I know I confuse every body. my q is I have a problem to have a sex how can you help me I did not have any problem before I am not interested with my husband to makelove
2006-07-15 16:12:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Love comes from God.. pray to God to give you true love for your husband.. and for him to truly love you. And once true love springs in the heart.. then uniting with your husband would be a joyful experience. and besides does either of you hide any hurt/anger in your heart? That could be the reason or a hindrance to true love.. talk openly and open each of your hearts and that will help you love each other more. but above all keep aside all malice and anger and hurt and pray to God to give true love to your husband and he will definitely guide you in the right path.
2006-07-15 16:20:57 · answer #1 · answered by smashingdon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a lay Biblical counselor I would suggest that you seek that type of help in your area. I don't counsel women and I don't do more than try to point people in the right direction via the Internet.
It could be any number of issues that have brought this state of feeling into your relationship. You might consider getting the Making Marriage Work teaching series, item # 771776 at http://www.enduringtruth.org/catalog.asp because loss of sexual desire is usually a symptom of a deeper problem.
2006-07-15 16:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by Martin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem may be either physical or psychological. You need to figure out which one it is.
1. Make sure you are taking proper care of yourself: eat right, drink plenty of water, exercise, get enough sleep (a lot of people skip that last part).
2. Go to your family doctor, and make sure there is nothing physically wrong with you...infection, cancer, etc.
You can be quite open in your discussion with your doctor. If she/he is worth anything as a doctor, they will listen to all of your concerns. Sometimes the smallest details can help them help their patients.
If you recently had a baby, your desires may "zero out" for a while. That is due to exhaustion and hormone changes, and is normal!
3. If nothing is physically wrong, check out your spiritual and emotional life. Are you angry with God, yourself, or your spouse? Are you perhaps feeling guilty or jealous? Maybe you are just feeling unappreciated or ignored? Search your heart for negative feelings, and root out their causes.
4. If neither of these seems to be the problem, you may just be in a waning period in your relationship. That is normal, especially for newlyweds. Real life is not very romantic. If you haven't felt the romance lately, invest in some time and imagination!
5. No matter what: TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND about this. He needs to know how to take care of you.
2006-07-15 16:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by MamaBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, it sounds like you are very concerned about this. I am about to be married in a year and my fiance and I are Christian as well. Making love in a Christian marriage is very special. It was designed by God and is supposed to be joyful, pleasurable, fun, and exciting. Married couples are supposed to love each other as much as possible mentally, spiritually, emotionally, AND physically. A Christian marriage is full of selflessness and self-sacrifice. This means that you completely submit to your husband or wife and to God. If this is done in a loving way, your marriage can be very fruitful.
One thing to remember, is that as your marriage progresses the woman sometimes has hormonal changes that will effect your desire to make love. However, the man never changes. Men respond to physical intimacy a lot more than women do. And most Men feel more loved when their wife desires to make love with them.
So, talk with your husband as much as you can to understand his desires and try to help him understand how you feel. If you still lack the desire to make love with him, and he becomes frustrated, I suggest that you find some Christian family marriage counseling to help you discuss this in a comfortable environment.
Hope this helps, let me know if you have any questions!
Thomas
2006-07-15 16:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any abuse in your background? What are the other areas of your relationship like?
There are some really great resources. I'll look them up and post them later.
My short answer would be for you to seek counseling first and then to bring your husband into counseling with you.
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2006-07-15 16:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by Contemplative Chanteuse IDK TIRH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? That's the real question. What is it about him that makes you not want him anymore? Unfulfilled? Frustrated? What are you afraid of? Pregnancy? There are a lot of ways to help you solve this problem. Need a little more info though.
2006-07-15 16:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by r0cky74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where are you from? Are you from the far east? Your writing of English is bad/ hard 2 understand. Are you a buy bride?
2006-07-15 16:19:08 · answer #7 · answered by MUSLIM S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider talking to him? Or, consider a marriage counselor?
2006-07-15 16:18:21 · answer #8 · answered by Danny H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its because youre christian. your religion supresses your mind. think of deconverting for your own sake.
2006-07-15 16:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋