I'd like to know if someone knows why I am easily annoyed by people. I am not a "highly strung" person and I have no reason to be stressed in life as I am quite young, however I find myself becoming so aggrevated very easily. I can't stand sitting eating with others - their chewing noises annoy me so very much - and although I don't lash out at all, inside I feel like I am on fire with annoyance. Those who chew with their mouths open, I feel, should be shot! Other cases of extreme annoyance for me include when people yawn loudly, sneeze stupidly, stretch loudly or burp loudly. One of my worst peeves is seeing people (especially younger children) cough without covering their mouths - that sets me on fire! Now, before anyone attacks me for being a tightly-wound idiot, please don't. I know I should not feel this way, yet I do - I've spent years like this and I've tried soe hard to control myself and have tolerance. I'm a very sensible person and I see this is wrong. Please help!
2006-07-15 08:25:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, you've received many "you have problems" answers, let's try something different.
'google' "coarsening of America". Today's society is more coarse, less refined, than it has been in many centuries. People believe they should be allowed to be whatever they want to be ("free to be you and me"), regardless of how offensive their behavior (or even appearance) is. Hence, there is this thing called "NAMBLA" - the national man/boy love association. Yup, men think they have the right to have a sexual relationship with boys. Hey, they just want to be free to be who they are.
This is today's society. Eating with your mouth open, profanity in public places, huge stomachs over tight clothing, underwear showing, sneeze without covering their mouths -- these things did not happen in public 50 years ago. And when they did, everyone condemned it.
So ... you're not a wacked person. You appear to be someone who has a finely tuned sense for propriety and manners. You should consider going into sales training - because you see the defects in the way people interact, and you could teach a sales staff to be more effective.
Or ... you could move to Japan or Singapore. Asian countries still have a high regard for propriety and good manners.
Good luck.
(P.S., a friend of mine, with a similar attitude, walked around one Saturday with one of those portable air horns. Everytime she saw one of these events, she blew the horn. If people came up to her and complained, she just said "I'm being who I am ... kinda like your fat belly sticking out of that shirt." They would have nothing to say to this (How could they?) At the end of the day, she reported to me (It was my idea.) it was one of the most joyous days she had ever had. Perhaps, give it a try - you and a friend.)
2006-07-15 08:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by robabard 5 · 9⤊ 2⤋
You spent a huge paragraph saying how out of control you are and you end it by telling the world you're sensible. Really? Chewing sounds get the firing squad?
It might not be an issue of control or self-will.
You might have a medical problem that can be handled with medication, nutrition & therapy. You should tell a doctor these things and be thouroughly evaluated. There is help available.
If in fact nothing is physiologically wrong you still have an unnaturally tightly wound personality and an anger problem. You can get relief from therapy as well & perhaps some anti-anxiety medication. You're a heart attack waiting to happen. The sooner you address this the sooner you'll start to feel better. Right now you must feel miserable walking around in your own skin. Bet you don't have too many friends due to your temper. Once this is taken care of you're good, true self can shine through and people can see how wonderful you really can be.
2006-07-15 08:39:51 · answer #2 · answered by irisheyes 6 · 0⤊ 9⤋
You are not alone, not by any means. There are a lot of us out there with daily fantasies of smashing boors' and oafs' faces into their desks or the corner the nearest cubicle wall. I don't have such a big issue with children, but I figure by the time you have a real job you should know how to behave. Sitting in a cublicle with people around you is not the same as sitting on your living room couch in your underwear with your feet up. I hate these people, and I refuse to feel bad about hating them.
2014-11-24 06:13:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people just don't know the definition of manners. They weren't expose to it the way you and I did. So don't feel bad, you're not alone in this one.
2014-06-14 04:41:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have what's called Misophonia. There is no cure, just knowing other people have it gives me relief that I'm not alone
2016-01-02 21:26:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also have a similar issue to yours, when I burp or cough etc. myself, It doesn't bother me, but when someone else does it, I get aggravated and sometimes I even start crying out of distress
2015-02-26 22:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of release (though selfish) knowing others are going through the same pain. I have been a victim of the same problem. Growing up with with etiquette and manners now we are stuck between those who don't care how their actions could cause pain to the people around them.
2014-11-09 18:13:38 · answer #7 · answered by Ahmed S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey hi :)
I know exactly how you feel. Believe me, it literally kills me when others yawn, burp or even stretch in front of me. It's really irritating. I used to think there is something wrong with me but after reading this i feel happy.
2013-11-19 16:23:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont let the little things botter you because as you you get older there are worse thing in life believe me dont give yourself a heart attack at a young age. Go see a counsler or something maybe it will help.
2006-07-15 08:39:37 · answer #9 · answered by gina j 1 · 0⤊ 5⤋
Great question
2016-07-27 04:27:48 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋