Should i still keep the relationship or cut off cos its affecting my finances.
2006-07-15 09:08:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This question is really sexist. Thousands upon thousands of men carry the monetary burdens of relationships every day -- year in, year out.
2006-07-15 09:13:26 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why should he? You are providing for him, right? Get some tough love going and stop doing anything for him. If you do nothing for him no longer, what choices does he have? It has nothing to do with love if you stop doing----you have to love yourself before you can love another, and so you love yourself first: do whatever you like to do without him and if he complains tell him you are sorry, but you are not paying for him--especially if you and he live together.
It is right to help the other if something happens, say an accident(provided that you live together), but it is not right to pay for everything just to keep the relationship going---because if you have no relationship if you stop paying, then you don't have a relationship now. What you have then is a freeloader---Good Luck
2006-07-15 09:14:43 · answer #2 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy loves you he should be willing to do stuff with you that doesn't cost money...like both of you taking a walk in the park or something.
Don't keep the relationship going if it just feels like you are spending money to keep the guy.
2006-07-15 09:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by Oink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you and your finances are getting low.Stop now before you go broke. It sounds like he is a poor excuse of a man or boy not helping you out and getting his lazy a@@ a job.You don't need a relationship that bad,I hope.
2006-07-15 09:16:54 · answer #4 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its on you if you feel that he really loves you and he just fell off for a minute,meaning he's really looking for a job and he just can't find one right now,but you know he has no problem holding it down when he had one or when he finds one then stay with him. But if you feel like hes not putting his all into finding a job then girl you know what to do. SAY BYE!
2006-07-15 09:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you want to be with him it might take helping but it should only be short term and you shouldn't put yourself in a financial bind. He should be understanding and not put too much pressure on you.
If you want to leave it probably just isn't about the money. If it is perhaps you should add a little depth to your character.
2006-07-15 09:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't sound right. If he's not working, then cut off the money going to him. Unless there's a valid reason for him not to work, it sure sounds like he's starting to mooch off of you. If this is how he is, then he'll never work, and he's a loser. Dump him immediately. Best of luck to you...........
2006-07-15 09:12:02 · answer #7 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why cant he get a job there is a million jobs out there plus some n he is just mochen off of u n u r lettin him, that is sad if u stopped payin for him hed leave u i bet.
2006-07-15 09:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience, dump him and move on. Your being used for your paycheck, and if he isn't working now, he won't ever start. You need to re-think this relationship.
2006-07-15 09:13:28 · answer #9 · answered by Robin B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was facing the same problem like u... when suddenly i notice he keep asking for money, when my pay is in... i was thinking, he is being with me not because of loving me... but because he wants money... this kind of guy is totally useless...
i'm not asking u to dump him... but try n analyse it urself... is he alwys asking money from u... if yes, why? try for once, don't give him the money... see what will his reaction be...? then from there, i think u can get the answer... (",)
2006-07-15 09:13:37 · answer #10 · answered by ahsinoriahk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋