when you are in a relationship with a person, do you like them for their looks or their personality?
2006-07-15 07:28:38 · 14 answers · asked by nervous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Each person has a different perception of what is attractive to them.
I would not date a guy it did not find physically attractive (Even though my friend may think he is gross)
Hence your attracted to somebody by how they look before you find out about their personality.
There are tonnes of people who's personality you may love but if the attraction is not there in the 1st place the personality becomes one of the best part of your friendship and never a relationship.
Both once in a relationship are equally important but i think first off it is looks.
2006-07-15 08:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by Purple Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your questions asks "when you are in a relationship" presumably you are not interested in the preceding attraction (which I think usually starts things). I think once in a relationship it is important that both partners don't get lazy and still take pride in their appearance. But a long term relationship survives by the strength of each others personality - looks, as long as effort is maintained, never contribute.
My observations of life are that sometimes partners look elsewhere when there is not joint effort (whether perceived or real). The problem being that looks may give a temporary sense of excitement, but without the personality aspect you may as well be with a action man or barbie.
Getting though the ups and downs that life throws at you is about individually dealing with issues and as a couple (or family) giving mutual support.
Personally, I have always thought a sense of humour is a great quality to possess. Being able to laugh at yourself and the quirks of life, and to not let arguments take hold unnecessarily is such a strength.
All the people I know who are lucky to have strong relationships that have lasted the test of time, all have a great sense of humour (and a big heart)!!
Hope that assists in your thoughts!
2006-07-15 14:53:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only in extreme cases. When you are severely physically deformed, then yes, looks are more important, and I wouldn't date you. Personalty is generally more important, but looks are what is attractive before you know someone, so its nice to be attractive as well as have a good personality.
2006-07-15 14:40:53 · answer #3 · answered by reverenceofme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personality definately, I've met some hot guys who turn me off as soon as they open their mouth, look at David Beckham! Likewise guys who aren't that attractive can have an X factor that drives me wild, the only I guy I was totally in love with wasn't that great looking, and I've been out with some hotties.
2006-07-15 14:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by Soso 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You notice the person 1st, then personality. You may notice a person for a lot of reasons, looks is but one of them.
2006-07-15 14:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by chief8166 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good looks usually triggers the lust and then the personality helps build love and a stabele relationship
2006-07-15 14:36:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
looks are what attracts people, and personality is what keeps them. therefore, good looks, no personality? see ya later!
2006-07-15 14:31:53 · answer #7 · answered by Kryztal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
looks dont last.... but personality does. why go for a good looking face when its not going to last.
2006-07-15 16:52:21 · answer #8 · answered by tors 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nice face but numpty head gets pretty tedious!
2006-07-15 14:31:59 · answer #9 · answered by M J H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personality of course
2006-07-15 14:54:41 · answer #10 · answered by ebonny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋