I have a serious ? my son is very overweight. i was told he was teased very badly in p.e. class one day.?

Question

he is 10 years old. he is too embarrassed to say anything to anyone.
i do not know what was said. i was only told when they were changing clothes or taking a shower.
if anyone has any experience with this let me know please.
my question is what may have been said to my son at the time he was taking a shower or changing clothes. a friend of his would not go too much into detail but said they were really terrible and that he was scared and embarrassed for him.
i want to know some of the things that were said if anyone has any ideas.

i appreciate some of the answers but what were some of the things that were probably said.

Answer 1

Put him on a damned diet!

Or teach him how to fight, he'll be teased every day from how until he graduates high school, and should learn how to deal with it.

Answer 2

Your 10 year old son may be getting bullied and ridiculed for his appearance. This is obviously very traumatic. As his parent you are going to have to explain to him that you can only help him with his assistance, get him to open up and explain what is going on. Then you need to contact the school, with an understanding that they need it intervene when the taunting starts. Your child could be harmed permanently from these occurrences. Check the Internet for bullying strategies and defenses. Lastly, you need to help correct his diet, through gentle and constructive guidance. Find the physical activities that get him moving, and clean out the house of all the culpable foods: Chips, soda, cookies, candy etc. Keep lots of fruits and veggies around. NO FAST FOOD let him have an occasional treat but start minding his intake and activity.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

I wouldn't dwell on what was said as much as I would be concerned about your son's reaction to it. If he is embarrassed about his weight it could evolve into affecting his self-confidence and self-esteem. Some people are content with being over weight and some are not. If he's self-conscious about it, he may also be self-conscious about dieting and excercising as well. This is were the love of the family comes in. Everyone needs to be unstanding and help out. Basically the entire family needs to gradually go on a diet and do more physical activities. Gradual, I think is the key so that he doesn't think that your trying to change him because you think he's over weight and don't like him that way. Kids, even at this age are very tuned to self-image. Good luck and be supportive.

Answer 4

Fatso, lard ***, tubby, roly poly, etc, etc. If you want to help the kid, do something to help him learn to have a better diet and leave off the fatty foods and all the sugar and help him eat more veggies and fruits, raw for the most part but if not leave the meats and high fat stuff out. I know about the incessant teasing and what it does to you and I was not that fat in school but was made to think I was. Give the kid love,not extra food or the fatty foods. Give him some exercise and pats on the back and let him know he is as good as anyone else, if not better.

Answer 5

We would never be able to know what the kids said to your son. Kids are creative and can be cruel. Talk to your son about it. Let him know that he's beautiful and loved and work on his self esteem, then start working on him being overweight. Don't link the two, but start eating healthier at home, and this is the perfect season to do it. Eat fruit for an easy lunch, and desserts. And let him know that it's not ok to be rude back. Two wrongs definately don't make a right,and only leads to worse teasing by the "in" crowd. I was a fat kid who had no self esteem until about 20. I, luckily, wasn't teased by the kids, at least not to my knowledge, but I saw others who got the bad treatment. It took a lot of work and a lot of realizing my positives for me to get the self esteem I have today, but hopefully he can do it earlier.

Answer 6

First start having your whole family eat better. meaning eat more veggies and fruit and stop buying any junk food. Next start an exercise routine with your son. Tell him you need a workout buddy to get yourself into shape (make it all about wanting the family to be more healthy and not about him needing to lose weight). Then you should bring him to a counselor so he has someone to talk to about his feelings if he wont talk to you. If you cant afford one bring him to the school's counselor, it is free.
Tell your son all kids are mean and he has to stick up for himself. If someone says something mean he needs to make fun of them back. Ignoring someone does not stop the harrassment. What does stop it or lessen it is if the kid that is being picked on, automatically picks on the kid that is bothering them immediately.
But really do start getting your family into shape. If he loses a good amount of weight the harrassment will stop or at least be a lot less.

Answer 7

I am going to admonish you ... so if you do not want to hear the truth, I suggest you skip to the next answer.
YOU are the parent. At this child's age, he is putting on fat cells that will be with him for the rest of his life. IT IS YOUR responsibility to see that he has a good future, and unfortunately, fat people do not have such a rosey future in store for them...it will affect his ability to find a mate, get a good job, have nice friends...Don't kid yourself, people do NOT see throught the fat to find the person inside!
You need to take this child to a doctor, a wieght clinic and see that he returns to normal size immediately...you need to hope to heavens that the damage you have allowed to happen will not affect him permanently! YOU are the parent, not his friend! This is your fault, not his, nor his friends....kids are crueler than anyone can imagine. YOU have set him up for this, and it is up to YOU to undo the damage you have caused! Get busy TODAY. He has added incentive at this point to do something about it. This just may be the best thing that has ever happened to him! IF he eats when he is depressed, don't allow it! I don't care how much he screams, how mean he thinks you are, you are NOT his best friend...act like a parent and prepare him for the REAL WORLD! Get to it NOW.

Answer 8

Children can be cruel & your son needs the support of the school as well as his parents. Why is your son very overweight? If there is not a medical problem what are you doing about his horribly unhealthy condition? His eating patterns are going to be set and then very hard to break later down the line if they are bad now.

Answer 9

kids are so mean today and what makes the difference if you find out what was said what you should be doing is trying to help your son with a weight program its not good for his health to be overweight at the age of 10 yrs old he shouldnt be that overweight and as an adult think about it you can probably imagine what was said what bothers me is that you seem more concerned about what the kids said to him then his weight problem

Answer 10

ya know i went through this with my step daughter when she was 8 years old she weighed 100 lbs. she has always been on the hefty side ever since I have been around. she was teased alot on the school bus, and also in P.E. class. There was this one time a little boy called her a fat pig and she chased him into the boys bathoom and beat the crap out of him on the floor! she would always come home crying and she would always want to talk about it. after she did she felt better. the kids would call her Mrs. Piggy, Chunky girl, Lardo, and they would make the fat jokes about her, (you know the your so fat.... jokes) the key is to give the child lots of support and let them know that you are there for them. if you can get them to talk about it they will feel better. if you ever want to talk I know how it is feel free to email me any time [e-mail] hope this helps!! good luck!

Answer 11

I'm sure it was hoorible, kids at that age are unbearable. You don't REALLY want to know, it will break your heart...what you REALLY need to concentrate on is fixing your son's health, overweight at 10 is totally unexceptable, and unfortunately not his fault, that burden lies with you, his parents. You have to get his eating habits under control, especially if obesity runs in the family...shut off the TV and tell him to play outside, go for walks, and get rid of the lunchables,kid cuisine and chips that you let him eat....if it's not available he won't eat it...All of this "fast food" microwave crap is killing our kids, do something now, before he is dead in his 30's or developes diabetes as a teen...come on mom you can do it! Best of luck to you and your son