I am starting to feel very depressed for some reason. Any suggestions?

Question

I work full time and really am burnt out on my job. I just had 2 weeks of vacation and went back to work today and just felt misreable there. When I come home, all I feel like doing is watching TV or answering these questions. My best friend called this evening, and was so excited because she is moving to a new house and I could care less. I have a terrible relationship with my son. He lives with me and is so lazy, he cannot even walk the dog.
I think I am having a mid life state of depression. My boyfriend is putting his adult kids before me and of course he would do that, because I happen to have a job, work full time and make a living. Work! His daughter never heard of that concept. My own daughter told an increadible lie on me. It goes on.....
My house is a wreck and I don't have the energy to clean it up. I have laundry piled up in my bedroom from a week ago. I did muster up the energy to do my dishes.
What should I do? I should be so happy. I am just unhappy.

I had to take vacation days because you use them or lose them .I have not taken time off for about 2 years. I stayed at home and watched TV and laid around.

I felt a little better today after I gave 16 hours of paid time off to a friend of mine who has been fighting Leukemia for about 5 years now.
I spent my whole life in church and have very mixed feelings about the Lord and his plan for my life.

Answer 1

Make an appointment with your Local Mental Health Clinic for an evaluation.

Son - needs to be kicked out of the house, forced to get a job OR made to do chores.

Make a list of chores he can do. EXPECT him to do them BY THE TIME YOU GET HOME FROM WORK!!!!

Daughter - Confront her about the lie.

Boyfriend - needs to be told about his kids.

Don't continue on like this. It's not good for YOUR mental state of mind!!!

Answer 2

I think for me, as a Christian, learning about God is a life-long process for me.
Go see a Christian counsellor, I find this helpful for me.
Also, don't do everything for your children. They should responsible for some of the home tasks. Some tasks that you can risk and let them do it.
If your children don't want to walk the dog, of course don't get them, you don't want to lost your dog, right? And also, I think if you walk your dog, it can be a relax time to get away from things for a while (we all need a break).

Your children can wash the dishes, and do some food preperation (easy things such as wash the vegetables, and cut them, etc).
If they procrastinate and never do it, let the dishes sit there, when they need it, they will clean it. (You put some disposable dishes in your room). Also, no cleaning, no clean pat or pot to cook, they go hungry, they will wash them then. (You buy your own food)
Food preparation, well, they are one the people who will eat it too, so they won't too mess around.

You can do your own laundry, they can do their own. When their friends can smell their clothings, they will have to wash them.

Also, vaccum, easy enough for them to do it. And so does mowing the lawn.

Give yourself a break sometime, if you like to spend some doing crafts, but often after you finish all the cook, cleaning, you have no time to do crafts. Then, call delivery, once a week is not much. Or eat something easy to prepare.

Valid your feeling, if you are unhappy, then don't avoid, if you avoid, the bounce back effect is stronger.

If after doing the vaccum, dishes, laundry and lawn, there are still many places in your house that need cleaning and attendtion, then pay someone to do it. They do it much faster and much more effective. You have to pay, yes, but you can earn them thru your work. I rather for one or two more hours and use those many to pay someone to do some of the house work (cleaning bath tub, etc). I mean, they are much stronger physically, and faster.

I think that's all I can think of now.
Take care. You are worthy, you should reward yourself, and give yourself some time off, your deserve it. But when it's relax and leisure time, put all the 'busy things' out of your mind, don't think about them, when you are playing.

Answer 3

I strongly think you should follow Jennifersuem's advice.
More on the mental health thing:
You should probably talk to a real mental health practioner because sometimes medical doctors have the tendency to just medicate you without really checking out or looking into all of your symptoms.
In order to be clinically depressed, you would have to have no mood lifts whatsoever for at least 2 weeks, everyday, all day.
There's a lack of energy, problems sleeping, and usually some type of eating pattern change as well.
Good luck to you, and I hope you find happiness soon.

Answer 4

Do you feel like you lack a purpose or like your life doesn't matter or something? Do you go to church and believe in God and Jesus? My neighbor is an atheist and he is a very unhappy person it seems to me. He sometimes says mean things to the neighborhood kids, once even said a curse word in front of them. Also, he is kind of vindictive in that he argues and says derogatory things. I think he is like that because inside he is sad or feels meaningless. He hated his job yet he worked at it for over a decade or so. I think he would be so much happier if he wasn't just living for himself and knew that he had a purpose and was put on earth for a reason. Religion is not about being affiliated with a group, but a relationship with God. God gives meaning to your life.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

If you feel up to it, check out these really great chapters of the number one best-seller in the history of the world! Really. :)
Start with Ecclesiastes 3 to know that things happen for a reason, then jump over to Psalm 88 so you know youre not alone, after that, skip on over to Psalm 91 to empower and uplift your spirit, and then if you care for a positive self-check, 1Corinthians 13 will be of great help!)
God loves ya chicky...maybe you need a reminder of how much, i know i do when life is on me like white on rice! hehe
Enoy the truth of the words you will read :)

Answer 7

When you look at the all your problems together they look huge. Try to divide the issues up then decide your best approach to correct each of them. It will be a slow process but keep the faith; "It's Important". view your decisions as a fork in the road write the options of where it will take you in 1to 5 years; then make the best choice. Some decisions are painful, but look at the long term benefits.

Answer 8

SORRY BUT I DO NOT THINK you have reach the mid life KABOM! YET. it bad believe me, get another JOB.

Answer 9

where'd the energy come from to go on vacation? either you're lazy or manic.