My wife is pregnant with 2nd child and she is fat.she was 19 with our 1st child and she only gained 22lbs?

Question

and after the baby she bounced right back to her normal weight. Flashforward to now 6yrs later and she is 4months pregant and weighs 165. When she was 19 and pregnant she only weighed 119 lbs. She says that she will lose all the weight and that she is miserable being this size.. How hard will that be? Will I ever get my wife back??? Does age have anything to do with it. She isnt a pig when it comes to eating??

Answer 1

Don't give her a hard time about it. Age and pregnancies play a role. If you criticize her about it then she will probably get depressed and gain more weight. Show her that you love her no matter what. But after she gives birth, she can try working out with a running machine or ab lounge. But let her think that it was her idea, not yours.

I love my wife regardless of her weight, but I would only be concerned if it became unhealthy for her.

A good idea is if the two of you decide to work out together each day or pick a physical sport to play together after she has her baby.

I'm married, and my wife recently gave birth to our 2nd daughter. So I am speaking from personal experience.

Answer 2

It is MUCH harder to lose weight with your second child than with the first. The younger you are and more active you are it is easier to lose it. But from my experience after my 2nd child your body will never be the same, unless you really get a rutine workout going and stick to it. I was 17yrs when I had my 1st and weighed 125 and only gained 13lbs. I was 24yrs with my second and got up to 165 with him. Now i'm at 160lbs. So you see the difference also. Just about the same with your wife. I understand the weight difference and being miserable, but with most women I find that most of the " baby weight " don't start coming off after the 2nd child until 6 - 12months later. Just keep her spirits up and let her know that EVERY pregnant women is a BEAUTIFUL women!!

Answer 3

Will you get her BACK?!?! She didn't GO anywhere!! She is a human being. Love her unconditionally the way she is. Did she not TELL you that she'll lose the weight and that she is miserable? She sounds like she has determination. What you don't know is all the physical anguish and uncertainty she goes through carrying the baby and the crazy weight, body changes, aches and pain, et cetera. Be supportive of her. Tell her she is beautiful. Don't make her feel bad and don't do like my husband and start thinking about liposuction and special exercises while she's pregnant, like this jerk is doing to me. I've only gained 13 pounds and have only 13 weeks to go!!! Just love her and trust what she says. There are bigger things to worry about. How would you feel if she was displeased with you and your body? Un-huh. Be nice.

Answer 4

Well, if she breast feeds she will loose it faster, I gained 75 pounds at 5 feet tall, When I started feeling like I was ready to weigh 105 again I learned how to loose weight and get toned faster because at firs I just did cardio when I stopped with that 10 xtra pounds, I then said Im getting in a bikkini, I was getting my butt in shape and ended up with 15% body fat better then high school. but I didnt breastfeed, my sister over 30 gained 50 pounds breastfed and in 2 weeks she was same as before, so try to breastfeed burns 1500 to 2000 calories a day, good for baby, great for mommys butt. Tell her she better eat and be happy she can be fat for 9 months w/o guilt then she can get her bodt back and better if she wants

Answer 5

Just remember one thing, It takes2 to make a baby. You made her the size she is. Why are you harping on her size, Is it because ou are so unsure of yopurself that you think people are judging you by her girth when pregnant? And 119 pounds aat 19 and pregnant meansshe was really. really underweight, unless she was only4'6" tall. Its not how much she has gained, but what her original weight was before she got pregnant, and how far pregnant she is now.

Answer 6

First of all, stop watching TV and reading magazines... why? They've convinced you that people like Paris Hilton and her former buddy Nicole Richie are beautiful. Since when did women have to look like teenage boy beanpoles to be beautiful!? Women are meant to be curvy and are genetically predisposed to carry fat in areas like the hips and butts... they were MADE for carrying babies after all! Once you stop listening to the media, why don't you look at some pictures of Marilyn Monroe or some old artwork. There actually was a time when beautiful woman were of a normal size instead of skeletal-thin.

Answer 7

Think about this every week take two or three day for family exercise go to a track or a park, walk together; move up to jogging. When it gets dull change the routine to an active game like basketball. As your young ones grow they will join in. If that doesn`t work for you try a gym for the two of you.

Answer 8

Ok...im gonna try not to be a b it ch! BUT, what does it matter she's still your wife and this is the time that shes to be at her most beautiful caring your child when you look at her she is more gorgeous now than the day you married her. Try not thinking about how you feel and try about how she feels, feet swolen something moving inside and having not control over it.

BTW if shes' determined enough she'll have to problem loosing the weight.

Answer 9

She is the mother of your two children? Why can't you love her for her? I had two kids and I don't look the way I did in high school but my husband loves me for me. And he still finds me attractive. Ask her how your comments make her feel. Be supportive and love her. I'm sure 165 pounds isn't big at all. the average weight for a woman of 5'4" is like 140 pounds.

Answer 10

Naturally when a woman becomes older her digestive system alters and what she could do as a teen is difficult to do now. You should worry more about the baby than your wife's weight.