help me please, thanks?

Question

im goin out with a girl i REALLY love and i want the relationship to last forever and i just wanted to know if there are any little things i can do to increase the chances of that happening. Thanks for your help.

Answer 1

Successful first dates tips
Arrive on time
Not too early, not too late, right on time. This indicates to her that you have your stuff together.

Be polite
Be polite to her and everyone else you encounter (waiters, movie attendants, etc.). No one likes or appreciates a jerk.

Relax
If you sense that you are getting nervous take a few deep breaths and remind yourself that you are the man and that you are deciding whether or not this girl is worthy of your time. It is important that you concentrate on just having fun. This girl likes you or she wouldn't be with you right now.

Tip well
A sign of class. Never, ever skimp on a tip. Tip at the very least 15%.

Be decisive
Have a plan. You absolutely MUST avoid, at all costs, ever saying, "I don't know what do you want to do?" Don't second-guess yourself, make excuses or apologize every time you make a small mistake.

Shut-up
Try to keep the conversation focused on her. She should do about 70% of all the talking. It is a well known fact that most people enjoy talking about themselves and dislike hearing someone else talk about themselves too much. You may be tempted, if the conversation starts to run out, to tell her all about your family, your pet dog, etc. but you MUST restrain yourself.

End on a good note
Say something funny and then get out of there. Don't wait for the date to become boring. If you sense that things are winding down it is better to end while everyone is in a good mood than to risk waiting until she is tired, bored and annoyed.

Don't be afraid to disagree
Don't be afraid to say the word "no" or "I disagree" on a date. Women like to know that you have a backbone and will NOT like you more if you are a "yes man" (a.k.a. "doormat")

Don't act needy
Very few things will drive a woman away faster. You don't have to be right by her side the whole night and don't be afraid of talking to other people. Also, don't act possessive if she decides to wander away and talk to someone else.

Be mindful of non-verbal communication
Don't get tense because this is a big indicator of a lack of confidence. Stand up straight, articulate, look her (and everyone else) in the eye. Women don't like to think that their man is easily scared and intimidated.

Can I Kiss You?
by Mark


This little maneuver has become one of my favorite ways to really screw with a woman's head. Basically it goes like this:

You're out on a date and you can tell both of you had a good time and enjoyed each other's company. Now the evening (or afternoon or whatever) is drawing to a close and both of you are in that "goodbye kiss anticipation zone" that I'm sure everybody knows and dreads just as much as I do.

Finally you come to a stop in front of her door and, whether you end up walking her up from the driveway or just staying in the car, you ask her that Most Dreaded Question:

"Can I kiss you?"

To which she has two options for an answer. And if she actually did have a good time with you she will use the most favorable one. She'll smile coyly and say "Yes" softly, like only the ladies can.

Now you say this: "Alright then. I'll be sure to do that someday." Shake her hand or just smile and wink, but get on your way as soon as you can.

I guarantee that she'll be left standing there with her mouth hanging open wondering exactly what the hell just happened. And over the next few days she's going to really start itching for that kiss from you.

When she does see you again, the sheer anticipation of when, where, and how that kiss is going to happen will literally drive her nuts... because she knows you want to kiss her and that it is going to come sooner or later. But she can never know the answers to when, where, and how because you're never going to give her any clues. And you're going to act like nothing is up in the slightest. Pretend you forgot the incident even happened.

When you finally do decide to give her that smooch, just do it (but try to determine if she's in the mood for it; odds are she will be). UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES ARE YOU TO ASK AGAIN! You've already asked and she already said yes, remember? It'll be a damn good kiss, believe me.

This has always worked wonders for me.

I gave out that kiss to one girl after just running into her on the street and we ended up spending the rest of the day (and most of the next morning) together. With another one I was at an amusement park and the damn Ferris Wheel got jammed and we were stuck dangling in the air for fifteen minutes. I gave her a little peck and we basically ended up doing the grind up there until we started moving again.

And another girl actually tried wrestling that kiss out of me immediately after I pulled the "someday" line on her. Somehow I managed to get away from her. But when I kissed her on our second date at a red traffic light after leaving the restaurant, she told me to forget about the movie and come home with her.

There are more stories than that, but they all pretty much go the same.

Answer 2

Four Rules to live by.

1) Remember to listen to her and at least act that you care about what she has to say if you don't.

2) Women are more impressed by the regular little reminders of affection than the big impressive displays of emotion which guys go for thinking that it will be bankable for a few months.

3) Take control and show you are decisive. Women hate wishy-washy guys who kowtow to their every wish because they are in love and can never make a decision. They get tired of the "Whatever you want to do, love." really quickly.

4) Maintain some mystery about yourself and some of your previous life before her. She wants a man who had a life and not a lapdog.

Good Luck

Answer 3

Woah..sounds like you really like her. Just let her know this every day. Greet her everyday with a kiss and say good bye with one as well. Once in a awhile buy her a gift because I no that I hate being punded by gifts. You get tired of all the stuff and feel bad about letting him buy it for you. So give her a necklace. And maybe a braclet to match. Throw anniversaries.. ((aka 4 month annuiversay..6 month and so on)) Do little things to help her like you even more. Hope that helped!

Answer 4

if the feelings are mutal, communicate and when your done communicate some more find out your diffrences and understand that two people no matter how much inlove and how identical they are in likes and dislikes there is going to be things that the other doesnt like. formulate with your sweetheart how to handle them before they become a problem becuase understanding each other is an individual and their comunication skills is the best way to honor each other and have a long lasting relationship.... good luck

Answer 5

The best thing you can do for your relationship is to pay attention to her, but don't smother her. Sure buying her stuff will please her...occasionally. However, spending time with her, finding creative ways to let her know how much you love her, not going all super possesive on her, building up your relationship, listening to her, trusting her, etc. are all things that will she will appreciate and show your true feelings. Above all just be yourself. If she is the one that should be enough ;)

Answer 6

1. Put the toilet seat down

2. When she asks 'does my bum look big in this' ALWAYS say no
If you ask whats wrong and she says 'nothing' NEVER believe her

3. Don't ever say anything you don't want raised in an argument in 4 years time

4. I know it's hard but try ,try try to look interested when shes trying on stuff in boutiques (mirror sunglasses are a good idea)
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Answer 7

One thing i can tell you by being a girl. I like a man to always let me know how special i am and how pretty i am and how much they love me. I hope i helped you out.

Answer 8

Be yourself. Communicate. Compromise. Peace.

Answer 9

Be yourself. ^^
Show her love but dont be too clingy.....
Hold her from behind and kiss her neck and nibble her ear playfully...Tickle her abit and have deep conversations.
But every once in a while give her a bit of space.
Just be you.
Later.

Answer 10

Be honest, sincere, true and a bit blunt with each other since the beginning.