Wife and I were invited to dinner with her perspective employer. She was offered a job. Should I (the husband) send a thank you note since her boss paid for dinner for both of us.
If so, should a bottle of wine be included. It was a topic of discussion
2006-07-15 08:26:51 · 29 answers · asked by e_guanajuato 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No-that would make you look weird. Men don't typically send thank you notes. Also, you are just on your wife's arm. Window dressing. If your conversation helped her get the job, send yourself a thank you note.
2006-07-15 08:31:27 · answer #1 · answered by Kelli C 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I think it would be more appropriate for your wife to write the thank you note. Even though you were both invited, the dinner was more for her benefit as she was the prospective employee. Just as she should write a thank you note after a job interview. Personally, I wouldn't send a bottle of wine. It may be viewed as unprofessional. But I think that can depend on the kind of relationship your wife has formed with that employer. Perhaps if she sends a business thank you letter and then later the two of you send some wine together thanking them for dinner as a couple, not having to do with the job offer.
2006-07-15 08:34:44 · answer #2 · answered by madoli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No if she was offered the job why do you have to send a thank you note. If she got the job, is because she was qualified to perform the task the the employer was looking for. She should have just thanked the person on that day and a handshake should be it. With the note and the bottle of wine you would be making it seem like he was making you a favor for giving her a job. You know what I mean.
2006-07-17 08:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id just send them a bottle of wine with a note expressing how nice it was to meet them and thanking them for a nice dinner. Not so much for the guy for paying for the dinner. Also try not to sound like your kissing up seeing as though the person is now your wife's new boss. Congratulations on your wife's new job.
2006-07-15 08:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by honiebee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. I think you're just happy that her boss offered her a job. If she hadn't been offered the job, would you have sent a thank-you note or a bottle of wine? The boss will probably write the dinner off as a business expense anyhow.
2006-07-15 08:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. You, unfortunately, are not in a position to do so. It is up to your wife at this point, to thank the potential employer - either in person, via telephone, or a short, generic card.
Although wine was a topic of discussion, gifts to potential employers can be seen (either personally or socially) as a bribe. Hold that idea for after she gets the job - and even then, save it for another time.
2006-07-17 08:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok In the order of educate.. ( No Mater What the sex ) It is always good to thank the other party for a lovely evening and enjoyable conversation (Don't ever say anything referring to the bill that is rude) If you would like you can send wine. I don't know the job or the orientation of the situation so I can not say if it would be proper or not.. There are a LOT of rules to this thing so Make sure you do them correctly when you start and IF you do start it is accepted of you to continue no matter what event... Good Luck and I wish you well....
2006-07-15 09:23:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A thank you note is in good taste. A bottle of wine is optional. Usually, wine would be presented to the host as you arrive, not as a later gift. Depends on the prospects for more social engagements with your wife's new boss.
2006-07-15 08:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by Stuart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he paid 4 the dinner, then u should invite him 4 dinner sometime. as 4 the thank u note, if it is 4 the job then don't cause the job"s supposed 2 b earned not given. if it is 4 the dinner then a call would b nice when u want 2 invite him back.
2006-07-15 08:40:06 · answer #9 · answered by faith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wife should send the thank you note for the opportunity and to thank the employer for the dinner.
as a nice gesture on your part, you can follow your wife's thank you note with the bottle of wine. maybe about 2 weeks later.
2006-07-15 08:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by loving 40+ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Your wife should send a thank-you note from the both of you. For you to do so as The Husband, would dimish her in their eyes. This is not a social situation, it's business and it's your wife's position. If there is anything to be done, it should be from the wife with the addition that you also had a lovely time.
2006-07-15 14:52:57 · answer #11 · answered by misslabeled 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋