OK, Here's A Short Summary Of What Is Going On: I was given an engagement ring by my ex boyrfriend, I say ex, because I found out that he was cheating on me on thursday night. I spent the night at his house because I got drunk and had nowhere to go. I left the next morning, got my car and went home, after I dropped him off a letter saying I am not dealing with this sh*t. Now he is harassing me with calls, threatening me to sue me for the ring, that I will go to jail, that he is having the police serve me with a warrant. And I don't have the fucki*ng ring at all. It was in his bedroom that morning. If I did, I would give it to him. But he says he will have his friends and family say I took it. He is just mad at me because I caught him and he is busted. So what can he do? And what should I do?
2006-07-15 10:40:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you all are reading this wrong, or at least some of you. I DO NOT have the ring...but he is threatening me because he says I do have it. Can he really do that?
2006-07-15 10:48:49 · update #1
I mean, can he sue me, for something I do not have...I don't want to deal with this, but he won't stop...as far as a restraining or no contact order....how do I do that? Because he has very bad friends, and I mean people he could have do his "dirty" work, so I am a little scared of him...he is piss*d, but only because he got busted...
2006-07-15 10:51:32 · update #2
its your ring keep it, an get rid of that loser, better you found out now that his a cheater than later, do not listen to his promise , let him learn from his mistakes, an dont give him another chance, men there all a like god should of named all them DICK...
2006-07-15 10:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the ring was really in the bedroom, let him call the cops on you, you have nothing to lose. If the ring is not really in his room, then take this into account- an engagement ring acts somewhat like a contract. It is given with the understanding that the relationship will end in marraige. If that promise is broken, i.e, if the contract is not fulfilled, you are supposed to give the ring back. HOWEVER, if the ring was given on a birthday, christmas, or on another day on which it could be deemed a gift, the ring is yours. At that point it became a gift, not a contract. (Many gifts have special expectations that go along with them, but those expectations will have no legal standing) Please be sure to check with your local authorities for clarification.
Quite frankly, if you don't have the ring, let him do what he wants. You just stand back, give the cops your side of things, and let them search you or your home if they try. You don't have the ring, you'll come out on top.
Then if you really want to, and he makes your life difficult, you can go after him for defamation of character.
2006-07-15 17:54:32 · answer #2 · answered by Jill J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, good thing you dumped him.
Secondly, legally speaking, you only have to give the ring back if you dumped him..b/c it was a promise you made based on the receipt of the gift, and if you go back on that promise, the ring must be returned.
Really, he can call and do anything he wants to do. And it comes down to his word against yours. You may be believed, but they might also feel that you probably won't give back the ring because he cheated and you are mad.
The fact that he cheated, however, allows you to keep the ring...I am almost sure nothing bad legally can happen to you.
You need to get an order of protection against him so that the tables will begin to turn and you start having the law on your side.
Don't let this man stress you out. Get the order and get his a** arrested the next time he calls or comes near you. Its that simple.
2006-07-15 17:51:49 · answer #3 · answered by ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a messy situation. He doesn't sound like the character that you want to spend the rest of your life with for sure!
I would first try to reason with him and tell him that you already gave the ring back to him. If that doesn't work, I'd just stay as far away from him as possible.
He can try to sue, but it doesn't look like he'll have any real evidence that you still have the ring. I don't imagine he would be able to do much about it.
I will say a prayer for you and the situation.
2006-07-15 17:51:10 · answer #4 · answered by GumbyGo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ring was given to you, it is a gift, whether you have it or not, he cannot legally sue you for it. A gift is a gift- it's not like it was a loan. Under NO law are you responsible for any of this. He's just pissed cause he screwed up what is more than likely the best thing that will ever happen to him! Go find yourself a good man, you deserve it Honey!
2006-07-15 17:50:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally, an engagement ring is a "gift given in expectation of an event". Basically, if the marriage doesn't happen, the person who PAID for the ring owns it. Which means he can ask for it back. It doesn't matter that you don't have it. If he claims you never gave it back, it's up to you to prove that you did. (witnesses, etc)
He can sue you for the value of the ring. (Paid value, not appraised value) That's in civil court. There's no chance of jail time. At worst, you can have your wages garnished until the value of the ring is paid back.
2006-07-15 18:06:16 · answer #6 · answered by cmriley1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you counter with your own defense, but I do believe you should just sell that ring or give it back, you have no reason to have it. It'd be a bother for me as well.
For you two to have been this fast of a break up it seems that engagement ring does not serve a purpose.
2006-07-15 17:45:17 · answer #7 · answered by Kenneth R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy is genuinely threatening you, report him to the police. Seriously.
Get someone else to witness what he's saying, for 2 reasons:
1) To back you up when you tell the cops
2) To get a second opinion - so you can be sure it's not all in your head.
2006-07-15 17:52:32 · answer #8 · answered by Song2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just wait this out and let it blow over. I doubt he would ever sue anyway. And in truth, he gave you the ring when he proposed so in fact it is yours and he can't sue you for it.
This guy sounds crazy, just count yourself lucky that you didn't marry him.
2006-07-20 14:24:31 · answer #9 · answered by MariaOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** him lol i wish you did have the ring cause if you did i would tell you don't give it back that was a gift. but anyway just to be funny get a no contact order on him
2006-07-15 17:48:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋