We go to different colleges that are about 6 hrs away. About 6 months ago she made out with girls and did other crazy stuff. I don't drink and she thinks I'm over reacting. I want her to stop drinking. Am I wrong in think so.
2006-07-15 12:28:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are NOT wrong but you're not going to change her. You have to make the choice for yourself. Do you want to live your life with someone with self-destructive habits, or do you want to move on to be happy with someone who makes you happy and enriches your life. Telling her what to do will just put your relationship into a parent-child situation. What happens when kids grow up? They leave... She'll end up dumping you 'cause "you're no fun" etc.... Get rid of her and move on with your life. If it's meant to be, she'll clean up her act and come back. If not, then it's better you move on now rather than in years when you have all kinds of ties and loose ends
2006-07-15 12:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by Shopgirl9337 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong to THINK so...... and you are not wrong to want her to quit. I was married to an alcoholic and I desperately wanted him to quit drinking but he wouldnt. It HAS to be up to them. Even my counsellor said that........ many times. So the only part that you are wrong about is telling her to stop. Oh you can do that, too, if you want but dont expect a miracle. However,......... you MIGHT get lucky. My best friend gave her husband the ultimatum that he quit drinking or she would leave him and take their children.. He quit. When I gave MY husband that ultimatum, it didnt fizz him at all. He didnt make a move, and so I ended up having to leave HIM. Unfortunately, for all involved..........
2006-07-15 12:44:53 · answer #2 · answered by ladyjailbird424 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 03:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by treiber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You can tell her to stop drinking. No. You're not wrong to want her to stop drinking.
If you'd asked an easier question like, "Am I limiting my choices to this girlfriend who drinks like a sailor, cheats like a dog in heat, and does not consider how I feel about her drinking,"
The "easy button" answer would have been, "Duh?"
2006-07-15 12:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by divabylaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u shld be the man and put ur foot down dat u want her to stop drinking and she shld consider the relationship over.
Girls love dat, i'm sure she'll change.
2006-07-15 12:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by Deejay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell her to stop drinking, but it probably won't work. It sounds like she has no self-respect, which means she can't respect you or your relationship. If there's no trust there, dump her and find someone who respects you and herself.
2006-07-15 12:36:46 · answer #6 · answered by Lady J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not overreacting. Your girlfriend has a serious drinking problem and you would do well to get her to go to AA...the biggest problem she has is that she thinks she has no problem.
2006-07-15 12:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by loriiskind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but you can tell her you're not her boyfriend anymore. Have some self-respect, man!
2006-07-15 12:31:40 · answer #8 · answered by sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no god no if she does not care bout how u feel bout her drinkin then she dont love u leave her i hate to say it but u dont want to be hurt like that
2006-07-15 12:39:10 · answer #9 · answered by lollipop 101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋