ok so im a in home nanny( i go to them) for a family of 3 and i get to bring my son to work every day. i recentaly thought i would nice and tip them off that my husband and i would be trying to get pregnant again this oct. and they dont seem to like it to much. I understand them and the fact of them wanting there kids to have 1 on 1 with me but i also want more children. They told me "we cant tell you not to have more kids"so i know they wont but im afraid they will start looking for another nanny. I would hop they would at least wait itll i actually had they baby you never know how long it will take. They are wonderful people si i felt like i should tip them off. Do you think i should of or not said anything and just waited? thanks for the help.
2006-07-15 14:10:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I am a full time nanny also. Don't worry about it is my advice. that family will only be in your life for a few years, your husband and kids are your life. you should take your concern that they may hire another nanny to them an simply tell them you understand if that is what they want, but please give you notice first. Explain that there are so nanny nanny positions available, (there are) and be matter of fact. Hook up with an agency. The agency wont charge you a thing to place you with another family. (They charge the family.) seriously don't' stress, so many people need nannys now you will be fine.
2006-07-15 14:27:18 · answer #1 · answered by lala 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just like any job, companies arent Suppose to discriminate against even pregnant women applying for jobs, but they do.
Of course they're not gonna want you to have any more children, being you bring your son with you to your job.
If they cant handle it, then they dont deserve you and what you have to offer, then look for another job.
In the meantime, look after your own families well-being also, and look on the side for another family, so you have all the possibilties covered.
IMO, I probaly wouldn't have said anything to them about my plans, just like I wouldnt tell a potential employer I was pregnant if it weren't obvious. Because in looking for a job, that really shouldn't have any effect on how great of an employee I would be to them. But I have also had an easy pregnancy and deliver in the past with no problems.
Good luck, and go with your head on this one. You may love this family since you had gave them a heads up, but you also have to think of your families own well-being first and foremost.
2006-07-15 14:18:54 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberlynne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Letting your employer know that you won't be available for a while is usually not of much concern; most employers can make arangements to cover you while you're on maternity leave. However, as a nanny, your relationship to the children is their primary concern, and the thought of you being suddenly away from the children with a substitute in place might be alarming to them.
2006-07-15 14:15:15 · answer #3 · answered by Stuart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think you should have waited until you WERE pregnant but oh well!! lol I think if they do ask you to leave after you have the baby look for a family that will drop the kids of at your house. start a little daycare. that might be easier since you will have 2 kids
2006-07-15 15:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by fandj4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very unusual for a family to allow you to bring your child with you, especially as a nanny. I can't even imagine anyone that would allow you to bring 2, when they already have 3 they are paying you to take care of. They expect your undivided, unbiased attention and I think that would be very difficult if your children are there, too.
2006-07-15 14:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by aliza1999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have 4 kids wanting attention and they pay you to be attending their 3 so they share time and attention from you to your one child thats acceptable now they see you have another child to devide time with their kids look for another job if you need to focus on baby making and dont want to wait or buy some condoms
2006-07-15 14:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you done the right thing, and if the kids like you and the parents like how you handle things then they will probably ask you to come back after you have the baby and are able to. I wouldn't worry about it.
2006-07-15 15:21:46 · answer #7 · answered by tricksy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all of your time will be on the new baby and not on their kids.you may have to find another job if you want to have more kids.
2006-07-15 14:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should have said anything until you were actually pregnant.
2006-07-15 14:16:48 · answer #9 · answered by jj02 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing don't ever change. you will probably have problems with your employer but I commend you on honesty
2006-07-15 14:15:23 · answer #10 · answered by biggun4570 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋