i told my mom that she's wrong for trying to use the system she seems to think just because my bro. is bipolar that is cause for a disablity check every month and he can work nothing seems to be wrong with him b/cuz he will smoke and drink and party and can hold down a 9 to 5 but my mom makes him believe he can't do nothing more he's only 20 and has a fulll life ahead of him but he's always saying im disabled for instance he has a car and no license and was like the police had no right to give me a ticket cuz im disabled then i have an even younger bro. that's has a.d.h.d. or whatever now she thinks he needs an check once a month now a days people can not survive like that she has never put her foot down and been a mom and to me it's like the easy way out my bro. still lives at home my mom is constantly telling him to be a jigalo however you spell it anyway she wants him to find a girl to take care of him but im i wrong for wanting my family to better themself ?
2006-07-15 10:52:54 · 5 answers · asked by TEXXBRATT 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is dishonest to take money from the government. The taxpayer pays that money for people who are unable to work or support themselves. It sounds like you are the only honest one in your family. Your mother is a terrible role model. I hope you can get away from them and live on your own.
2006-07-15 10:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is an adult, and there is not going to be a single thing you will be able to say that will change what she is doing. You're not wrong to want to change things, but they aren't going to change. I am having family difficulties too (I'm not going to get into them here), and I have had to learn that giving my opinion only makes me look like the bad guy and then everyone is mad at me. The whole world is the way you are describing your mom: trying to get whatever she can on other people's accounts. I have a brother and his wife who are doing the same thing. Everyone else owes them because they have bigger problems than everyone else and don't even try to tell them that there are people out there who need it way more!
You just keep your head in the right direction, although you will soon find out that you are taking care of more than your family with "disabilitites." You will be taking care of everybodies "disabilities," and unfortunately, those who have legitimate claims are usually swept to the side because the frauds have their hands and mouths open wider.
2006-07-15 11:11:49 · answer #2 · answered by my three boys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're perfectly justified in your feelings, but there's nothing we can do to change the destructive life patterns of other people. As soon as you are able you need to separate yourself from this situation; loving your family doesn't mean agreeing to what you know is wrong. Rise above this and don't fall into the same trap. Be prepared later in life to be resented for taking a higher road.
2006-07-15 10:57:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, youre mom has really put you in a bad position. i agree with you that she shouldnt be telling your brother that he cant do anything in life because he really can, and it's awesome that you can see that. i dont really know what you can do about it though except let your brother know that he means a lot to you and that you believe in him. there is always room for improvement and youll always find new ways to better yourself. you seem like a good sister! good luck!
2006-07-15 11:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ur not may be she just doesn't understand u
2006-07-15 11:04:37 · answer #5 · answered by SaSa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋