I need some suggestions...besides the obvious just get a new guy to think about. I would greatly appreciate your suggestions and advice. Thank you! :)
2006-07-15 13:00:32 · 21 answers · asked by kago 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ahhh crushes. I remember them well. Getting over one takes time, but tell yourself if you don't have bad relationships, you will never recognize and appreciate good ones.
Tell yourself also that **** happens.
**** happens, and this **** will not only not break you down, it will build you up. Give you experience and seasoning.
In the meantime, while time is doing it's healing bit, be nice to yourself. Force yourself to do the things you used to like but don't anymore because you are depressed and don't enjoy anything. Smile. Studies have shown that using your facial muscles to smile makes you feel good. I say they are right.
Another thing to aid you in feeling better is to do something you thought you could not do. Think of something you would like to do, but feel you can't, and do it--who knows, you might suddenly find yourself being a female auto mechanic :)
Hugs, hugs, and more hugs.
2006-07-16 15:35:17 · answer #1 · answered by Matilda 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, it seems we're both in the same situation. =) What I think you should do is focus more on why you SHOULDN'T like him. If you seriously need to get over him, maximize in your head everything about him that you don't like, and soon enough you'll say, Ew, why did I like him?
It's always a must to stay away from him. Don't go some place that you know the chances of seeing him are great, because then he'll start running through your mind again. Just make sure you don't put yourself in situations where you will have to think about him or see him, and soon enough the flames will die and you'll forget why you even liked the guy in the first place. Good luck!!
2006-07-15 13:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by holly_wood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one because you have to do most of the work. You need to realize that it's HIS loss, not yours. I know that sounds cliche', but it's true. Cliche's become chliche's because they're true. A lot of positive self talk is needed here. Ex: "I'm a really neat person and anyone would be lucky to be my friend." Also, you CAN decide how you're going to respond. "I'm NOT going to let this get me down. I have too many other imortant things to think about right now." Remember, you're way more important to a lot of other people this guy. Your family and most important--- your real friends!
2006-07-15 13:21:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Concentrate on thinking about the new guy, or go back to old one. Figure out why you betrayed him, if you did, and ask for another chance. You could also read some good books, practice your karaoke singing, write poetry about the newer guy, or about your feelings, concerning the relationship that was, and the one that's to be. Heck, you could even write and finish a book or story about the past relationship. Then start to think about something or someone else. These things take time, C.A.
2006-07-15 13:04:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GoD i really wish i could help you on that......bUt to that i have no answer, because i have a broken heart also, about a year and a half now, and still can't get over this person. Every time i hear sad music or when i'm driving my mind goes right there, and makes me feel miserable.... :( I'm sOrRy i can't help you oN this.....I wish you the best with all my heart..Ciao tesoro....
2006-07-15 13:06:46 · answer #5 · answered by Lesley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i just got ripe apart six mouths ago. so i no how you feel. you should just just wait and let a good guy come along that will love you for you. and want to be with you for you and not sex. so many guy do that to day and it not right. all i want is a good girl that will let me love her and holed here and just take care of here. so if you fine a MAN that will love you for you and take care of you that the best. just DO NOT TAKE THE FIRST GUY THAT DROPS OUT OF THE SKY AT YOU. you should have the best there is out there. and you will fine it and it just take tI'me. but im here for you as a friend because i love to help other out and i just love to talk. so email me or I'M me. i no how you feel and I'm feel for you. my friend help me out a lot in the last six month. so now it my turn to help other in need. so I'm here for you and the one thing that got me in and out of bad time was praying and having faith. so I'm here and god bless.
2006-07-15 13:11:38 · answer #6 · answered by Chris Bell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you have to find a new person to like. Crush is normal and healthy as long as you don't do stupid things. Not unless it is really something serious....
2006-07-15 13:04:45 · answer #7 · answered by Zail-Em 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First bear it for a while and let it ALL out - its part of being alive. Cry all you want, vent all you want!
Then get busy, take a new hobby or immerse yourself in a hobby. Time heals and when you are busy time flies then you before you know it you have moved on...
2006-07-15 13:04:18 · answer #8 · answered by pinkginger13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to go shopping and buy a new outfit. I know it sounds like a cliche, but it works. It will get your mind off of him, and you will have a nice little reward afterward.
2006-07-15 13:03:35 · answer #9 · answered by drummer4justus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is a new and different suggestion that worked for me: find a few upbeat and catchy songs that say what you WANT to feel, which is goodbye. Sing it at the top of your lungs and dance your heart out.
2006-07-15 13:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by Arwen89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋