My girlfriend of 3 years just decited to go on a break. I recently found out that she left for another guy. She has done this in the past also but i always take her back. So my question is why does she do this? She leaves for any guy who shows her attention. But then always comes crying back saying she cant live without me. I give her all the attention in the world. She calls 20 times a day and if we dont hang out every night she's mad. Also she tells these new dudes "I love you" within the first couple of weeks. I am just really frustrated and need someones advice. Also we work at the same place and i do my best to be civil to her and say hi and she just brushes me off like i dont exist. I dont understand how she can all of the suddon not care about me. I thought when girls turned 21 they left the highschool crap behind?
2006-07-15 12:52:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You really don't know why?..... because she can and your just the guy to let her.
http://www.doubleyourdating.com (just sign up for the free stuff and see where that takes you)
2006-07-15 12:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by robertonduty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all this is sad because I can tell you are a good guy and that is the problem you have with this girl. She is using you. The reason she leaves and comes back is because she knows you will always be there no matter what. So she takes you for granted and of course she comes running back because their is no guy who treats her the way you do. You need to realize she does not care about you. If she did she would not be taking all these breaks to be with other men. Someone who really cares wants to be with you and no one else! You need to end it with her and find yourself a girl who is worthy of having a good guy like you. Trust me if you stay in this relationship you will only get hurt.
2006-07-15 13:02:13 · answer #2 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just dated this incredible girl and we had nothing but an awesome time together. She used to date this guy (who was also her first bf) who was controlling and verbally abusive. They broke up about 3-4 times over. Everytime they broke up he said he was sorry and that things would be different this time, and gave her the "wounded dog" look. Of course it was all bs. Now she's friends with him again and we've broken up. And although I know she knows deep down inside it's a bad idea she's doing it anyway. So I know exactly what you're going through (she went as far as to block me on AIM. What's up middle school?)
Try something out. It sounds like you're being too available to her. If you guys arn't dating at the moment I think you should start dating other girls (but still hang out with her of course....at first). Make your time hard to get. Don't ignore her, just keep yourself busy with things that don't involve her. Let her know (without telling her) that you're not her psychiatrist, nor are you Mr. Plan B. I think you can find much better girls out there man. Good luck!
2006-07-15 12:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude,
I'm sorry to hear about all that crazy drama. I would like to help you, but I need more information. Write back if you can. So far, it sounds like she just isnt into you. If she really loved you for the long haul, then she wouldnt be interested in the attention of other guys. She sounds imature too. It totally sucks when you love someone who isnt at your level....Write back, I'll try and help.
Annette
2006-07-15 12:57:25 · answer #4 · answered by annette s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry about this breakup
honestly, many girls do not grow up after they turned 21. Many girls are into the party party party and that let to damage their brain cell and become immature for many years of their live
and good news is, that u will find a good girl out there who doon't drink and be a happy girl that won't be crazy, control, or drama to u
she will love u and treat u like a king.
2006-07-15 12:57:07 · answer #5 · answered by DivaStar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you're going through puberty. Isn't that what 12-13 year old nerds do, just let girls wrap them around their little finger.
If you weren't low on self -esteem, she wouldn't take you for a fool. pull yourself together and be a man, and find a girlfriend that deserves you, other wise this will always be the cycle.
Oh yeah, grow up dude!!!
2006-07-16 08:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by zero Tolerance 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do mostly but some girls just crave attention. Don't let her use you in this way any longer - you are just hurting yourself. If she does come crawling and sobbing her way back to you, tell her that you will only take her back when she has sorted out her 'issues' by getting some counselling for her attention-craving problems. See how she likes that!
2006-07-15 12:57:09 · answer #7 · answered by Tatsbabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey that's to bad mate, you dont need a chick like that, she will keep doing it to you as she as been , it seems you may be to nice to her and she dont care about that .
Cut your losses and move on , she is playing you like a fool and cant make up her mind.
Stop being nice to her as it is not getting you anywhere , find someone better .
Hope it works out
2006-07-15 13:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by mrk_choice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember ... you asked the question.
Answer:
She does not care about you because you are a doormat, a wuss, a pathetic whiner. Women don't like that for very long. Grow a pair and maybe she might see you differently.
2006-07-15 12:59:42 · answer #9 · answered by 321 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave her once n for all...She's gonna keep doing unless you set some boundaries...look for a sane girl...
2006-07-15 12:55:58 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Snowflake ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋