What would your do if your 8 year old swore?

Question

Only yesterday my 8 year old son came out with the swear word w**ker. I could not believe it I was gobsmaked and very angry. What would you do for punishment?

Answer 1

Washing out a child's mouth with soap is abuse. it teaches nothing - especially since children learn these words from grownups.

I personally cannot understand why you would be mad because your son swore. I can imagine being embarassed if he swore around someone with delicate sensibilities, or disappointed because he was verbally abusive to someone, but to be mad just because of a word would be pretty irrational. (If he is verbally abusive, who taught him that? That person will need to get in line if your child is ever going to.)

I taught my children that certain words are inappropriate in certain places. Because I never hit them, didn't put them in the care of strangers, and always strive to be consistent with and respectful of them them, they just take what I say as good advice. I know it works, because my kids are 9 and 13 and, having sworn in public a time or two when younger, are now appropriate and polite gentlemen.

Your job is to teach your child. Not to get angry when he acts like a child - remember how awful that felt to be in trouble just for being new here? Your job is to tell your child when such language is appropriate and when it is not.

I suggest focusing on a child's treatment of others, home, and self. Is he a good person, a reliable person, a kind person? And how will he grow in that direction? By being abused with soap? No. By being talked to with respect, by being taught what's expected and why.

Good luck. And does w**ker mean penis? If so, teach him the proper words for such things, and you'll have less worry there, too.

Answer 2

w**ker? huh? do u mean F**ker? NEVER NEVER NEVER use soap this can actuially kill a kid and it has happpend..give him a chance to expalin where he learned this word and what he thinks it means maybve he doesnt know its bad. Let him talk without you interuppting. After he says what he has to say explain to him that fowl laungage is unacceptable, and next time there will be punishment. If it continues tell him that he has to write The sentence. I will not use bad words anymore. make him write it 25 times for the first offense. 25 the seond 50 the third after that try grounding him form TV Friends and games for a few days, increase the days each offense.

Answer 3

Tell him to shut the f$*# up.

Haha, no. Ask him why he said it and try to find out where it came from. You can't shelter him and he'll learn new words. So explain that it's not right to use those words and that they can hurt people even if he didn't mean to. Explain a good way to handle frustration if he does want to tell someone off. Don't feel like a bad parent or get too angry, it's a normal part of growing up for him.

Answer 4

Discipline does not always mean punishment. If this is his first time, it may be better to talk to him about it. Find out where he heard the word. Find out why he felt it was necessary to say the word and then teach him why that word is disgusting, demeaning and disrespectful to him and the people around him.

Let him know that that word and others like it are not to become apart of his vocabulary. Let him know that if he does it again you are going to have him sit down and write an essay about why the word or words like it are not essential to our vocabulary and give examples of acceptable alternatives to bad language.

Time consuming educational punishment has been the most effective form of correction for my foster daughter and nephew. I have seen many positive changes in the both of them since I have been caring for them.

Answer 5

any of the aforementioned ideas would work. I suggest explaining that those words are not allowed because they hurt people, then warn him that if he says it again, you will...(whatever punishment you choose-soup in mouth, take away toys, etc.) also, find out where he learned the word. if it was at school/day care, etc. talk to the adult who was watching him at the time. if it was from a movie or tv, keep a closer eye/ear on what your son is watching and get rid of (or at least put where he can't get to them) all the movies that don't come up to standards

Answer 6

It would depend on if he knew what the word meant and used it on purpose or if he was repeating something he heard without any idea of what it meant. If it was on purpose, I would probably make an 8 year old write a one page essay on why naughty words are hurtful to people around us.

Answer 7

Talk to him about the use of curse words are disrespectful and punish him by making him clean the house, and that if he ever swore again, there will be worse punishments.

Answer 8

Get serious!! The word wasnt even taht bad. Just tell him not to say it again. Why do you feel the need to PUNISH him? Hes 8, he will make mistakes once in awhile.

Answer 9

I made my boys sit down with me and define the words, I told them if they were going to use them, they had better know what they mean. And so, Holy F*****g S**t became Blessed Having Sex DooDoo,which they decided, did not sound cool at all. Never really had a problem with it after that.

Answer 10

I have a funny story about that... you see I was in kindergarden...and this girl named Tucker was being very mean to me and calling me names. So I decided to call her Tucker Fu@#$&. Luckily I was a smart little 5 year old so I told my parents what I was gonna call her before I told her.