I stupidly dated my older brother's best friend (who is 4 years older than me). He got too serious and I broke up with him after about 5 months. Now I'm still single, but I have someone who I'm beginning to like. My brother assumed we were dating and now my ex is writing means messages to me online about how my reasons for breaking up with him were bullsh*t (when I broke up with him I tried to tell him he moved too fast and I wasn't as committed to it as he was...which is true) and calling me a manipulative snake and what not. I saw him today as he was picking up my brother to go hang out or something and tried to talk to him and tell him it's not true. He wouldn't listen to me and spent the entire time covering his ears. When I said I wasn't in a relationship, he said "Why do you care?" I said it's because he hurt me. He still wouldn't listen. What can I do in this situation without putting my brother in the middle.
2006-07-15 10:57:59 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, there's a situation going on with my brother and money he borrowed from me. This prompted my father to intervene (which is normal in my family because my father is a control freak), which of course my ex thinks I'm manipulating my father into punishing my brother. By the way, my ex is 22.
2006-07-15 11:20:09 · update #1
Just ignore the guy. You broke up with him and explained why you did. You do not owe him any explanations. If he doesn't get it, then he is just plain stupid. You can keep your brother out of it by not asking him to talk to your ex about why you broke up (I'm not saying you do this, but just in case you do, or are thinking about it...don't). Your ex may try to put your brother in the middle...that's ok, just as long as YOU don't. Bottom line...ignore him.
2006-07-15 11:08:33 · answer #1 · answered by Lab Rat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what your saying is that you broke up with him because you were'nt committed to the relationship but he thinks its because you had someone else on side...... because your brother told him you were seeing someone else because he thought you were still dating his friend??!!... and didn 't want to confirm the facts first by simply asking why you were out with someone else instead of his friend?which... if he had would have saved this entire mean message hurt feelings and reputation battering mess!!!!
if this is right ...
than what you should do is Let your brother tell him that He should have kept to his own bizness and that he made a mistake in the time factor because he did not get the memo that the two of you had broken up.And then apologize to you for not coming to his flesh in blood with his moral dilima over you and another someone back stabbing his friend.
2006-07-15 18:12:47 · answer #2 · answered by imartbitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is this guy that he was covering his ears? Are you sure he's 4 years older then you? Because you sound years beyond him. Anyway....
Stop confronting him. Ignore his messages, even change your email address and hope that he doesn't find it. And have your brother have a talk with him. Family should come before any friend and he should tell this guy that he's being rude by calling you names. Just do what you want and don't bother yourself with this ex. He sounds like a real immature moron.
2006-07-15 18:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the bad part is that he's your brother's friend and your always going to run in to him. but you shouldn't have to drag your brother into it because it's between you and your ex, though you should tell your brother to stop telling his friend what you do becaue you have your own personal life. It seems like your ex is very immature covering his ears and all that but is obvious he has feelings for you.
2006-07-15 18:09:10 · answer #4 · answered by skdfjasl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's just mad and jealous that you might be liking someone else and not him. I'd tell him that he just needs to move on and stop worrying about it so much and ask him why he cares so much if he thinks you're a 'manipulative snake'.
2006-07-15 18:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl walk away just let it be you don't have to explain yourself more than you all ready did.Sounds like you was the older person in that relationship any way.Its nothing you can do just don't say anything to him.He'll get over it.
2006-07-15 18:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him...i know it sounds hard but hes just trying to provoke a reaction out of you...if you see him just be pleasant...wait till hes calmed down in general before you try and speak to him about stuff!
2006-07-15 18:03:23 · answer #7 · answered by DDuk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him to Listen I want you to grow up yo are four years older than me. that you will cut him off completely so that he stops harrassing you. your reasons are valid and he needs to know this
2006-07-15 18:01:48 · answer #8 · answered by sarell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him ...he's acting like a putz.
let me picture this when he had his hands over his ears was he saying...lallalalalalalalalalalalalala.
He wants to make you feel guilty for breaking up with him....it's his problem ,don't make it yours.
2006-07-15 18:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell your ex to step off and back off of u
2006-07-15 18:01:15 · answer #10 · answered by hellhammer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋