my girlfriend and i have been together for 2 1/2 years on and off. i always got along with her parents except for the last time we broke up. now they hate me ( i never did anything terrible). now that we are together again we have to sneak around and it is getting tough on both of us. how do i patch things up?
2006-07-15 16:30:46 · 19 answers · asked by jlb421 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
they say that i turned her into a drinker. that is the only thing i can think of. but we both changed.
2006-07-15 16:37:02 · update #1
be very direct and talk to her parents about coming to meet and talking to them, ask if there is anything you can do to prove you are worthy of their respect again and are worthy of their lil duaghters heart. what ever they say you have to abide even if they so stay away unfortunatly untill this younglady is any adult they have a final say so...... sneaking around isnt what dating is about ... dating is about learning if a person is right or not for marriage and sneaking is not mature and not being mature isnt right for marriage......
2006-07-15 16:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one she could of told her parents what you did to get broken up the last time and they may, happen to not like it. For one you should never have to sneak around, because sneaking around mean you are breaking someones trust. So be a man, and show you at the front door, and take her that way. But trust is the most important to any relationship. But I have ran across that before and I simple ask what there beef is about the relationship, and most of the time it is something that could be simple to fix. And that is the parents, fun game, to scare the boy, So ask them what is wrong and why they seem to dislike, It could be something simple to fix. Life isn't that bad.
2006-07-15 16:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by houtexknights330 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no one right answer. Just realize that her parents put her first. They love her to death and do not want any harm, even emotional harm, to ever come to their daughter. Sneaking around is a dangerous thing to be doing. If you two really want to be together, you may want to speak with your girlfriends parents and politely and respectively level with them to find out what issues they are concerned about. Then try to compromise until the waters calm.
It won't be easy, but it is a very mature method to take. Good luck!
2006-07-15 16:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sneaking around is going to get old. Do the mature thing. Go to her parents ( the both of you) and talk to them. Maybe you'll find out why they dislike you right now.
2006-07-15 16:33:54 · answer #4 · answered by jata2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, I am in a very similar situation except I am the girlfriend. I guess just go to the parents without your girlfriend around, tell your girlfriend that you are doing this, just have her wait in the other room and be straightforward and tell her parents that you want to make things batter any way tha tyou can. Tell them you don't understand why they have suddenly become cold to you and that you feel that it shouldn't effect your relationship anymore and tha tyou are willing to be a better man for their daughter. Parents like to hear that stuff.
2006-07-15 16:33:29 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sneaking around is not the way to do it. Ask to meet with her parents and sit down and find out what you can do to earn their trust. There are no reasonable parents anywhere that would refuse that request. Deception is akin to failure. The truth is where you success lies.
2006-07-15 16:33:18 · answer #6 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st thing you two are going to have to stop hiding! If she truly loves you she wouldn't make you her dirty little secret. Those are her parents and it is up to her to smooth things over. You have to remember something. When you 2 were not getting along who was she going to for support?? Yep that's right the parental units. So just because she got over your problems they didn't. She went to them when times were bad only so now that's all they have to go on. She is going to have to be the one to step forward and you are just going to have to be patient and let time pass!
GOOD LUCK!
2006-07-15 16:36:05 · answer #7 · answered by K SHINE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there, when my wife and I were dating her parents hated me. They are hicks, redneck people you know what I mean. Anyway, that was 12 years ago. I used to crank up my system in m car just to make them mad. They will get over it. All you care about is her, forget the parents, they will come around. All they want is their daughter happy. Time heals all.
2006-07-15 16:35:18 · answer #8 · answered by dan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That might be because u brokeup with they're little girl and it hurt her. Parents are like that they hate to see they're kids hurt and whenever a girl breaks up with her b/f it hurst her and she may go to her mom and tell her how hurt she is that her b/f brokeup with her.So now that u the guy who has hurt her more then once is back, it makes them mad to see u because even thought she may have forgiving u, they haven't
2006-07-15 16:34:38 · answer #9 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find out WHY they dislike you. It may be that they are just concerned because you are off and on. However, if they have a good reason, i.e. you are a sex offender, that may be the problem. If it's the first reason, good luck! If not, so long!
2006-07-15 16:33:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋