There's this dude that I really hate, wish death on him, want to see dead. I've said really bad thing's about him. I want to throw up at the thought of him, he sickens me. I really hate him. I would drive a car over him. I talk about his lazy eye. I tell people his business. His mom being an acholie and his dad a crack head. He used to be homeless. He's a pot head and nothing but a drug dealer. He'll never amount to anything. He's an in the closet ****. He has herpes. I really hate this guy. I hope that he burns in hell. I want him to kiss my behind. Am I gone to go to hell becuase of him and what is really happening? Do I have the right to blame him? Am I a bad person? I want to avoid him, I am scared of him. I think that he is really iggnorant and disrespectful. He's ugly, stinks, smells, he's trash. But yet I was with him. I was with him for all the bad reasons anyway. I should've never had feelings for him. I really do hate him. If I end up in hell would it be his fault or mine?
2006-07-15 07:21:36 · 26 answers · asked by delawaregirl83 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
"Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and percicute you."-Matthew 5:44, the Bible
Jesus said, "If you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins."-Matthew 6:14-15, the Bible
Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."-Romans 12:21, the Bible
The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 13 that if you have all God's gifts and do all good works and have no love, you are nothing....
Love your niegbor as yourself....
Jesus #1 commandment was to love one another...
God gave up His Son, Jesus, to die for him... who are you to condemn and jugde this man!?
Jesus gave up everything for this mans soul, do not hate him.
Forgive him if he has sinned against you, ask God's forgiveness, and give it all to God.
I am praying for you.
2006-07-15 07:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Agappae 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all my wife was in a simular situation. She dated a guy who is simular if not worse then the guy you mentioned. It took me a while to help her get over the hate. See hate in any form is a way to cause you to sin. Hate can also be a sin itself, much like it was for my wife and is for you now.
This is your fault, not his. I mean he could be a class a jerk, but that does not give you the right to hate him. I will try to help you understand what is o.k. and what is not.
It is o.k. to avoid him, heck me and my wife have an unlisted number due to him. It is o.k. if he comes up to you to tell him you don't want anything to do with him. see these things are o.k.
However you should not do anything to purposely hurt him that has no bearing on you. In other words you should not say bad things about him.
Actually you should not hate him, however that would take a lot of time. I don't expect you to all of a sudden to stop hating him, instead I want you to see what that hate does to you and people around you.
My wife would not go down town because he might be down town. The hate was the only thing on her mind. It pretty much destroyed her life.
The truth is you are not a bad person, but the hate can change you. You most likely will hate this person for a long time, but don't let him ruin your life.
2006-07-15 15:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by darksphyx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Starting with the last question.
You are responsible for your actions. You are responsible for your choices. If you end up in Hell, then it is because you did not follow God's commandments.
With that much vehemence in you, I seriously suggest that you sit down, and do some internal exploration. A good Friend might work. A counselor might be better.
As to whether or not you are a Christian:
* Have you accepted Christ as your Saviour?
* Have you been baptised?
* Are you fully repentant of your sins?
* Do you follow God's commandments?
If the answer to all four questions is "yes", then you are. If it isn't, then you have a couple of things to work on. [For those who say that His Saving Grace overrides everything, it does not give one Carte Blanche to deliberately violate God's commandments.]
2006-07-15 16:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by jblake80856 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time, what we hate and resent in others is something we hate and resent in ourselves. You have to do some soul searching and find out why. Do you hate him for those external reasons you're talking about, or has he done something to you personally? If it is the latter is one thing. If it is the former, you need to do some soul searching, not for this guy's sake, but your own.
You're not a bad person, but you're quite human. You might need some professional help to sort these feelings out, and I don't mean to say that dismissively (like many people who may tell you you need help). Sometimes all of us could use some professional help in our lives, in order to make sense of life and keep us more balanced.
2006-07-15 14:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by imagineworldwide 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly hope you do not call yourself a practicing Christian...your actions and thoughts are certainly NOT civilized, let alone Christian. I have no particular use for religion, but I will tell you that you are spend an inordinant amount of energy that is very negative. You will find this energy has a way of coming back on you...be very careful what you wish for...you may not like the results.
2006-07-15 14:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well God is know to be forgiving and to me you just seem like a Christian with a hell of a lot of temper. It's just your personality and if it's really only this one person you hate this much then you not a bad person but it's definitely not his fault that you hate him out of if he actually insulted you and did stuff to make you hate him. If you are a real Christian though you should try forgiving him and then just avoid him.
2006-07-15 14:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by Obilee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me you have a lot of pent up anger. You just need to first and foremost give that up to the Lord. Next, you need to confess this as a sin problem and if possible get some professional help to deal with this. You also need to go to this person directly and apologize to him. I have said some negative things, but after a while, I have the decency to go to that person directly and in private and apologize.
2006-07-15 14:33:38 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible says, If you cannot forgive your Heavenly Father will not forgive you.
No matter how bad, if you wish death on someone, then you need to forgive. If you can't allow for forgiveness you are not allowing the Holy Spirit to have his Lordship in your life.
If you don't allow the Lord to be Lord, then you are going to be what is termed, a carnal christian, which is one who lives by their flesh, and not by the Spirit.
You have to judge for yourself, if you have given ALL to Jesus. All means ALL. Even those who have offended you.
2006-07-15 14:27:40 · answer #8 · answered by Cabana C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness sets you free from bitterness, anger and hatred and keeps the lines of communication open between you and God.
Forgiveness gives the person who wronged you a chance to repent and be restored.
They don't always take it, but it still needs to be offered to fullfill God's Great Commission.
I mean the Great Commission of passing on the forgiveness God used to forgive us when we received it from Him.
As bad as this person has hurt you. As much as this person deserves nothing but pain and suffering for what he did. His sins are small compared to the forgiveness God has forgiven us for. We owe it to God to forgive others.
2006-07-15 14:49:19 · answer #9 · answered by mustangsilver456 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT'S NOT GOOD TO FEEL HATE, IT'S NOT HEALTHY FOR YOUR HEALTH.STAY AWAY FROM HIM , PLAN A WAY OUT AND NEVER LOOK BACK.IF YOU DON'T LIKE THE FEELING OF HATING SOMEONE YOU NEED TO ASK GOD FOR FORGIVENESS AND THEN FORGIVE YOUR SELF AS WELL.GOD WILL TAKE CARE OF THAT MAN THAT IS BEING SO EVIL. THAT'S GOD'S JOB NOT YOUR JOB TO PUNISH SOMEONE. YOU NEED TO STAY AWAY FROM THAT MAN IF HE IS CAUSING YOU PAIN, YOU DON'T NEED PAIN IN YOUR LIFE. ALSO IF YOU WANT TO BECOME COUNSELOR YOU WILL NEED TO TAKE SOME TYPE OF ANGER MANAGEMENT CLASSES, IF YOU ARE THE TYPE OF PERSON THAT GETS MAD WHEN THINGS DON'T GO YOUR WAY. THERE IS HELP OUT THERE.DON'T BE EMBARRASSED TO GO TO ANGER MANAGEMENT CLASSES.BUT ON THE OTHER HAND YOU HAVE TO BE STRONG, STAY AWAY FROM PEOPLE THAT DO BAD THINGS, TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR SELF AND YOUR LIFE. LOVE YOUR SELF ALWAYS, AND TRY NOT TO JUDGE PEOPLE ARE PUNISH ANYONE LEAVE THAT IN GODS HANDS.
2006-07-15 15:01:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋