

Answer 8

Yes, me and my dad have a sucky relationship. I have tried to mend it the best way I can but he is not receptive....so i've given up and leaving him alone :(

Answer 9

I've had one serious fight with my dad, we did not talk for 1 week with that fight. It was Christmas and my dad was kidding around, but about his joke it got a bit too personal for me, and i accidentally slapped him on the face. After that incident, my dad told me that i was going too far on joking with him. My sister told me to say sorry, but i was a bit shy to do it. I decided to give him a letter saying "I'm so sorry". After that he talked to me and said to get over the problem.

Answer 10

i do and i think its because he always wants things done his way. and if i do it his way, he makes another way for me to do it! also he is always really jealous of my mom and how i seem to care about here more since shes laid back and easier to be around! and my dad has really bad temper problems!!