we were friends, against my parents will, and so i snuck out with him, and i didn't want to make-out with him or anything, but i didn't kno what to tell him so i went along with it and so he wounds up fingering me and stuff. and then a couple of days later my mom found out and said that if i don't talk to him ever again that she wouldn't tell my dad (because he would kick me out of the house probably) and she probably wouldn't get my friend put in jail. so i told him twice that i couldn't talk to him anymore. and he keeps reading my blogs and commenting on them, and he keeps messagiong me saying stuff like "hey sexy..." or "hey love...i miss you...call me...."
i have told him that i can't talk to him anymore!! what do i do to get him out of my life?
2006-07-15 07:55:51 · 28 answers · asked by lifeistough_period 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best thing to do is block him, block him from your blogs and emails.And if hes calling you at home, have your mom change the number.That's all you can do, but if he keeps on and on and on, then you can get a restraining order on him.good luck
2006-07-15 07:59:36 · answer #1 · answered by Male Sicilian Trauma Nurse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, someone who loves you won't force you to submit to stuff you're not ready for. We don't always like the choices our parents make for us, but understand that they have been around longer and so they have a little more experience in life... you might be able to benefit from that.
I'm thankful he didn't do more to you than he did... because it could have been a LOT worse... so it seems your parents had a right to be worried... and he proved. it.
If you have already explained to him that you can't talk to him and can't see him any more... but he won't stop... that is called harassment and (sadly) reporting him to the police may be your only option.
Understand that in many states, what he did to you is called Sexual Misconduct with a Minor and could land him in jail.
Do yourself a favor... post a blog explaining to him and the world that he has put you in a very difficult position and that your mother has given you one set of options: stop communication with him or watch him go to jail... let him decide which one he prefers.
2006-07-15 15:08:37 · answer #2 · answered by Rev T L Clark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did not want to make out you shouldn't have. You have a mouth and know how to say no. If he bothers you any more remind him you are a minor and will go to jail if the law finds out what he did to you since he won't leave you alone you've decided you have no choice but will have to tell your parents about it after dinner tonight. That should scare him off.
2006-07-19 09:44:51 · answer #3 · answered by # one 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i hate to say it but, you prob should tell your mom that you are trying "to grt rid of him", sort of speak, and he keeps coming back. Now that your mom knows you have been trying, you are not going to get in trouble. Tell boy thats a friend that you have told your mother and that you are on your last nerve that he has to leave you alone. Now, if you have follow the directions correctly, he should leave you alone because now he knows that your mother is involved to have him leave you alone and theres nothin much he can do. I know the postion you are in and doing this will be hard to do, but it looks as it must be done. I hope everything goes wel. Wish the best of luck!
2006-07-15 15:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Completely ignore him. If you try to discuss again and again why it won't work, his mind will continually try to find ways of making it work. He will think all the time about how he can solve the situation and get you to change your mind. Just don't answer the phone, don't respond to emails, don't post blogs (for now), don't look at him from far. Completely ignore him, even if he approaches you, keep the feet moving at all times.
2006-07-15 15:00:44 · answer #5 · answered by D H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 16, a minor and having sex with a 19 year old who are usually considered an adult at 18? Once again, I thank God I was spayed and this proves again that stupid people shouldn't breed. You can BLOCK him from calling, emailing, etc. IF you wanted to but you're not even trying.
2006-07-15 15:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy will continue to try to get in touch with you and he will continue to do what he did to you because he thinks that because he didn't penetrate you with his penis that it's not rape. I cannot believe your mom did not report him. After he did what you said he did, the next step will be just that, because if no one is coming looking for him, he believes he's in the clear with your parents and authorities. Do not go to him no matter what he says and tell your parents that you want to report him. This may be a painful and uncomfortable situation for you, but right now you need to protect yourself.
2006-07-15 15:13:16 · answer #7 · answered by sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol actually yes telling him your pregnant (while being a total lie) will most definitely get him out of your life. He will run. He shouldn't be bothering you anyway because...well, he's 19 and your 16. That looks bad for him. Get rid of the loser now.
2006-07-15 15:04:23 · answer #8 · answered by Jon J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change your blogs page and screen names. block his name from any messengers you know him on. send him one last communication that says if you contact me again we'll have you arrested for statutory rape. he'll probably try to make you feel like a slut or something, but the law says nothing about consenting parties. it's black and white that he is already guilty. all someone has to do is file for charges and he's going to jail.
2006-07-15 15:01:38 · answer #9 · answered by Choose Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is why 16 y/o shouldn't go out with 19 y/o.
Tell your mom whats going on.
Maybe she will confront this guy and advise him to go away or she will call the police for statutory rape and harassment.
Good Luck...sheesh
2006-07-15 14:59:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋