I am 20 years old and had sex a few months ago for the first time with a friend. Well it wasn't really sex, because I was a virgin I told him he had to go really slow and be gentle. He was very sweet about it but it hurt me so much that I had to tell him to stop. So it only last a few minutes. It was painful and even made me bleed...and now I don't want to try it again. What can I do to make it less painful? We used lubrication and protection, however I was nervous, which I know didn't help the situation. But I never imagined it hurting so much. Any help would be much appreciated.
2006-07-15 12:35:15 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It only hurts at first. Later it is great.
2006-07-15 12:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well this is coming frm a girl u should wait until u find the right person that u can go through so much pain with but the first time and second time will hurt and that is something tat u got to go through thats good that u waited until u were 20 im only thirteen and u are a really good role model to me to let me know there are people who wait
2006-07-15 12:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by cookiemonster31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal for it to hurt the first time. And there will be some bleeding. This is because you have a covering over the inside of your vagina called a hymen. When that covering breaks, as it will the first time your penetrated, it will hurt and you may have some bleeding. You shouldnt let it scare you. All women go through the same thing. Its also normal to be nervous the first time. Your boyfriend was too.
2006-07-15 12:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you had sex. You're not a virgin anymore.
Second, if it was too painful, you may want to consult your doctor, that's not normal.
You may want to try finding a dildo that is smaller than your partner and work with it at your own pace.
But stay positive - either it is something you'll get past or it's something that you may need some medical treatment for - and then you'll get past it.
2006-07-15 12:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by justwebbrowsing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have someone who will take a long time to get you ready,it wont hurt if you are not nervous and ready,just dont let someone rush,its beautiful if you have a lot of foreplay first
2006-07-15 12:41:23 · answer #5 · answered by ken m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it probably hurt because your were nervous, you probably werent very comfortable either. for me, the first time hurt a lil and i bled a lil bit. but the guy was so caring a gentle, that i felt so comfortable. next time, just make sure you're 100% ready and not so nervous.
2006-07-15 12:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it kept hurting for like the next five times for me, it kinda took awhile for it not to hurt anymore. thats why i did it with someone i love, because it was worth it when it stopped being painful.
2006-07-15 12:39:20 · answer #7 · answered by hotsing1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it only hurts for a bit.if you were dry it was worse use lube.usually a few mins into it u get past the pain and its all good from there.
2006-07-15 12:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by sassy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that I think will help will be trusting the one you are with and feeling tottally comfortable with them. Now that the "cherry popped" it shouldn't be as bad.
2006-07-15 12:39:34 · answer #9 · answered by Rod P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh you popped your cherry. aka you broke your hymen. a little layer of skin in your vagina that breaks when u have sex for the 1st time. so it bleeds! usually it happens before sex when your streching or something.
2006-07-15 12:38:11 · answer #10 · answered by macey_brasil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋