Why women do not like nice guys?

Question

After serving in the military and seeing how the majority of women oversea's are treated with cruelty, rape, and being thought of less than an animal. It really is troubling to be back in here and find that women I date say I'm too nice. We continue as friends and they pick these guy that treat them like crap, degrade them in public, and so forth, yet they "love" them. What is wrong here?? Are American women that spoiled?? Should I treat you like I'm a drill sergeant??. That sure seems to be what women want. I don't get it, and yet women here sometimes wonder why men want foreign wives. Hello!!!! Could we make this anymore confusing??

Answer 1

I don't get it either....I'm a nice girl and the one guy I want..doesn't want me...it's hateful... Yes, I believe most American women are spoiled (even though I am one) it's too bad that they don't start looking for something that will "last" instead of taking the easy way out and going for nothing but looks...there IS more to a person ya know..
I just wanted to say that I read your Profile and I totally agree with you about our troops and being in the war...I just talked to someone the other day and I said how the press is sooo biased and partial, that most of the time they don't report things in full or give credit where credit is due.....I said that I was getting a little angry because no-one was bothering to listen to our troops and hear what they actually have to say about the war...that if they listened to them, they would find out that most are for the war and totally support it and can give a true testimonial as to what's happening over there....you know what his response was??
He said that the military is "brainwashed" into believing that they are fighting for a worthy cause....he actually believes this too!!!
I couldn't believe that someone actually said that....and believed it!!! What morons!!!
Have a Great Evening!!!

Answer 2

For the record- love a nice guy!!!

However, American women have a fierce independant streak in them. The let-me-hold-the-door-for-you-all-the-time kind of guy is in direct contradiction to the fact that we are strong-capable-of-taking-care-of-ourselves kind of women. It's not that we're that spoiled, it's that we're that *tough*. We see the degradation towards women that goes on in other countries, and we don't really view it as a travesty (even when we do). What usually comes out is "I would NEVER let a guy do that to me!"

The jerks who open the door, walk through and let it slam before we get to it recognizes that we can take care of ourselves. It's a turn on.

This is so simplified, and very general. I'm not trying to offend any women out there, or presume to speak for all of this. This just represents my opinion.

Answer 3

No we don't want you to treat us like a drill sergeant, not at all! I think what we want is someone who considers them self to be an equal with us. We don't want someone who is there at our every beck and call and yet we do want someone who will listen and take notice of what we say to them. There is nothing wrong with a nice guy so long as he isn't too nice, like rolling over and agreeing with everything we might say and acting like a lap dog. I sure wouldn't want someone who was gonna degrade me in public or treat me like crap, no way. However, a man who has a little mystery about him, a twinkle in his eye and a bit of mischief up his sleeve will win every time over Mr "Yes darling, of course, whatever you say"!

Answer 4

Because opposites attract. Women are women men are men.The good bad and the ugly.The trick is to find the one that is the perfect fit for you. Not that American women are spoiled! Another thing, Thank You,Thank You from the bottom of my heart for your service to our great country and keeping us safe.I am behind our troops 100% and also believe everyone should be.

Answer 5

Being an outstanding guy does not recommend being a testosterone-unfastened dishrag, that's what various adult men think of. an outstanding guy can nonetheless have swagger, be eye-catching, be humorous, do ambitious issues, etc. i understand a guy who rides motorcycles, jumps out of airplanes and has weekly suppers along with his monther, case in point. "undesirable" to me are those adult men who beat women human beings up, like manipulating women human beings because of the fact potential makes them sense sturdy, etc...

Answer 6

All i can say is that women who think that way are WAY shallow! I absolutely LOVE nice guys! I wouldn't have it any other way! I love gentlemen and the classic romantics. I know what you mean though about the "spoiledness" i guess. The whole system is messed I think.....I hope you find what you're looking for :)

Answer 7

Well I'm canadian XD But I don't actualy know what you people are talking about? My boyfriend is nice >> and all my friends are in to nice guys... I havn't met someone yet who dates a guy who's bad to her? Maybe I'm missing something?
Not all women hate nice guys << all the girls I know love them =P

Answer 8

Women are brainwashed from birth to want men that they percieve to be more successful than others. Unfortunately, these same men are brainwashed to believe that to be successfull, they have to be assholes and/or pricks. By the way, women are also misled to think that material wealth is the best sign of power and success.

Answer 9

.By the same token, why are you interested in women who are interested in only bad guys? Not all women want guys who treat them like crap(I know I don't , I like nice guys). Some women just like bad boys and that is their preference.

Answer 10

Actually,you can't be too nice to some women. I'm not saying be rude,i'm saying be freak. Don't get me wrong. I used to be so nice to my previous girlfriends,my friends were being funnily manish,thats what they want.a manish man,you just have to be manish at the right time. To cut this short:if a woman says you're too nice switch it up and be freaky at times.