2006-07-15 12:51:57 · 9 answers · asked by Damisses 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Maid of Honor Duties
As the Maid of Honor or Matron of Honor, you have one of the most important roles in making sure the bride's and groom's wedding is a success. Many times the groom will not help out as much as the bride would like which is why your role is so important! Below we have listed some of the top maid of honor duties to make the process more manageable and creative:
Pre Wedding
Help in going with the bride to look at different locations for the wedding. Many times the Bride needs help in choosing where to have the ceremony and party besides what day and time to have the wedding. Ask if you can participate in this process since it can be a very stressful.
Help the bride choose her wedding invitations as well as possibly address the invitations if she needs your support. Many times a bride may outsource her invitations but if they need to be addressed by the family, your help will be key in reducing the load of tasks to complete.
If the bride needs help in ordering and choosing decorations and favors, your opinions may be helpful in making decisions for narrowing down choices and making sure the decorations are in on time for the wedding, shower and bachelorette parties.
Go with the bride when she is shopping for her wedding dress as well as the Bridesmaid Dresses. It is very important to help make sure the dresses are ordered and arrive in enough time for alterations! It is helpful for you to attend the multiple fittings in giving your friend some feedback in how the dress looks and fits. Check out our partner, Perfect Bridesmaid Dresses, for great name-brand discount wedding and bridesmaid dresses.
Many times the groom does not want to go to register with his bride-to-be. You can be very supportive by going with your friend to register for her wedding gifts as well as letting other guests know where the bride and groom are registered. This is a very fun experience so take part in the choosing if she needs help.
Help the bride in the seating arrangement. This can be a very difficult process with the more people coming to the wedding. Many times it makes it easier to draw out the tables and move people around until you have a close to perfect fit. Note: It is very helpful to bring this drawing to the wedding just in case there are any mix-ups, you will save the day!
Host and Plan the Bridal Shower as well as the Bachelorette Party!
Help keep order and organization with the other bridesmaids.
Attend and help out during the rehearsal dinner. Many times the bride, groom and their families are pre-occupied and forget about things which is where you can save the day by being organized.
Field messages for the bride and her family to make sure you are up on any changes (especially if they are last minute changes that affect the other guests).
Wedding Day
Make sure the bride arrives to the ceremony and that she has everything on the Maid of Honor Checklist that we have created to make your life easier.
Assist the bride in getting into her dress and makeup
Be the messenger if the bride wants to communicate messages to the family or groom so you are always up on what is going on.
Visit the reception room and party room (if possible) to make sure there are no problems or issues. It is much better to be proactive.
Help make sure the bride has privacy if she needs some quiet time before the ceremony.
Be the witness in the signing of the marriage license which is an honor!
Help the bride with her veil and train (if she has one). I have seen many weddings where brides have tripped on their train which takes away from her experience for a moment.
Be your friend's "right-hand-woman" at the altar. She may be very nervous and you can be the calming source with your presence.
Keeper of the brides bouquet during the ceremony. Make sure you have a free hand.
Keeper of the groom's ring. It is your task to also make sure the groom's ring is in your possession at all times until you give the ring over to the bride!
Make a toast and/or speech during the wedding party since it is tradition and most people love hearing these friendship stories!
Make sure you lock up the bridal/groom money bag after the bride and groom dance with all of their family and friends so someone does not steal or pick it up by accident.
Last, but not least, provide moral support and be a great listener throughout the process since it is a very wonderful and "positively" stressful time for your friend. You can really make the difference!
Overwhelmed yet? smiling Talk to your friend...she should let you know what she wants you to do.
2006-07-15 12:54:51 · answer #1 · answered by loriiskind 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I've been in a similar situation before (to your's, not your friend's). In her case though, my friend was being beaten and choked and still didn't get it, and I made the huge mistake of beating her over the head with the fact that I didn't like her boyfriend. Granted, whenever she needed to get away, she'd come to my house, where she felt safe, but as soon as he apologized, she went straight back home to him. One day, she disappeared, and no one has seen her since. I truly believe this guy killed her, and the police have never taken me seriously about it. That was four years ago. The worst thing you can do is keep telling her how much you hate him. I'd say it's probably okay to drop a little, "Why do you let him do _______" when he does something awful, but if you keep telling her how terrible he is (and from what you said, he certainly is), you're only going to push them into a neat little unit. She's not going to see him for what he is until she's ready - and she may never be. What's really telling is that she won't trust him to have a gun in their house - it sounds to me like the gloss on his ability to make her think he's a nice guy is cracking, even just a little bit. It's important that you slip in a lot about the fact that he doesn't take responsibility for his actions or feelings. Ask her why she thinks he does that, and if she thinks he does that about her. If he has this kind of resentment for his own family (who does sound kinda screwed up), chances are good he's building the same kind of hostility towards her, and that's dangerous. The best thing you can do is be supportive of her without being supportive of her relationship. It's a fine line to walk, but a lot of women stay in relationships like these long after they shouldn't because they think they can't do any better, or that they deserve this kind of treatment. So remind her she's great, be there for her, and ask her leading questions to get her to think carefully about this guy and the way he treats her - it may just be that that'll be the last push she needs to see him for what he really is. No matter what, though, make sure she keeps her foot down about the gun thing. If he brings it into the house, tell her she's got a safe place with you, and then be ready for her.
2016-03-27 06:54:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not and i repeat DO NOT call attetion to yourself if you choose the dress make it the ugliest dress you can find so ppl focus on the bride not you ;) this is the most important part about being a brides maid or maid of honor
2006-07-15 14:08:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id like to help you, but you didnt write your problem being a maid of honor.
2006-07-15 12:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by daydream♥believer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do a search at www.theknot.com for "maid of honor" and duties. Theknot.com has a bunch of good resources and tips for brides- and grooms-to-be, as well as the attendants (and even guests).
2006-07-15 13:28:02 · answer #5 · answered by gratitude&serviceareourstrengths 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some gloves and a garden hoe. Weeding is tough work.
2006-07-15 12:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk down the aisle
2006-07-15 15:12:00 · answer #7 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply put - Whatever the bride needs you to do, you do.
2006-07-15 12:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by ... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just show up to help and make sure your dress fit
2006-07-15 12:54:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋