Was falling in love a waste and a mistake?

Question

I met a girl about 9 months ago, and for awhile liked/loved her. But recently I'm starting to think it was a waste and I may have been better off without meeting her. I feel like everything wrong in my life rite now is her fault. I had my heart broken when she said she just wanted to be friends, and recently I think I lost her as a friend completely (we were BEST friends, talked every single day for hours). Her boyfriend hates me, and he's the reason we're not gonna be friends anymore, cause she'll listen to him when he tells her not to talk to me ever again, PLUS it sounds like he's gonna fight me one of these days. And idk if this is her or no, but I've lost my drive in school. My friends said i was stupid to fall in love when i did, and i'm starting to think it was. It was a waste of 9 months, all for NOTHING but bad things. I'm wishing rite now i never met this girl. For all you out there...be careful if you fall in love. Sometimes it can be good, sometimes it can SUCK.

i'm 16, and i feel like i missed out on a whole year of high school practically because of her, for nothing.

Answer 1

No one can really control when they fall in love. Never consider any relationship you may have as a waste of time. Why? Because, in time, when the pain has left, and you can see things more clearly, you will realize you learned something. It could be something big or something small. Maybe it's about you or relationships in general. Perhaps it will help you to react differently to something that was said. I'm much older than you. But when I was your age if someone had told me this I probably would have said yeah right, what ever. Yet, I know I would have kept it in the back of my mind for furture reference. Time is whatever you make of it. You didn't waste your time with this person, somehow it will help you grow into a better person, if you take it this way. You're wasting more precious time wondering if you wasted time dating her.

Love is never easy. It has it's ups that can make you feel like you're floating high in the sky. It can also make you feel sad and rejected, which can make you feel like you fell down and someone is kicking you instead of helping you up. In time, you will get over her. It won't be tomorrow or next week or even next month. But by this time next year, I'll bet you will be dating another girl. And this relationship that has just ended for you will help you relate to her.

I know you're hurting right now and you have every right to feel sad and upset, but don't let it get you down too much. I'm sure that you will find a terrific lady who will treat you wonderfully. I hope you will treat her the same way too.

Take care and keep your chin up.

Answer 2

No way, was it a mistake. Your 16, very young. Sounds like she was your first love. So this makes it harder. I assume maybe she may have been your first everything? This will be especially hard because you never forget your first. But don't ever regret falling in love. Some people never do. You'll realize someday that you've not only learned from this relationship, but you've grown as a person because of her. She brought into your life so much. You will love again, right now you don't think it's possible but believe me you will. Obviously you guys were just not meant to be and this is for a reason. There's someone else out there that is more for you. You won't love them the same because she's your first. But you can love just as much. Just look forward to someday loving again. Maybe next time of course different but who knows maybe better!!!! Don't despair you're so young!!! It will happen again!!!

Answer 3

It's best to speak to her about allowing her boyfriend to control her like that, ask if she's willing to give up some of her freedom of choice just to be with someone who obviously doesn't think too much of her since he's forcing her to do something against her will. Have the heart to heart conversation and whether or not she takes your advice now, she may in time and you'll end up becoming better friends.

Answer 4

its not a waste of time if u know ur in love but like u just need to be more carful im in love and hes the best thing in my life now hes made things so easy better than what it used to be but u defintly chose the wrong gurl

Answer 5

sometimes (which you have experienced and i have too) love is pain and it can break your heart

but just know that every love prepares you for the next one
so just know that this is not the end of the world, you have your whole life ahead of you

and i know how you feel i want my ex back but i think i have already given up on him...

and your right love is pain so just forget about this girl

if she doesnt want you, she is just making it easier for a better girl to come into your life!!

Answer 6

oh god ! come on maan.. ur like 16! practically the whole of ur teen life , and the fab 20's are in front of u.. thats like soo.. much of good time and great friend and future girlfriends to meet!
and NO , fallin in love is soo not a waste of time...
forget about ur ex and her jelous bf for a while.. let him act like ajerk if he wants to. If ur ex , as she said, wants to be truly friends with you, she will despite her current bfs talk to u..
and in the meen time, u come off it.. hang around with ur guy frnds, play on the playstation, do watevr.. keep ur mind off.. u never kno sum girl out there might hav eyes for u ;)

Answer 7

it's not wrong to fall in love..the problem is u fell in love with the wrong girl..anyway..move on and don't think too much about it..enjoy your high school years..