Look, there's this guy i went out with, and i broke up with him 'cause I want to be free!! is that stupid?

Question

I still think i like him a tad bit, but he still likes me, and people say i should go out with him but I don't know!! any suggestions

Answer 1

Not at all. If that's how you feel, go with it. I did the same thing when I was 18. I spent years feeling guilty about it until I started talking to him again. Then I realized that, even though he's a really really nice guy, there's absolutely no connection there. When you have that connection, you'll know it. Life is short. Live it to the fullest. If, to you, that means being free, do it.
Don't spend another minute living by what other people think you should do. Live only by what you feel is right for you.

Answer 2

It really depends on what you want in life right now. If you aren't ready to be in a relationhsip, then you did the right thing. The worst thing you could do is to get into a relationship with someone when you don't really wanna be. Sure you may like this guy, but if you'd rather be single and free right now, then thats what you should do. I know this from experience... Trust me, when you are ready to be with someone, it will be great. It was just bad timing for the two of you... it happens.

Answer 3

Stupid? How fortunate for you that you can recognize this! I dont know your age but I would not write him off. When the freedom thingie calms down you can pursue further commitment with him. Doesnt sound like where you are right now so live and enjoy life. Your freedom will let you know if your doing the right thing or if you pursue getting serious again. Good Luck !

Answer 4

If you want to be free, then no, it's not stupid. As a matter of fact, it's one of the smartest things you could have done. You wouldn't have been happy.

People who enter something just to have a warm body to sleep with could end up cheating or betraying that person later down the road.

I think that your decision was a good one. When you're ready to settle down, you'll know it.

Answer 5

If you are having all of these feelings, it means you really are not ready for a serious relationship. Use this time to get to know yourself and lots of other guys. Find out exactly who you are and what it is you want. Then you'll be able to decide whether this guy is right for you or whether you are just dating because "people say" you should.

Answer 6

No it isn't stupid, if you don't want to be in a relationship right now you certainly shouldn't force yourself to be because of what anybody says. It won't work anyway because your heart won't be in it. Enjoy being free as long as you want to, there is plenty of time for settling down later.

Answer 7

it depends on where your at in your life and no you weren't wrong if you want to be free then okay it's your life and you shouldn't be held down if you don't want to. but if you like him then date him but tell him you still want to see other people to keep your options open. just don't sleep with 2or more people while doing this casue that's nasty. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 8

do what you want for a change.being free is great. it leaves a door open to other relationships.you will know when you find the right man for you cause you will want to be with him all the time. and he would be lucky to have you.hope this helps.

Answer 9

not @ all girls have thst feeling of being held down or bound by something and the first thing they do is break up with their boy friends. your boyfriend might not understand but there are some girls with that same feeling rite now

Answer 10

You might not understand cognitively why you wanted to be free, but you need to trust that feeling and move on.