Last summer I dated a girl for a month or so and we both grew extremely attached to each other. However, I had to go away to my first year of college while she stayed back for her senior year of high school. The long-distance didn't work with her and she broke up with me.
We tried twice more while I was at school but the distance just didn't work for her. Now it's summer, and next year we'll be going to the same college. I recently went out with her and she still flirts with me and we still talk like we used to but there's one problem: she's dating someone. He's going to college far away so she will be in a similar predicament as she was with me.
Throughout these past 11 months, I haven't lost any feelings for her (I still think she's the one even after a year in college) and I don't think she lost many feelings for me and I can tell she's drifting away from her boyfriend. She's coming over tomorrow for most of the day...WHAT DO I DO? p.s. letting her go is NOT an option! Thanks
2006-07-15 13:28:25 · 12 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm just saying letting her go is not an option so people don't tell me to let her go. I know it is realisticly always an option.
2006-07-15 13:34:55 · update #1
Well it sounds as if you're in the prime position now, doesn't it? You're going to the same college and her current bf is going away. You have history with her, you know her...be her friend right now and be supportive of her having to say goodbye to the bf and you'll be right in place to step back into the role of boyfriend. This couldn't have been set up any better for you, my friend!! Talk about Divine Guidance! Don't go rushing in right away, you don't want to scare her. Take your time and let all of the details fall right into place for you.
2006-07-15 14:00:50 · answer #1 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there is really no need to hint around it. If this is someone you were once close with you should be able to just come right out and tell her how you feel. Express to her that your feelings haven't changed for her and that if she is willing you want to give your relationship another try. Whatever you do don't down the guy that she is with. Just let her know that your the better man for the job. Just for extras maybe some flowers and her favorite candies may help. Good Luck Sweetie!!
2006-07-15 13:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by Domo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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My heart goes out ot you. I totally understand how strong your feelings are for this girl...
because she is playing you like a fine instrument.
I'm so sorry that you are "reading into" her YOUR strong feelings...and you are NOT seeing how she is a "player" to both you and the present boyfriend. She doesn't love him. She doesn't love you either.
She's the kind that TEMPORARILY "Loves the One She's With".
YOU KNOW THIS IS TRUE !!!
Ya, I'm breaking your heart right now...but it's now or later...you're never going to win this woman's love.
It's not in her.
She goes where she gets the best instant attention, and when it wanes, she's off again on the prowl for another sucker.
If after all I've said you still feel like letting her go is NOT an option!" Then get very used to hurting, and being suckered, 'cause there's lots more to come...as long as you put yourself out there for her to stomp your heart at her pleasure, and USE you at her pleasure.
To hell with your wants and needs right? ... just give everything you've got to this Miss, and suffer endlessly,...
you're a terrific martyr. (uh, some people call that being a fool. But I won't).
It's really hard to understand that YOUR love for her is so big that you just can't SEE that her love for you is not equal, or worthy.
Question: Of all the young women you meet, there is not one other Miss that is really great for you to spend your love on...someone who won't USE you?
It might be a good idea, for you to think about
LOVING YOURSELF in a more respectful way as to take care of your own heart better.
Be YOUR OWN best-friend, and talk to yourself.
The best way to give your heart out in love, is in small increments, give and take equal amounts, as LOVE, TRUST, AND RESPECT build for both people...that is how it is built to last.
Be good to YOUR heart
I wish you love
stw
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2006-07-15 13:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe with both of you in the same location she'll decide that it's you she really cares for. If she breaks it off with her current boyfriend then good. However it's really dangerous and scary to say letting her go is not an option because if that's what she wants unless you're nuts that's what you have to do.
2006-07-15 13:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just bethe way you were with her when you guys were together, i think you guys will strt dating again after you both are in the same hostel...
2006-07-15 13:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by Teen-sensible! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself and see what happens. I think she still likes you.
2006-07-15 13:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah seduce her, invite her to ur bedrooom, and go all the way
2006-07-15 13:32:18 · answer #7 · answered by Aaron V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to be with someone who cant wait for you?? you are beyond help
2006-07-15 13:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have answered your own question grasshopper!
2006-07-15 13:33:09 · answer #9 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eat here out
2006-07-15 13:31:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋