My girlfriend is Catholic, and I'm Baptist. I'm a Jesus freak (though, yes I'm still a sinner, duh), but she isn't very devoted to Catholocism. I don't think she's getting anything out of it. She's been to several meetings of our youth group at my church, but she says that those are boring, too. I love her dearly, and want the best for her, especially seeing that although I can't love her forever, after death, then He still can. Anyone who has any advice that WILL ACTUALLY HELP (notice the emphasis) feel free to give it. Atheists, and people who tell me to dump her (or both), don't bother answering. Thank you, and God bless.
2006-07-15 10:59:03 · 12 answers · asked by legolas85130 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Anyone who is open-minded enough will not care about what religion their couple is. My girlfriend is a Catholic. I'm a non-believer (not an atheist). And we have a lot of other things to base our relationship on. So, my advice would be for you two to base your relationship on what you have in common, not on the differences.
I hope I helped you.
2006-07-15 11:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is very hard. I can give you the answer, but you may not like it.
The Bible says we are not to be "unequally yoked" for a reason. The honest truth if neither partner is very devoted or serious about God, then it won't be a big deal. But the more you want to seek God, the more it will become a problem.
Let me just say I've been exactily where you are. It doesn't look like a big deal to you now. You may even get married and be very happy. But there will come a time when it will matter, and ultimately it will come down to a choice between her and God. In my case it was the biggest and most painful spiritual battle I have ever had to go through. God did get me through it and there is a happy ending, but there was a huge cost. If you want to email me I'll be happy to share the details.
But for now all I can say is, you don't have to break up with her (actually that's your choice). Continue to witness to her and pray that God would become real to her. Continue to seek HIm yourself and pray that she would see Him in you. Make sure you keep HIm (not her) first! But whatever you do, do not get married to anyone who doesn't know God like you do. You said you were a Jesus freak, so I'm taking your word for it. If you marry someone who is not, you WILL lose that fire for God. It will cost you, so don't let that happen. Nothing is impossible with God, but that's one battle you don't want to go through.
2006-07-15 11:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by Consuming Fire 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm an atheist but am a former Catholic. I was raised in a family like that. My mother is Catholic and my father is Baptist. We basically had to ignore that side of our family's religious history and my father had no say in the matter. Generally speaking, as the relationship progresses, you will be expected to convert to her religion. You will have to marry in a Catholic church and your children will have to be raised as Catholic. So, it's not so much that she is not getting anything out of your religious services. It's that she will never be accepted within her religion if she embraces yours. That doesn't mean the relationship can't work. It maybe can't work the way you would like, but two committed people who care about each other can overcome many obstacles as long as they work together.
2006-07-15 11:06:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you consider her less of a person because her faith isn't as fervent as yours? Could it be that she is bored, because she isn't learning anything, but already knows what your youth group leaders are trying to teach you?Or, she doesn't like being left out of the circle, because you treat her differently than your friends from your church? I've found that church groups tend to ostracise outsiders, and talk to them like they are slow, even if they are more knowledgable in the subject. Have you gone to any Catholic youth group meetings to try to understand her feelings on religion? Try being more like her, instead of trying to make her over to be just like you.
2006-07-15 11:08:29 · answer #4 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a Christian engaged to an agnostic. It works. My mom was a Baptist, and my Dad a Mormon, and theyve been married 30 years. Respect and love can go along way.
2006-07-15 11:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by sweetie_baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am baptist and my husband is catholic. He is not active in any church. The only advice that I can give you is to be patient with her and be an example of Christ. And PRAY.
2006-07-15 11:14:55 · answer #6 · answered by proudmatriarch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a person can dislike the classes and enjoy the religion. And what also can happen is that sometimes the parents force their kids into something and the kids don't want to do it simply because they are forced to do it.
2006-07-24 11:19:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not sound as if she is very religious, you must decide if you want to pursue her, if she is not religious accepting the same christian values that you hold, then the future is not bright. Notice the small c, it means in that case someone who accepts Jesus Christ.
2006-07-15 11:04:56 · answer #8 · answered by jegreencreek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dated a jewish girl once to her parents dismay, if she truly does not enjoy the concept of faith in any religion she is in then it may not work out if youre a bible thumper.
Try to test the waters, see if going to a more upbeat and friendly church does to reinstill faith, maybe she wants to convert(not that there is anything needed other than a willingness).
2006-07-15 11:06:09 · answer #9 · answered by hornychiken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 03:16:15 · answer #10 · answered by sokin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋