My mom wants to drive me to college. She is overprotective, she is making me live at home (I don't mind), but she doesn't want to buy me a car or have me buy it. I respect her, but I think the driving me to school thing is bullshit. Any ideas (btw, my mom is an old fashioned Iraqi woman)...I am almost 18 and I don't even have a cell :(
HELPPPPPPPP, the woman is driving me nuts
2006-07-15 15:29:32 · 6 answers · asked by Hadeer S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
BTW...I am a guy...thanks for all the advice...but my mom is pretty adament about me not getting a car...what sucks is I am pre-med, so I need to have volunteer work, a job, tutoring, researching, and so much more...I hate her
2006-07-15 18:32:37 · update #1
Sometimes you have to break customs and or beliefs... You have to step up and let your mom know that you are ready to be independent in some ways. That you feel it is unnessary for her to keep on taking you to school. Let her know how you really feel.... She might hurt but its alright. And about the car, are you working. If you are save up and buy you a bucket to start with. Good luck...
2006-07-15 15:35:13 · answer #1 · answered by El flaco 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're going to have to take baby steps with her. If she's anything like my brother's wife (also Iraqi, would you believe), then that's the best way to crack through that stubborn shell of hers without causing a huge, lingering rift. Even better would be to convince her that you being responsible and independent enough to drive is her idea.
College is tough; classes don't run on "high school" time and the hours you'll put in studying and doing assignments will be incredible. I don't think your mom will be able to deal long term with getting you to class at the crack of dawn or picking you up late at night if you need to study at the library, etc. Emphasize that driving yourself is the start of your independence and that you respect her enough to not embarrass her or your family. She's raised you well and it's time to show her, make her proud. Also, be able to show her that the places you'll be are safe - that's probably a huge issue for her. If you phrase yourself well, you might even get that cell phone; after all, that would be the best way to keep in touch with her if ever you did need her assistance. Good luck; you won't be able to change her mind in a day, but if you're persistent and mature in how you relate to her, I think you'll be on your way to independence.
2006-07-15 22:44:16 · answer #2 · answered by lotsayorks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're kind of in a spot. You don't mind living at home, it is a free ride. If you're living at home, you almost have to go by what they say. If you move out, then you can do all that you want. As long as you're home, I think parents have the say so. Why don't you get a job and get a cell? You could work part time.
2006-07-15 22:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by trainer53 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job, or some other sign of maturity. Make sure she realizes that you're not 5 anymore. Find even (gasp) a boyfriend. Explain it to her that you're growing up.
A 5-year-old does not need a cell phone. An 18-year-old does. "It's to talk with me when I'm away, so you don't have to be with me."
2006-07-15 22:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by matt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I know what you mean. Same mom maybe. You are going to have to make a stand one way or another sometime in your life. If not, your mom will try to run your life forever. Sometimes she will chase away boyfriends and friends she doesn't like. Just plan an escape and stick to it.
2006-07-15 22:34:10 · answer #5 · answered by alfredenuemann98195 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the free ride......... Suck up your pride and ride!
2006-07-15 22:33:38 · answer #6 · answered by calgal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋