What do I do?

Question

I have just recently lost my nan and I feel hurt and numb inside. I really miss her so much.... I just don't know what to do :o(

Answer 1

I'm very sorry. I think only time can help you...and other people. You're doing the best thing by reaching out to others.

Answer 2

You obviously had a wonderfully close relationship with your Nan, count it as a blessing. I beleive that folks that love you never actually leave you entirely. At the moment it hurts like I hell, but as time goes by you will learn to live with this and be able to remember all the nice things and forget the pain you feel right now, bereavement is a process and has to be travelled. I takes a few years, and you will always miss her, but the pain will leasen trust me. But I know in my heart that she will always be looking over you and you will meet again one day, in the long distant future, j mean while, make her proud, and be brave.

Answer 3

I think that it is important to remember you nan in a positive way, dont listen to the people who have told you to think of something else, that will only make your greving process worse. You are going through a very hard but normal process that everyone goes through when they have lost someone special. Time is a healer and with time you will be able to remember your nan and things about her without feeling sad and upset, but right now it is normal to feel the way you feel. Think about the life lessions she taught you and the things you liked the most about her, it will hurt but it will help you to be positive, and look to the future.

Answer 4

How old are you? Do you believe in God and an after life? If so then you know she is still there with you in your heart. All the talks you two had together are going to mean so much to you in the future now. She will have a lot to do with your concience and how you make decisions. There was a purpose for her being in your life and it will live on with you. Of course it hurts, you loved her. You should do some crying and grieving but remember also to laugh and cherish her time and purpose she had here on earth with you.

Answer 5

Just remember the good times you shared. The hurt and numbness will subside over time. Try not to dwell on the fact that she is no longer on this earth, but the fact that she has gone to a better place.

Answer 6

You haven't totally lost your nan - she's gone physically, but she lives on forever in your heart and mind. It hurts - but treasure the memories, no one can take them from you!

Answer 7

i'm really sorry to hear this.
you are going through the natural process of grieving, and only time will heal.
i lost my beloved grandfather when i was 8 years old. i have kept and treasure every letter he wrote me and every picture he drew.
think of the good times you had together, allow yourself to grieve, have a good cry. letting your feelings out can make you feel better.

Answer 8

first off, well done for being brave enough to admit that, not many blokes admit they are feeling down/low/emotional.

know that you will never forgt her and she will never forget you, and no doubt she is now watching over you to help keep you safe.

and dont be afraid to cry if you feel the need to...tears are very cleansing and can help ease some pain, dont feel you have to keep it in....

*hugs* to you, it will get better in time :)

Answer 9

Remember the good times and smile. Time will take care of the rest.

Answer 10

stay in touch with family and friends that will help you in your journey, sorry to hear about your nan, and good day to you.