What do you do with 18 year old child who is interfering in mama's life?

Question

I am divorced from B's, father. We will call him M, & her sister's, N, father,we'll call him E. B never lived with N's father.
B had not seen E, since B was 9. Now, just lately, B is 18, & talks to E quite often on the cell. Note that E is currently in Iraq and can't keep his promises.
E gave mama STD's in the marriage, B knows this, E is $15,000 behind in support for N, E has 3 kids by 3 mamas, 1 mama is dead, & boy lives with his paternal grandparents, support is owed, & has boy with now wife. For B, within the last few weeks, E's chats have taken priority in her life, they had not spoken for over 6 years. B is talking E into promising things for B that M, wants/wanted to do for B but doesn't have the money or time. Inclusive of making M wait while B chats with E on the cell.
This is being kept a deliberate secret from M and N, E's natural child, B's father & all others. First, Do I ask her why? Second, Do I tell M and N? Third, Do I tell her how this hurts mama?

B doesn't live with me anymore. She lives with her Dad.
I had to used initials because the space is limited to characters used.

TeeJay made an interesting point... Could it be sexual?

I do not want the Springer show for my life.

Both were angry when I asked them nicely why they felt the need to talk. E volunteered that they have "thier own , private thinkg to talk about." That did not make me feel better.

Answer 1

Toss them into the street. 18 y/o's are not children.

Answer 2

I agree with Rachel Y. Leave M to be the ace in the hole and don't freak N out with all this. And if B and E are having a sexual thing over the phone then it really needs to stop because he is 1)acting like a walking penis and 2) if he goes for your other daughter B then in my opinion he is a pedophile no matter how old the daughters are because he is old enough to be their father since he is one to N.

Answer 3

Its your house. B is now an adult. She shoudl not be having talks that long with a man who used to be her mom's husband. if he gave you and std, he is a walking penis. Since B is not his daughter, it sounds to me like he's making a bunch of promises that he can't keep. What reason would a walkin penis have to promise a young woman things he can't deliver? AGAIN, its your house. Eaves Drop, or bug the phone. Find out the real deal and deal with it. She is your child, under your roof, and needs your supervision. I dont' think E can be trusted any farther than you can throw him. Especially where young women are concerned. She will either be hurt because the promises are not kept or hurt because E is a perv! Put a stop to this now!

Answer 4

B is a young girl sowing her wild oats... but on rocky ground. Yes, you should tell B how much she is hurting you. I would also make it a point to talk to E to see why he is talking to B so much. Chew him a new one! N doesn't need to know at this point, unless she comes out and asks about it. I wouldn't bring M in unless it is neccessary... leave him to be the ace up your sleeve.

Answer 5

You just need to use made up names instead of initials, it'll make the story easier to answer cause I have no clue what you're asking.

Answer 6

That made no sense seriously

Answer 7

Your confusing me!!

Answer 8

you deal with it