my dad has cancer what should i do?
2006-07-15 11:23:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
OR ELSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
O.O
2006-07-15 11:27:58 · update #1
Dear Kate,
Sorry to hear about your father, I work in a palliative care unit of a hospital we deal with cancer patients all day and night. Can I suggest you seriously look into the options available in your area. As the end draws near you and you family will need all the support and understanding that you can get. You should be able to find out more from your dad's oncologist ask about hospice care and palliative care.
You never need to give up there are treatments that can slow the cancer invasion down and since you didn't tell us what stage you father is at I'm guessing that you have just found out. Our prayers are with you and wish you all the best. Make sure your dad knows how much you love him and what a great dad he is.
God bless, take care.
2006-07-15 12:30:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sister Sandy (RN) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cherish every minute you have with him. It's going to be a long tough road with lots of emotion. Sometimes you're going to be so scared that you want to hide and other times so very happy. There is no right or wrong way to do anything when you're going through this with someone you love because every step can be painful and joyful. Find out if there is anything that he wants to do before he dies (if he doesn't then your lucky) and try to fulfil some of his greatest wishes if you can. If you are unable to do that then just spend as much time with him as you can, take lots of photos and video footage of him so you have something to remember him by. There is a lot doctors can do now so keep positive even when things don't look good. Remember it's ok to be sad angry happy etc. all at once. See a councillor if need be. good luck and enjoy what you have
2006-07-15 18:41:19 · answer #2 · answered by traceylolanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Kate
I'm a cancer survivor. I can tell you some things to do and not to do.
TO DO and NOT TO DO:
Love him, let him talk if he wants to about it, don't push him to talk if he doesn't want to, try to be as normal as possible like let him do things for himself if he's able to--don't take away his independence by babying him if he can do it himself. On the other hand, if he's tired and sick, help him by doing things he can't do. spend time with him, take his mind off the cancer like playing cards, board game, something he likes to do. Read all you can about the kind of cancer he has, how to treat it, all the options so you can help him make the treatment choice, don't try to force him to do a treatment because it's what you would do, let him decide. encourage family and friends to treat him normal, not like he has some horrible contageous disease, they need to support him and visit, come around like normal. Alot of people will avoid people with cancer because they don't know what to say or do.
PS I think you are probably scared and upset. Try to read all you can about the kind of cancer, that will help calm you, doing something constructive to help him, will help you too.
2006-07-15 21:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by Tina of Lymphland.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't do much. All you can do is stay by his side and show hope. There's hope for anyone.
By the way I know they said that they've never found the cure for cancer but there is a vitamin called B17 which is the cure for cancer... this vitamin is found in most fruit seeds but mostly the apricot seed. If you don't believe me research in yahoo for vitamin B17 cancer and read about it and be amazed at why they've hidden all this for so long.
2006-07-15 18:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry. My dad had colon cancer and he lived another 6 years. Sorry to say, he did pass away. Pray a lot and wheat grass will help prolong it. Just try anything!!! If you need someone to talk about it, feel free to contact me. I'm silly, but NOT when it comes to that.
~Jenny
2006-07-15 18:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by Notnadia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a hug and tell him you love him every day. Take pictures of the two of you together. Just be there for him. Anything you do with him now will seem that much more special later. If he's anything like my mom was, he'll care more about how you will be than he does about his illness.
2006-07-15 18:32:55 · answer #6 · answered by Wiguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for him. My dad had cancer but thankfully surgery was a option. Don't lose hope cancer does not necessarly mean death.
2006-07-15 18:26:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you can. See if he needs help with something, or someone to spend time with. If you need someone to talk to, try going to a therapist or a support group. Best of luck!
2006-07-15 18:27:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wel,you should spend some time with him,cuz if his treatment doesnt go well he might not be with you very long, i know its a sad and scary thought but you dont want to be regretting lost time after hes gone, be with him, support him throughtout the treatment,let him know your there and that you care,it does make a differnce
2006-07-15 18:28:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make up a more convincing story, the rest of the questions you posted are also juvenile.
"Or else 0.0"? So you are a fraud
2006-07-15 18:26:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋