What are your thoughts on waiting until marriage to have sex?

Answer 1

I am married, and I am glad that my wife was not a virgin. We enjoyed our honeymoon alot more than I think a couple would if the wife was a virgin, but it is all about how YOU feel about it. That decision should be made individually, and remember that only God (if there is one) can tell you how he feels. Not a man or woman working under the guise of God.

Answer 2

What constitutes marriage?

* Is it merely a civil ceremony, whereby the state says "You two can have sex, and we won't throw you in gaol. And, we will even give you all these nice tax options for getting this licence."?
* Is it a religious ceremony, whereby a couple ask God for a Blessing upon their future life together?
* Is it a business contract, whereby two partners agree that each will do certain things for the other party?
* Is it a union, whereby the goods of the relevant parties are used to increase the long term stability and viability of all concerned parties?
* Is it an announcement that you will be long term friends with somebody?
* Or is it something else?

The answers to those questions dictate how important virginity is, for the wedding.

As a general rule, religions require celibacy prior to marriage, and faithfulness during the marriage.

The rules for marriage as a union are split:
* Virginity is an asset, because the children of the marriage will have a clear title to their inheritance;
* Pregnancy is an asset, because it demonstrates that the woman, at least, will be fertile;

Feudal China stands out as one of the few cultures where sex with a virgin was considered to be distasteful. At the same time exclusivity was highly prized. There was a prescribed way to turn a virgin into a non-virgin.

Looking at it from the POV of physical health, the best long term strategy is celibacy prior to marriage, and exclusivity during marriage. [ For females, the incidence of breast cancer increases slightly, if they do not breast feed a baby. The incidence of cervical cancer goes up, if they do have a baby.]

Answer 3

Until you have entered into the covenant of marriage you are still considered brother and sister not husband and wife. This is a violation to the commandants of God. This is an intimate act that should be between husband and wife, not just to give pleasure one to another, but for the sacred purposes of procreation. This is part of the reason the family has a lot of problems nowadays due to people not wanting to wait and not being properly prepared for the duties of marriage and parenthood.

Answer 4

Sex is a very powerful and spiritual thing and if you wait until you are married it will mean alot more to you. Though it is hard especially the older that you get and things that you go through in life. But I do agree that if you wait until marriage it will mean more to you and be special. Hopefully!!!

Answer 5

I think that if you are waiting to find the person that you are in love with and are going to marry it's cool. But I truly believe you have to have sex with a person before you marry them. If you do not you run the risk of being sexually incompatible and that can be quite destructive for a marriage.

Answer 6

I actually lost my innocence to the man I later married.
But I strongly believe that there is much respect and honor that comes from making true love for te first time after marriage.

Its a safe way to protect against disease, and heart break not to mention a fatherless child.

I strongly advise waiting. If you don't there are more risks than benefits.

Answer 7

I think it is everyones own decision.

In my opinion it would be better for a couple to have sex beforehand because not everyone who loves you is the person you'll like sex with...

And - believe it or not - sex is a not very unimportant detail in a relationship. When the sex is not nice for you, it can be very hard for you, for your own psyche.

It sounds superficial, but trust me, it is more important than some people make it out to be.

What I mean to say is - you can't really know what a persons like in bed (if he is a selfish or generous lover, if he is gentle or rough and if he even wants to give you the same pleasure he surely wants to have)

It is good to be able to say what you want and what you *don't* want.

It may be a romantic concept to stay virgin til marriage, but I would never advise someone to wait.

Edit: I think to avoid a discussion by saying "End of discussion" after telling your opinion means that you are not sure to have enough logical reasons for this. Otherwise you wouldn't try to end a discussion before it even got started..

@ Julia: Would anyone here have sex with someone who they knew for a fact had AIDS, with only a condom to "protect" them? I hope the answer is obvious.

Yes, if I loved said person I would use a condom, but I would still want to have sex with him.

I wouldn't want do discriminate the person I *love* and I am not that insecure that I can't use a condom properly - after all, it is *safer* sex.

I would even prefer having sex with a partner who has AIDS and whom I know for years, whom I know to be responsible - to someone who is a virgin and doesn't know what to do with himself because he "waited" for so long.

I for my part consider it to be obvious that it is discrimination not to sleep with your partner only because you have to use a condom. There is little risk to get infected, but it is only a little risk. And for my long-time partner, I would of course do that!!!

I would not push my partner away only because he got infected!!!

Not, if it is love.

Answer 8

If that's what you want for yourself, fine. If that's what you want for other people, keep it to yourself. Nobody has a right to dictate private matters to other people.

Marriage is a human concept, not a natural one. To dictate that people should not perform a natural act because an unnatural one has not been performed first is ludicrous.

The only issue is survival. If those procreating cannot provide a home to any potential offspring, then don't have sex. That's it, sex needs no other rules.

Answer 9

Can you imagine how different the world would be if everyone adhered to what the Bible has to say about marriage sex and keeping faithful to your husband and wife. If everyone did things God's way:

There would be no aids, no family breakdowns, no abortions, happier people, happier children, which would lead to much less substance misuse, much less hatred, and the family structure would give security to children.

When people live according to the ideals which God has laid down in His Word, then it brings love, harmony, satisfaction, contentedness, and lasting marital relationships.

God's ways are best.

Answer 10

I'm waiting until marriage. Only three weeks to go!

I think it's a no-brainer. My husband and I will know that our intimacy is something which is shared with no one else, and he'll have no one to compare me to. Marriage will be a new freedom, not a new restriction. It shows respect for our bodies and for each other and I know he loves me enough to commit to me for life. Plus zero risk of STDs, AIDS, etc.

I'm happy to be waiting, as difficult as it sometimes is.

Answer 11

abstinence is a good thing if you wait until marriage then you're smart because if you don't then your chance of getting an STD is higher. you want to marry someone who has never had sex before and you wont get an STD