I am a 27 years old fat girl (I'm 1.65 cm height and 72 kg weight) and my mom told me that if I stay in this shape, I will never find a boyfriend and no man will ask for my hand in marriage. Please let me know what do you think about this.
2006-07-15 15:30:57 · 50 answers · asked by cheese_salty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most of the advice you will receive will be from people who do not really know about the chemistry going on in your body, so consider the sources.
I know that this is a very difficult thing to be overweight at that age. Remember, your body is not 'different' from thin people's bodies in that it will respond beautifully to the right treatment.
That means that Your body is your vehicle that must take you through life. If you treated your car the way you've treated you body, it would have never lasted 27 years.
Neglect and abuse of your body is not an attractive trait. Also, every man will wonder, "if she cares so little for her own self, how could she care for me, or our children?" These are honest and fair questions a man can ask.
Also, men desire a beautiful girl more than any other thing, and looking at a beautiful girl is one of the most pleasurable things a man can experience.
You have the power to create a beautiful body, simply by treating it right. You have the power to give a man great pleasure, but it sounds like you have no real interest in doing this. How attractive is that to a man?
I'll bet that there things that you want from a man. I don't know what these are, but let's just suppose that one of them is the security in knowing that you will be the only girl he will ever love. If 9 out of 10 women have what he wants - needs - and you refuse to give this to him, how secure can you possibly feel?
Other fat women will tell you that you are a beautiful person inside and all that stuff, but that does not change the fact that you are not taking care of your body for you own sake, and for the sake of the man you will 'claim' to love. If you really want someone to care for you, start by caring for yourself first.
You must admit that up until now you've been doing something wrong. It's not heredity, or hormones, or other things that are out of your control that have made you overweight. You are the correct weight for what you eat.
I don't say this to hurt you, but to give you hope. You can be thin and healthy, and you don't even have to exercise to do it, although exercise is good for you.
Body fat is all about chemistry. Your body cannot store fat and burn fat at the same time, and up till now, you have conditioned your body to store it. If you do the following, you'll be burning fat in your sleep.
Follow this list, and you will lose fat like water WITHOUT getting ill, and you will not have cravings for bad foods after a week or so.
1) Eat at least every 2 – 3 hours, even if you’re not hungry, but don’t eat large portions.
2) Drink water all thru-out the day. Lots of water.
3) Include monounsaturated fats daily such as walnuts, olive oil and fish oils.
4) Eliminate the following from your diet: Wheat, dairy, sugar, anything with chemicals in it, and meat (especially pork and shellfish, and eggs. Clean fish, such cod or salmon are okay.)
Now, I know that this may seem difficult, but if you make a list of all the things that you CAN eat that are not on the list above, you will find that there are tons of things to eat, but more importantly, doing this will cause you to lose fat like water. You will not be fitting into any of your current clothes in a month or so. This WILL change your life, and you will be very healthy.
I worked for me, and I didn’t even exercise other than an occasional 45 minute walk a few times per week.
SUCCESS!
2006-07-15 15:44:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Fattest Woman Getting Married
2016-12-17 16:27:45 · answer #2 · answered by hague 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your mom told you is incorrect. I am not a skinny person and I have been happily married for 3 years (got married when I was 28). There are many women of all sizes who are married and enjoy being married. If it has not already, this could possibly ruin your self esteem. Normally when a person has low self esteem, they will settle for anybody just to say they have someone or in a case like yours prove that they can get a man. Don't settle for anyone just to satisfy others (including mom). Love Yourself!!! Please enjoy your life and trust me, the RIGHT man (the one who will respect and love you) will come along.
2006-07-15 16:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen plenty of large women get married. Stop listening to your mom when she is being rude to you (even if it because she loves you). As long as you are content and comfortable in your skin, enjoy life. If you really want to change your health and weight, start an exercise program and take it slow to start. Until then, be happy, confident, and friendly. Maybe you will meet someone soon, maybe later. And remember, you dont HAVE to have a husband to have a good life. * Mine would be better without my husband, I think!
Also, is that your picture? You are beautiful! You look like my friend in Brazil.
2006-07-15 15:34:21 · answer #4 · answered by Strange question... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont listen to hear, your pretty the way you are. In some countries being a little over weight is a sign of money. I would just find another fat person ( just hope you like obese men) and live a happy life.
2006-07-15 15:35:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fat people have just as much chance at getting married as people in shape. Guys should like you for who you are not what you look like.Yes looks are important to some people but there are the ones out there that care about the inside.There is someone for everyone and you'll find your mr.right!!
2006-07-15 15:33:58 · answer #6 · answered by A.G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dating is hard for everyone, some of my cute skinny friends have a hard time getting dates especially with guys that are good enough for them. There is someone for everyone and don't settle with the first guy you get (that is what my over weight sister in law did and boy did she marry below her standards!) you will find the right person just be out going and highlight the features that you like about yourself and be confident. Your true love is out there! Good luck :)
2006-07-15 15:36:46 · answer #7 · answered by cooltoque 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To laugh often and much, to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether it's by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know that one life breathed easier because you have lived...is to have succeeded.
if a guy really likes u, he won't care about ur appearance.
2006-07-15 15:33:14 · answer #8 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to guess that you arent from the U.S. Have you seen all the fat married people? Have some self confidence and show your personality.
2006-07-15 15:34:19 · answer #9 · answered by ms mystery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think as long as they are happy with themsleves, any person can have what they want in life. If you love yourself, someone else will love you, too.
This time, your Mom's advice was wrong. She may have just been concerned for your health, and it was an attempt to scare you into losing weight.
If you can function, and you are happy, then don't worry so much what your mom wants for you.
2006-07-15 15:42:12 · answer #10 · answered by T Time 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋