He works in a hotel I know there are women that work there that are around our age. I panic till he comes home every night! He calls me alot while at work and says his world would fall apart if I left ect. So why am I afraid he will leave me or cheat on me? I get thoughts like the girls that work there are models running around in bikini's or something. Crazy I know.But I have seen him look at girls who were skimpily dressed while we were driving or in the mall. I can not dress in halter tops or daisy dukes. I say that I wanna start dressing sexier and he gets mad!
He takes care of me 100% and then some!
But I get insanely j imagining him flirting, talking to other girls at work. If he mentions a girl I freak! What is wrong with me! Help!
2006-07-15 12:02:30 · 9 answers · asked by Spay-n-Neuter-Your-Pets 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sounds like you're suffering from low self-esteem and relationship-esteem. Take a minute and think that he chose you. He CHOSE you. He's with you for a reason. You shouldn't have to dress sexier for him or worry about him cheating on you unless you see signs of it. Even then, try not to get paranoid and realize that HE CHOSE YOU for a reason.
Secondly, his reactions are typical guy reactions. He doesn't want you dressing sexier because he knows guys'll stare. He stares at other girls just the same reason girls stare at guys sometimes. Only, girls tend to hide it a little better then some men. Let him know you're feeling a little jealous, and you'll try and work on not letting it bother you, but you'd appreciate he helped out a little and tried to make an effort to not act accordingly.
2006-07-15 12:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
According to the reading I have done regarding hypoglycemia (low blood sugar), the brain, when it senses that blood sugar is low, will do sometimes strange things to get the blood sugar (glucose) out of storage and into the blood stream. Adrenaline is one sure way to do this. If thinking about your boyfriend's possible temptations causes you to get upset, leading to a release of adrenaline (fight or flight), then low blood sugar might be the cause.
Suggestion? About 2 hours before dinner, or if you feel you are thinking those thoughts, go to the kitchen and get some protein, meat, a can of tuna or whatever, and eat it. Also have some carbohydrate, like a handful of chips, an apple or other fruit, or some carrots/celery and some nuts or peanut butter. Eat at least 2 ounces of the protein. Then drink a glass of water and do something active for 30 minutes, like stretching exercises or singing. You may find your worry about him has lessened a bit.
Chronic low blood sugar can also cause self-esteem problems, anger management problems and a whole bunch of other physical and mental nasties. You may want to check out the symptoms link on www.hufa.org, and see how you check out.
2006-07-15 12:20:31 · answer #2 · answered by Pegasus90 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to calm down and focus on the reasons why he's with you. Obviously he sees something in you. You can't really do much to change your looks so just accept that you're not a model and be glad that you're other qualities amaze him, enough that he doesn't care about other girls who may look a little better.
If you seriously think he might cheat on you, then you have other issues about your relationship. Otherwise, just relax.
2006-07-15 12:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your problem is simply: low self esteem. Try to be more confident of yourself. If he hasn't`t like you already, he would`t have chosen you, since he is handsome and he sure had many other choices, but he had chosen you. So, take it easy. All boys can look at girls other than their girlfriends, but this doesn`t mean he likes any of them. I think if a man cheats on his woman, this is mainly because he LIKES to cheat, not because their is something wrong with his girlfriend. Best wishes.
2006-07-15 12:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by ☆Dana☆ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aah! I get the same way sometimes with my man... he's great to me and i know he would never ever cheat on me but i still worry and i figured out its cuz i love him and i dont want to lose him... you feel like your so lucky to have him and how terrible it would be to lose him and then u start thinking what if i do lose him and then omg theres other girls all over the place and it keeps on going and you worry and worry about something you should not be worrying about... im sure its somewhat the same situation with you and your guy... dont worry about it, theres nothing wrong with you... you just care very much about a guy :)
2006-07-15 12:09:32 · answer #5 · answered by Lissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seem like he isn't the one with issues...it's you....
You gott trust him.....not doubt him. He has a job & he will have to talk to a female customer, at some point. If he is telling you stuff that you need to hear....listen to him & stop doubting him....or it will be your fault when or if he leaves you.
I have been married for 10 years to a very fine man that is in a hot rock band here in my town....he has to play the bar scene...& yes there are hooches there.....but he comes home to me....& I trust him....
if you don't have trust...you don't have a relationship.
2006-07-15 12:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have more confidence in yourself or he will leave...Chill out....You dont know for sure if he isnt cheating on you....Usually the guys who hate it when their girlfriend dresses sexy....are the ones that cheat....good luck
2006-07-15 12:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably took your virginity. Or perhaps you're guilty of your own behavior. Either way it wont last unless you get a grip on reality.
2006-07-15 12:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don,t worry looks aren't what all men want, you probably have a nice caring personality and he loves you don,t worry those sexy girls probably have nasty attitudes. Stay yourself he loves you for you.
2006-07-16 15:43:18 · answer #9 · answered by lizardlover42000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋