do i need help?

Question

when i was 12 which was like last year i had this experience at the mall. and i was wearing this tight shirt and my chest is kind of big and it was kind of sticking out.i went to this store to look for a nice necklace and i found one that closes in the front. so it was so hard to close so this guy worker helped me out. and then he just touched my chest i thought it was an accident so i let it go but then he did it a second time and i was so sure that he meant it so i ripped the necklace off and ran outside i was too scared to do anythng to him so i just went outside and started crying cuz this had never happnd to me b4 i didnt tell anyone and ive watched a lot of stuff on tv where fathers touch there daughters so when i got home my dad was there and i kept pulling my shirt out so that my boobs wouldnt stick out. even around my uncles. and til this day i do it sub conciously and i wear baggy clothes that dont show my figure. its so crazy but i just dont know what to do. any suggestions?

Answer 1

It sounds like you have a real fear of people noticing you have a chest. I think you might be better to talk to someone you know about this. They will know you best, and will know how to handle the situation.

You should know that YOU have done nothing wrong. So you should not worry about telling anyone!!

Speak to your dad or mum. If your really not comfortable speaking with them, you could go to a teacher you trust, and explain to them. They may bring it to your parents but you have nothing to be ashamed of!.

I'm so proud of you for walking away and you should honor yourself for that!! Also how old was the guy from the store and is he still there?? If so get him checked out!

Either way - I don't want this to upset you for the rest of your life, and maybe by just speaking to someone, you may overcome this fear you have

Good Luck, ad remember, you are special in your own way, and don't let anyon take that away from you!

Good Luck!

D* xox

Answer 2

You clearly have been over sexualized by our sex-obsessed, yet sex damning culture.

First of all - throwing a fit because a man touches your breas is inapropreat, and an over-reaction.

Crying because you had a new experiance is irrational at best. Do you cry everytime you have some new experiance? Of course not. So what - other than society telling you that this is taboo - is diffrent about this situation.

Additionally, brushing your boob with his hand is not a big deal. It happens, on accident and on purpose all the time. I am sure he did not feel you up or grope you.

Grow up.

It seems very obvious to me that you are a girl with poor self esteem and gender / body / sex issues. Learn to be comfortable with and in your onw body and your life will be a lot happier.

Or you can spend the rest of your life crying over inconsiquential littel dayly activities, wear frumpy clothes the rest of your life, and die an old maid. No one dates the freek that crys for no reason, and no one marries teh frigid, frump.

The choice is yours.

Answer 3

I think you are at a young age right now, and your body has developed a little quicker than your peers, so you are feeling very self-conscious about it. I would go to the mall with your mother (or another older female) that you are comfortable with and go bra shopping. The right kind of bra can really make a difference. Wearing baggy clothes is okay if you are not comfortable with your body, but you really should try to find clothes that are flattering to your body, to also boost your self-confidence. You will eventually "grow" into your body and feel much more comfortable and confident. (It's nice to hear, though, of a young girl who is NOT flaunting her chest and purposely trying to get attention from males. I'm an 8th grade teacher and I get so upset when I see some of my students flaunting their bodies at such a young age.)
Go shopping with a trusted female, get clothes that flatter your body and realize that in a couple of years, everything will balance out.
And don't be scared of your father...there are sickos out there, but if he has done nothing to scare you, he will most likely only support you in feeling better about yourself.

Answer 4

You need to tell your parents what happened. If the salesclerk is still there they should complain to the store manager and, at the very least, have him fired.
Don't blame yourself for any of this. Some girls develop physically before they are mentally ready to handle the pressure of having breasts. In a year or so your brain will have caught up to your breasts and you won't feel so self-concious.

Answer 5

u shouldnt have 2 do that around people u know well & trust. that was only 1 incident, even though u should tell some1, so dont be so paranoid and enjoy life! ;) but if something like that ever happens again, TELL SOME1!!!!! OMGosh PLEEZ!!!! just wear modest clothing, dont wear anything that shows 2 much!!!! make sure u trust the men your around with OK!!!! hope this helps!

Answer 6

I think you did the right thing by leaving the store. You have every right to protect yourself.
Women need to know when to dress up, & when to go baggy. And remember; there are perverts out there, but not all us guys are perverts. Trust your instinct. you may have gone to the Mall security & explained your situation.

Answer 7

wow sug that aint good, its hard bein 12 with boobs, im 23 with DDDs and you have to be careful of what you wear, try a little longer skirt, dont have to be drastic, just almost knee length, and maybe one of those baby doll tops, its like snug at the top and flowy at the bottom, i think its all in the dress and how you act, good luck sug

Answer 8

I would suggest going to a therapist about it. If he grabbed at your chest that constitutes sexual harassment. If you have never talked to anyone about until now, I think you are asking for trouble.

Answer 9

it was probably an accident because that happenes to me and my sister cause i put like necklaceds on her or somthiong and somtimes i hit her breats and temost in one thing was 4 times lol so dont worry and this occurs if yuou have large breasts lol well dont worry just try wearing wat you did at ther mall and dont worry try it for like 3 days or somthng and count how many times ur hit

and just dont worry if they hit ur breats then some people like you i guess haha

Answer 10

No you don't need help. You just need to get the creep from the shop out of your head otherwise you are going to let one bad experience ruin your life.