We have been togther for 6 months , we stay at his house every since we got togther he won't even let me have the keys to my appartment, he makes me stay at home when he goes to work i can't leave the house, he has my pass words to my my space my emails and everything but i can't have his. he is always accusing me of doing stuff he won't let me go out w/ friends. i love him with all my heart but i really don't know what to do .
2006-07-15 13:52:19 · 19 answers · asked by tinyfrog20 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You may be in a very dangerous situation. You probably cannot predict what comes next and spend much of your time trying not to upset him...
This is a very bad cycle that many women fall into. You have to be careful, and be smart. Don't let your left hand know what your right hand is doing:::leave before he attempts to take more control of your life in an effort to keep you from leaving. Don't hint to change before you leave, either. Most importantly, when you do leave, stay gone. Men like this have no respect for life, yours or their own. They will stop at nothing to make a situation what they feel it should be.
I hate to see anyone abused. I hope you get out of this situation soon. There are people that can help. If you don't think you can do it on your own, let me know...
Good luck...and my God bless you.
2006-07-15 14:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him! He's like this after 6 months? What's it going to be like in a year, or 2 years? Seriously, he's having you as his prisoner and that is abusive. Next thing ya know he'll be physically hurting you. Dump him. YOu can do better than that!! Why would you love a guy like that? Really!
2006-07-15 13:57:02 · answer #2 · answered by wondering in michigan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've a friend who has exactl the same prob and i'll tell wat i told her: this guy loves u so much but he doesn't trust u bec he's scared that he might be not good enough for u and u might break up with him,all these feelings and doubts he has are out of love.give him more attention,but at the same time u gotta put a line before everything.tell him equality is the base of our relationship,if u want this 2 work out u gotta either trust me or give me ur passwords.he gotta taste from his own poison.u could even make him switch with ur cell phone and have his for a week if u could!!
2006-07-15 14:01:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be your own person. Anyone who is that controlling is not good. You cant really love someone like that with all your heart. That' not a good choice at all. You will become a prisoner, if you havent already. I would strongly suggest that you get away from him........immediately! It will only get worse.
2006-07-18 18:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to dump him. I know you say you love him but does it make you feel good that he does this? i dont think so because you would not be asking this question. think about the future would you want your children involved with someone of that nature? Or worse would you want them to grow up and have that quality in them? I know its hard but it would be harder in the future. Go with your gut. Also when someone is acusing you of doing something wrong or bad like cheating or lieing and you truthfully didnt do it, it usually means they are doing it. You need to GET OUT of this relationship fast!
2006-07-15 14:08:36 · answer #5 · answered by Nic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the hell out!!! When he goes to work move as far away as possible. Call the police and put a restraining order out on his dumb ***. Guys like this are insecure loosers with nowhere to go but down. This relationship will only get worse, trust me.
2006-07-15 13:58:47 · answer #6 · answered by Jimbo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he goes to work RUN!! leave quick!!! you don't need or want someone like that..I hear about these stories on the time on Maury and someone usually gets hurt eventually..the woman mainly so get away from him as soon as possible!!
2006-07-15 14:06:51 · answer #7 · answered by Babii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OPen the door and Leave..NOW. That's not a boyfriend.. he should be treating you like a queen, with trust and respect, as you deserve to be treated. Think of it this way, would you let your daughter (or future daughter) be treated like this??
2006-07-15 13:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by FunInTheSun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hon, one word RUN. as hard and fast as you can. they usually will beat you after a while. so get out. you need to check the statistics on abused women, check out how they started see that it started with men controlling them, don't wait until you have kids and he kills one or you. all the best
2006-07-15 14:06:39 · answer #9 · answered by diva anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. This mo' fo' could kill you. You can't live a love life like this. Your just living in a miserable life. Get out of it!
2006-07-15 13:58:56 · answer #10 · answered by Drivliam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋