2006-07-15 10:00:59 · 42 answers · asked by Always Livin' Life 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OH MY GOD...Please get a grip woman! You are chasing them off faster than the plague with that attitude. No guys want something they can have, (especially so easily)...they want something they can't have. If you are desperate for a boy friend, you are desperate period. Guys can smell desperation a mile away. Kind of like a 10 point Buck and gunpowder.
2006-07-15 10:06:24 · answer #1 · answered by mslorikoch 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no set formula for "getting a guy" because all guys are human (hope that didn't come as a surprise) and humans are among the most diverse and different when it comes to personalities, like and dislikes.
However, there are a few things that can help you and you might be disappointed after seeing how basic and simple they are.
1. Be Yourself - guys always like girls that are not too shy but not too obnoxious either and who just let their personality "shine through".
2. Smile - no one likes to be around a grouchy, depressed kind of person and besides, smiles are contagious. Before you know it, you'll have your guy laughing along with you, having a great time. This is the kind of vibe you want to give of to people.
3. Don't Worry - the world is full of guys, if you don't get that one guy you really liked, there's plenty more. Don't ever ever ever cry over a guy if he doesn't like you or if things don't go well. Remember, RESPECT YOURSELF so that others can respect you!
2006-07-17 10:43:58 · answer #2 · answered by geri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can make a boyfriend or girlfriend magically appear. Unfortunately there is a fair amount of luck involved with meeting some one with whom you will have mutual attraction.
So, you need to focus on things that you can do to improve your odds.
First, try not to project your desperation. Desperation is very unattractive to either gender. The best way to lessen your desperation is to learn to like yourself more. In this area it is often not enough to just 'think happy thoughts' about yourself, rather you need to take some action to improve yourself which will both make you respect yourself more and will make you more attractive to others. So, get in shape or read rather than watching TV or cruising the Internet. Getting in shape has obvious benefits for attracting a mate and reading will make you more intelligent, better informed and it will give you something to talk about when flirting.
Once you've begun improving yourself you need to improve your odds the only way you can. You can't do much about the quality of guys you meet or their innate attraction to you, however you can meet more guys and thus improve your odds. The two best ways to accomplish this are: making more friends (who might know guys you could date) and hang out in new places. Try a whole different scene or at least a different venue of the same scene, and - I know it sounds cheesy - but try joining a group that interests you. Political groups, social clubs, hobby clubs... anything like this will help you meet more people, and better still you'll have something in common with them from the get-go.
2006-07-15 10:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by du_robot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self-confidence helps. Guys like girls that have self-confidence.
Always try to look your best but stay the way you are 'cause you don't want to pretend to be someone that you are not. You want a guy to like you for what you are, not for what you pretend to be.
Make eye contact with the guy you like and then smile.
Go ahead and talk to him. Also, make him laugh so that he would feel more confident around you. Try to start a conversation.
If you already like someone but are not sure if he likes you or not, tell your friends to help you in a plan:
Your friends would have to look around when the guy you like is going to come. (Just make shure that he dosen't notice that one of your friends is looking at him). When he comes around, one of you friends will mention that you like him. So, he would "acidentaly" hear that. But make shure that none of your friend look at him because he wil get nervous.
If he likes you too, he might even ask you out one day when he is shure that you will say yes.
But if he dosen't ask you out, don't get sad or disappointed. He might be nervous or dosen't like you. If he dosen't like you, don't worry, another guy wil come.
It's still fun to not have a boyfriend sometimes so that you can do what you want and when you want.
But don't find someone on internet 'cause you won't know if they are being honest with you. There are a lot of predators.
2006-07-15 10:17:28 · answer #4 · answered by stylish gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lmao! OMG, THIS question I KNOW how to answer! lol. My sister is always looking for a boyfriend and I just recently set her up at the pool. Okay, first impressions are dire. You need to set off the impression that your intellegant, yet sophisticated and mysterious. Don't go and tell him your whole past in like five minutes. Answer only the most important questions with JUST the answer needed to keep him interested. If you need anymore help, just IM me. I'd be happy to help you out, I've set five of my girlfriends up with their current guys and they've been together for months already. I'd be happy to help ya out!
2006-07-15 11:04:50 · answer #5 · answered by phoenix_chicka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be desperate about getting a boyfriend.
Guys will come around.
When the time is right, you will find the right guy.
I am 24 years old and I have not dated any one for 4 whole years.
2006-07-15 10:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
open your legs?lol just kidding,well,go out looking,are you attractive?i dont mean do you think so,i mean do guys think you are?if you arent a guy magnet,i suggest not trying to get some hott guy cause he aint interested.no offense,but im being realisitc here.so if you're overweight or something dont go looking for some model type guy.i dont know what you're standards may be,but if you want a guy,you just got to keep trying.if you got kids,thats another shot down on you.too many things here.you are desperate as they say.goodluck
2006-07-15 10:06:49 · answer #7 · answered by wizard1183 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, the best things happen when you aren't looking for them. One night I went to a dance hall just to watch and listen to music. Later, a lady asked if the chair next to me was occupied. So she sat down and later I finally asked her to dance. That was the beginning of a wonderful romance.
Ease off. Life happens.
2006-07-15 10:06:04 · answer #8 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and put yourself out there because guys are shy too and we need a signal that says your ready for loving again. Wear soemthing to get the type of guy that you like to look in your direction. Do something that will get them to see that you are there.
2006-07-15 10:06:16 · answer #9 · answered by Berties 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love yourself and don't try and make yourself someone you think guys want to be with. Self confidence is a huge turn on and it will draw others to you like a magnet. If you really believe that and you live your life for that way your next question on "answers" will read............. How do choose which guy to date they are all so eager to be with me and I need help deciding.SOS
2006-07-15 10:07:26 · answer #10 · answered by El Mexicano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋