2006-07-15 08:45:42 · 42 answers · asked by russellhamuk 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is incredible how many people seem to be attracted to those who are already attached. It is almost because they are attached that many people are interested in them in the first place!
However dating someone who is attached is bad news and something that you should not do. Here's why:
If you really like them, then you will get frustrated that they can never commit too much time to you
They are clearly unethical as it is not fair to date someone else when you have a partner
A leopard doesn't change its spots: even if by some miracle they do move on to you then you know what they are capable of and therefore trust will always be an issue to you.
Too many people spend time fulfilling the fantasies of someone else who thinks it is great to have two or more partners in the hopeless thought that they can change them, when really that person is just having their cake and eating it.
Dating someone who is married or going out with someone else also shows a lack of respect for yourself - you should deserve and feel you deserve someone who can commit all their time to you and is only interested in you.
Remember this if you ever get tempted to get involved in a complicated relationship like this!
Hope this helps~
2006-07-21 08:09:08 · answer #1 · answered by Bon Bon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. If the morally reprehensible nature of it is not enough to stop you, consider this....she could be sued by her husband for adultery, which could cost her a heap of money and drag you out into the limelight for the world to see as someone who dates married women. If she has children and is successfully sued for adultery, she would probably lose them. Is it worth all this risk to you? If she really loves you, she will get a divorce so she can be with you under appropriate terms. Otherwise, run away fast.
2006-07-15 08:51:23 · answer #2 · answered by Schleppy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of cource not. That would be absolutely wrong. She might have married the wrong person to start saying she wants to go out with me. On the other hand she will be a joker who has no stand in life and who does not know what she wants. Her mission would just be to use me. I would be the cause for her marriage breaking up for she will have a scapegoat. I would not want my wife to do the same thing to me either.
2006-07-15 08:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest, just coz someone is married does not mean that have made the right choice, u never know, u could be the one she should have married and didnt.... every1 is saying NO, flat out..but i disagree... however, it seems strange if she is still married.. if she truely loves u, should she not taking divorce plans into action? and one more thing, if this woman loves u, does this not mean u guys have had some sort of raltionship already, its not like u JUST MET HER AND SHE LOVES U! so u must be dating, or seeing her or whatver u want to call it.... in other words, i think that keep whatever is going on as it is, but be careful, make sure u know what u are doing and that she is for real and not just messing u around.... and ifits been more thana few months, and she hasnt left her husband, i doubt she will leave him! one thing i can say is that most affairs end up giving all parties heartbreak and cause emotional damage! keep in mind i said most.. i think u have to carefully rethink what u are doing, and what she is going to do! please please please also take into consideration of any kids which may be present.... this is speaking from someone who is/has in an affair presently..... i am trying desperately to leave, and am sturggling, its so hard coz we have gotten in too deep, i love him, and he says he loves me... but the chances of him leaving his wife and his 3 year old daughter is slim, and the thing is, i wouldnt even ask him to leave coz i know how many problems it would cause..... i regret what i have done, 100% even if he is the first man to truely make me happy.... but we have got too emotionally attatched thats its become a problem... i am trying to leave him.. but he is coming after me.... he has been chasing me for so long, we split for 6 months and yet he still returned to me wanting me back... alot of affairs are meaningless sex.... but i question that coz i beilive he does truely love me... otherwise why has he going out his way getting me back and keeping me in his life.... he sees me every day, without fail, and is on constant call and text..... i know he cares for me but ive made a big mistake coz i dont no if i can wait for him to finally have the courage to leave... its because i dont know how long i can wait that i am leaving him/...... please please please consider all aspects of what u are getting ureself into... honestly, my heart is breaking every day just a little bit more.... u have to realise what she is prepared to do.... if u want to discuss this more, IM me, im here to talk... im inthe same situation... i understand..
2006-07-15 09:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Forget what she says. Her husband may not see the beauty in the relationship as you two lovebirds see it. He may get violent, as in puttin' a cap in your assets. Leave town immediately. Change your name. Get cosmetic surgery to look like someone else. You don't need this woman; she's bad news if she will betray her husband. When will she betray you-- after she has her name on half your house? Ever thought of that?? Bail now!!
2006-07-15 08:53:19 · answer #5 · answered by christopher s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about her? She has some issues to deal with. Is her husband a workaholic or emotionally dysfunctional? What does she want? It's possible that she loves you for all the things that you are that her life is not. Like Gordon Lightfoot wrote in "Sundown" ",,,getting lost in her lovin' is your first mistake."
2006-07-15 09:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. If she can't be faithful to her husband, what makes you think she'll be faithful to you? Another question....are you the only one she says she loves? Is she just looking to get out of her marriage to party some? You need to think about this long and hard before you get together with someone who's already taken. Best of luck.........
2006-07-15 08:49:25 · answer #7 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure why not, it would be her husbands problem and not yours. No one is going to get a divorce just for a date. Test out the waters.
2006-07-15 08:51:12 · answer #8 · answered by hateizmybestfriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she is just useing you for an excape from her unhappiness ..your just a good time thrill to her and I doubt she loves you .shes just in love with the excitement that shes doing something wrong behind hubbys back.
2006-07-15 08:50:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No
she is crazy to cheat on her husband if she is unhappy she should get a divorce before loving another man.
You should run and tell her to get help
2006-07-15 08:47:36 · answer #10 · answered by adrixia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋